“Welcome to Be Who They Come To, where healing meets humor and spirit meets story. We’re Oriana and Kelly — two friends who’ve stumbled, laughed, cried, and somehow found our way back to Source. This podcast is our space to share the messy, magical journey of recovery, healing, and rediscovering ourselves… with plenty of laughter along the way. Because sometimes the best medicine really is a mix of soul work and a good sense of humor.”
Be who they come to when the noise gets too loud, the world too heavy, and they remember who brings them peace.
In a culture that often confuses intensity with connection, this episode explores the quiet but powerful difference between intimacy and intensity. We unpack how emotional highs, passion, and urgency can feel like closeness, while true intimacy is built through safety, consistency, and presence. Whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or with yourself, this conversation invites you to slow down, listen deeper, and redefine what real connection actually feels like.
23 Dec 2025
Detachment-Learning to "Let Them"
Detachment isn’t about not caring—it’s about caring without losing yourself. In this episode, we explore what it really means to let go: of expectations, outcomes, and versions of people we can’t control. Through gentle reflection, we talk about how detachment can create peace, clarity, and emotional freedom, even when it feels uncomfortable. If you’re learning how to release what no longer serves you, this conversation is for you.
Also available on Amazon, YouTube, and IHeartRadio
https://youtu.be/r0Des0JPW1Q
2 Dec 2025
Change - with Special Guest John Mielke
Change is inevitable - but why does it feel so hard to embrace? In this episode, we explore the psychology, emotions, and opportunities wrapped inside life’s biggest transitions. From personal reinventions to unexpected detours, we break down what happens in the mind and body when everything around us begins to shift.
You’ll hear a real story of transformation, practical strategies for navigating the unknown, and insights from experts on how to turn discomfort into growth. Whether you’re starting something new, ending something old, or simply stuck in the messy middle, this conversation will help you see change not as a threat, but as an invitation.
20 Nov 2025
Co-Dependency
In this episode, we dive deep into the complex world of dependency—emotional, psychological, and even practical. Why do humans naturally rely on others? When does healthy interdependence shift into unhealthy dependence? And how can we recognize the patterns that keep us stuck?
Through real-world examples, and honest reflection, we explore the roots of dependency, the fears that fuel it, and the steps we can take to build more balanced, resilient relationships. Whether you’re struggling with codependency, confronting your own patterns of avoidance, or simply curious about the science behind human connection, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.
Join us for a thoughtful conversation about vulnerability, autonomy, boundaries—and the courage it takes to stand on your own without standing alone.
11 Nov 2025
The Announcement of Ottawa Phoenix House
https://youtu.be/hhNn4gyMZfw (https://youtu.be/hhNn4gyMZfw)
In todays episode we introduce our new organization, Ottawa Phoenix House.
Ottawa Phoenix House is a trauma-informed non-profit organization, dedicated to supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and psychological trauma. Our mission is to provide validation, accessible evidence-informed, and person-centered supports that foster safety, empowerment, and long-term recovery. Through counselling, peer support, and education, we aim to restore self-agency, promote emotional resilience, and assist survivors in rebuilding their lives free from the impacts of manipulation and control.
If you or anyone you know is in an narcissistically abusive relationship please reach out to us at ottawaphoenixhouse@gmail.com or visit us at www.ottawaphoenixhouse.com. We hear you, we see you.
We are also on YouTube, IHeartRadio, Amazon (Alexa), and www.BlastTheRadio.com
6 Nov 2025
Grief, Loss, and New Beginnings
Grief reshapes us—it changes how we see the world, ourselves, and the people around us. In this heartfelt episode, we explore the journey through loss and the slow, often unexpected emergence of new beginnings. From the heaviness of saying goodbye to the quiet moments where healing begins to take root, we talk about what it means to live fully after loss.
You’ll hear personal stories, gentle reflections, and practical insights on how to navigate the waves of grief with compassion and courage. Whether you’re in the midst of loss or walking alongside someone who is, this episode is an invitation to honor what’s been lost while opening space for what’s next.
Also available on YouTube, Amazon, I Heart Radio, and www.Blasttheradio.comhttps://youtu.be/jwGFFh2k4U8
23 Oct 2025
Boundaries Part 2: Love, Respect, and the power of No
In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most transformative acts of self-love: setting boundaries. Saying “no” isn’t about rejection—it’s about protection. We explore how healthy limits create space for genuine connection, mutual respect, and emotional freedom.
