by Katie & Tim Anderson
Baby Mine podcast is a reflection of a playlist curated after the untimely death of our disabled daughter, Kathleen. <br/><br/><a href="https://katietimanderson.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast">katietimanderson.substack.com</a>
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April 4, 2025
<p>Some songs take you places. Although you planned this trip very well, you don’t always know where you are going. “Girl Girl Girl” starts with a little cowboy trot pulling you toward it. This song may contain a secret message, we really aren’t sure but the obscurity is pretty wonderful.</p><p>The song has some connection to the southwest. It’s a theme in our collective lives as Tim is from Arizona and Katie took the kids on a few epic road trips to the valley of the sun. This song sounds like the southwest. The dust jumps off of this record and we even cleaned the record extra!</p><p>The first time Kathleen went to the southwest, everyone worried about her. She had a visual disorder called ocular albinism, which gave her skin a translucent glow bordering on light blue. Also the sunshine made it difficult to see even with the darkest of sunglasses. But there were plenty of swimming pools and her beloved Grandparents. Trips to the Southwest, either to Airzona, or Albuquerque, were some of Kathleen’s favorite times.</p><p>Most of all of our collective desert experiences have been beautiful. Filled with otherworldly scenery and more vitamin d than you can shake a stick at. Still, the southwest is filled with a variety of ways to die, none of them are very pleasant. From falling into canyons, to rattlesnakes, and long stretches of highway with no one in sight, the desert forces us to grapple with the bigger questions of life.</p><p>We thrust ourselves upon nature in unsettling ways. Staying in Scottsdale every year, we see miles of golf courses soaking up water and non-native landscaping so incongruent with the actual landscape. The lack of public transit forces everyone into a car to drive, drive, drive. The air in Phoenix may be full of particulates but it’s hard to tell when you look up at that seemingly clear blue sky.</p><p>“Girl, Girl, Girl” is a comforting sadness, like a cow skull in the desert. We look, we wonder, and we come back again.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://katietimanderson.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1">katietimanderson.substack.com</a>
February 26, 2025
<p>In Ep 4 of Baby Mine, we talk about the David Bowie record Everyone Says Hi from his 2002 album, Heathen. <a target="_blank" href="https://youtu.be/21P_H7XtlGk?si=lgSGQ78r9htUAhgV">Please take a moment to enjoy the pure joy of this live version of “Everyone Says ‘Hi.’” </a></p><p>This record conjures up many subjects, not least of which is Bowie himself. We discuss him less as a musician and more as an Artist. Like our late daughter Kathleen, Bowie made you look at almost everything differently. Regrettably, we went on these mental trips with Bowie much easier. However, it is always good anytime a work of art, or a person, or your pet rabbit can enable you to see things in a different way. It’s not a small gift to broaden someone else’s mind.</p><p>We talk a bit about how travel is a metaphor for death. Grief alone is definitely some sort of trip through unknown and windy roads. Sometimes when we are gone from home or when we are feeling the lowest during our grief, it’s nice to know that someone else is thinking of you, even in the simplest, “everyone says hi.” People would often say it to us when talking about Kathleen…tell her I said hi. And as trite as the sentiment sounds, it may have been the best thing to relay to her. For some people with autism, listening to anyone speak takes a lot of concentration. There was some sort of audio-processing disorder that prevented any sort of fluidity in her hearing. For some reason, it was easier for her to hear when someone was singing. She needed any verbal information provided to her to be direct, simple, and preferably short.</p><p>But what really struck us about this song was the idea of speaking for someone else. Throughout Kathleen’s life, someone (usually Katie) had to interpret the meanings of her rote phrases. She would say things like “Binyah. Binyah, PollyWOG!!” (the name of a character from the TV show Gullah Gullah Island. It would often make people laugh, but that phrase was a clue that she was about to start screaming, or worse. Nobody likes to be misunderstood. It was vital that messages were clarified both from Kathleen and to her.</p><p>We also discuss the general bummer that is the new administration. In this Bowie song, the lyrics “don't stay in a bad place where they don’t care how you are…” rings true for many of our favorite people. The looming cuts to Medicaid, on which so many people with disabilities rely, are truly gutting. Not to mention the very real threat facing our LGBTQ family and friends are under. We’ve heard stories, and it’s not good out there.</p><p>Somehow,</p><p></p><p> we pivot from the disaster of life in the USA to our cats. What can we say but we’ve lost our damn minds. We tell the long and only somewhat interesting story of how we got our latest cat, Squiggy (see cat in his box). His Picture is below. We also have Enid (the tortie) and Mitzi (our black cat who loves her leash). </p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://katietimanderson.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1">katietimanderson.substack.com</a>
February 9, 2025
<p>Baby Mine Ep 3 discusses the bombastic record Pound Cake by Blvck Bvunnie’s Thot Squad. We dig into what this song may be about as well as the caregiving role that Blvck Bunnie has with “Grandma” who features in several of her posts on TikTok and Instagram.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWViInkIAuk"><strong>Listen to Thot Squad's Pound Cake</strong></a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/C0hrCpTg2iL/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA=="><strong>Check out Blvck Bunnie and Grandma on Instagram (now that's what I call caregiving!)</strong></a></p><p>This episode discusses how caregiving involves the most intimate areas of our human experiences. Although we may consider the bathing, grooming, and toileting tasks as the most intimate of caregiving tasks, the act of preparing meals for someone else is equally as sacred. We all have preferences for the way we like our food prepared, from the amount of cream we want in our coffee, to the way we want our sandwiches cut. People who have low support needs may be able to make meals without help, but lots of folks rely on others to make all of their meals. The people making this food aren’t waiters, they are often paid providers just checking duties off of a list. If the caregiver isn’t intimately aware of the tastes of the person they work with, they are likely to put mustard on a sandwich instead of the preferred ketchup and turn lunch into a traumatic experience for everyone.</p><p>Food is our sustenance but it’s so much more. Our daughter Kathleen needed to have her meals and menu written down for the entire week. She would reference her menu frequently throughout the day. Whole days of the week were dedicated to particular items; Monday Fast Food Night, Thursday night Frosties, Friday was Pizza Night. She couldn’t control who was going to make her food, but for her own sanity she needed to know what to expect to eat.</p><p>In addition to yapping about food, Tim brings up the issues involved in caregiving and relationships. As private insurance companies take more control of the types of care available, they are rapidly encouraging AI technologies to assist people in their own homes. A google search for assistive technology will net pages of results for providers and wonderful examples of truly transformative technologies. For people with intellectual disabilities, monitoring systems and call pendants to reach staff that may be working in other locations are very popular. However, as Tim pointed out, caregiving is all about a relationship. Are we serving people well by taking the people out of caregiving? Obviously there is lots of gray area between an iPad and a human staff who dedicates their entire life to another human. What we can expect of a human caregiver and what we can expect from an electronic device as a caregiver covers a lot of ethical ground. We look forward to exploring this theme as we go forward with the podcast.</p><p>Wrapping up with something stupid, we chat a bit about David Lynch and how his movies have brought us together to the BIG screen as Dir. Lynch would have wanted. We also reminisce about the improbable connection we have with the 2001 Comedy Central TV game show, Beat the Geeks. What can we say except we live a charmed life. Oh, and always get to know the projectionist!</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://katietimanderson.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1">katietimanderson.substack.com</a>
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