Join us as we unpack:
💬 Why “no” is one of the most loving words you can say
💞 How boundaries strengthen—not weaken—your relationships
🧠 The difference between selfishness and self-respect
⚡ Practical ways to honor your limits without guilt
If you’ve ever struggled to speak up for yourself or feared losing love by setting boundaries, this conversation will remind you that love without respect isn’t love at all—and that every “no” you say makes room for a more authentic “yes.”
11 Oct 2025
Social Media Boundaries
In a world where scrolling never stops and sharing is second nature, Offline Is the New Luxury explores the importance of setting healthy boundaries with social media. Join us as we unpack the psychological effects of constant connectivity, discuss real-life digital detox journeys, and share practical tips for reclaiming your time, privacy, and peace of mind. Whether you're a creator, consumer, or somewhere in between, this podcast will help you navigate the blurred lines between your online and offline life—with intention and clarity.
https://youtu.be/Y_7bc-7aRKE?si=drmAstEaxVho-_O4
4 Oct 2025
Authenticity - Show Up As Yourself
In a world where highlight reels dominate our screens, what does it really mean to be authentic? In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of authenticity - what it is, why it matters, and how to live it out in our everyday lives. Whether you're struggling to show up as your true self or simply curious about how authenticity impacts relationships, career, and self-worth, this conversation is for you.
Join us as we explore personal stories, psychological insights, and practical tools to help you break free from perfectionism, connect more deeply with others, and build a life that feels aligned from the inside out.
Because the most powerful version of you... is the real one.
Watch us on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/rfJCIaAIw2o?si=0ISc2Jhe-fn40Zzi
28 Sept 2025
Part 2: From Struggle to Strength - A Glimpse at Recovery
In this episode of From Struggle to Strength, we dive into the early stages of recovery—what it really looks like, feels like, and how it challenges everything you thought you knew. Through raw personal stories and honest reflections, we explore the turning points, setbacks, and small wins that shape the path to healing. Whether you’re just starting your journey or supporting someone who is, this episode offers insight, hope, and a reminder that recovery isn’t a straight line—but every step forward counts.
23 Sept 2025
Part 1: Becoming Whole-Recovery and Healing
In this powerful episode, we explore what it truly means to become whole after life’s disruptions—whether from trauma, addiction, heartbreak, or burnout. This conversation dives deep into the process of healing, self-reconnection, and the long road of recovery—not just physically or emotionally, but spiritually and mentally too.
20 Sept 2025
Responsibility vs. Accountability with Special Guest
What’s the difference between saying you’ll do something and truly owning your actions? In this episode, we explore how emotional and behavioral accountability go beyond responsibility—and why that shift matters in relationships, growth, and healing.
Let’s talk about showing up, owning up, and doing better.
15 Sept 2025
When There's No Hope, There is Still Hope
In this honest and emotional podcast episode, we open up about what it means to feel completely hopeless—and why even in those moments, there’s still a reason to stay.
We talk about:
The reality of suicidal thoughts and what they can feel like
How to support someone who may be struggling
Why asking for help is a sign of strength
Personal reflections on pain, healing, and holding on
Suicide prevention tips and real-life resources
If you or someone you love is struggling, this conversation is for you. You are not alone—and your story isn’t over yet.
You are not alone. Help is available 24/7.
📞 Canada: Call or text 988
📞 USA: Call or text 988
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This episode contains discussions of suicide and mental health struggles. Please take care while watching.
13 Sept 2025
Can You Turn The Light On?
In today’s episode of "Can you turn the light on?", we dive into the heart of what it means to ask for help when you’re walking through a darkness. Whether you're struggling with mental health challenges, emotional turbulence, or spiritual disconnection, we often find ourselves at a crossroads where we need a guiding hand to lead us back to the light.
In this raw and vulnerable conversation, we explore the importance of reaching out, even when it feels like you're too far gone to be saved. How do we ask for help without feeling weak? How can we trust others to show us the light when we’re surrounded by darkness?
We’ll discuss the power of vulnerability in healing, the role of community in recovery, and how spirituality can serve as a beacon during our darkest times. We also touch on practical tools for finding peace in the midst of chaos - because recovery is a journey, not a destination.
If you’re in a space where you’re looking for a way out of the shadows, this episode is for you. Together, we’ll explore how to rediscover hope, rebuild your inner strength, and remember that even in your lowest points, there’s always a path toward healing.
Tune in for a conversation that’s both comforting and empowering, filled with stories, insights, and reminders that you're never alone on this journey.
Namaste
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