"36 years of rules ends now. Welcome to Why the F$&#@ Not!!—an unhinged journey into the mind of Nova Valentine. We’re talking professional life, rocker-chic reality, and the 'real truths' that happen when you stop asking for a seat at the table and build your own. It’s loud, it’s messy, and it’s finally here."
Join the chaos on Instagram: @NovaValentineWTF"
In this raw and unfiltered episode, I pull back the curtain on a grueling week of professional uncertainty.
After 9.5 years with the same company, my job security hanging in the balance due to a poorly managed transition from the production floor to an office role.
Between the lack of adequate training, inconsistent feedback, and an unhelpful HR department, Nova details the intense stress, physical anxiety, and frustration of feeling trapped in a "improvement plan" that feels more like a game than a path to success.
In this episode, we dive into:
The Struggle: Why waiting weeks for feedback on mistakes makes it impossible to learn or correct course.
The Breaking Point: The mental and physical toll of job instability and the feeling of being "watched while squirming."
The Realization: Why fighting to stay in a position where you aren't valued—at a company that ignores its experienced staff—might actually be a battle not worth winning.
Moving Forward: Balancing the immediate need for a paycheck with the search for a new start, and finally finding some peace in the "unknown."
I open up about the harsh reality of adulting—the need to pay bills, support your family, and being done with "bend over and take it"—while maintaining a sliver of hope that this hellish week is just the catalyst for a better path forward.
10 Jun 2026
Episode 6: I used to know myself
You don’t have to lose yourself to be a parent. You just have to be willing to let the old versions of yourself go so the new, stronger version can show up.
We think we know it all at 18. We have a plan. It’s all mapped out. Then you get 2 kids before you’re 25, and life punches you in the mouth. This week, I'm talking about the lie of the 'cookie-cutter mom' mold. I tried to fit it. All it did was make me feel like I was erasing my own soul.
You can say 'fuck you' and still be a good parent. Trust your gut. Intuition is telling you that you’re right, but you just don’t fucking listen.
4 Jun 2026
Episode 5: The Wine Mom VS The Weed Mom
Society loves to applaud the "Wine Mom" for surviving her day with a bottle of Chardonnay🍷, but god forbid a mom reaches for a joint💨—then it’s suddenly a scandal.
🙄 I’ve been both, I’ve felt the judgment, and the shame.
Now I’m officially done playing that game.
I’ve picked my team and I’ am glad I made that choice. I feel better now.
I’ll get into today on Episode 5 💨💀🍷
27 May 2026
Episode 4: Ride or die Defense
In this episode, I’m breaking down the corporate hypocrisy of demanding "authenticity" until someone actually speaks their mind, and why firing a high-performing asset over an f-bomb is just bad business.
But this isn't a pity party; it's a manifesto on loyalty. I’m diving into my 11-year relationship with my "ride or die" husband, tackling the critics who don't get his bluntness, and sharing the ultimate cosmic comeback: how he went from unemployed to landing the absolute best job of his career in less than two weeks.
Unapologetic. Unhinged. Unemployed (for now), but never fucking defeated.
P.S. If you want to hear from the man himself—assuming I can get him to stop talking long enough to ask a question—let me know, and I’ll bring him on for Part 2.
20 May 2026
Episode 3: "Parenting My Own Reflections (And It’s Pissing Me the fuck Off)"
If parenthood is a journey of self-discovery, then today’s episode is the chapter where we want to throw the map out the window. We're talking about that specific, unique frustration that happens when your child mirrors your own personality quirks, flaws, and coping mechanisms right back at you. It turns out, parenting isn't just about teaching them—it's about fixing us.
Tune in as we laugh, vent, and figure out how to parent our kids (and ourselves) without losing our sanity in the process.
Don't forget to rate, review, and share this episode with a parent who needs to know they aren't alone!
13 May 2026
Episode 2: Grieving the living Part 2
"God forgives. I don’t have to." In the conclusion of this series, we’re honoring the parent who actually stayed and cutting the cord on the "egg donor" who didn't.
From the reality of being raised by a single father to the "mind shift" of realizing you owe toxic family nothing, this episode is a raw look at choosing your own peace. I’m diving into why I’m proud to be the "unladylike" version of my dad, the insult of the "half-sibling" label, and why blood doesn't make you family—showing up does.
Highlights:
The Permission: Why you don't have to forgive to move on.
The Blueprint: How a man’s perspective shaped the parent I am today.
Chosen Moms: Shouting out the women who stepped in when it mattered.
Final Ties: Why I'm done giving my energy to people who don't deserve it.
Peace out. See you next Wednesday.
6 May 2026
Grieving the Living Part 1
How do you move forward when your history keeps trying to pull you back? I dive into the first half of my most personal series yet. This episode tracks the journey from a fractured childhood to the defining moment in a jail visitor room that changed my perspective on motherhood and boundaries forever.
Key Discussion Points:
The impact of maternal narcissism and long-term neglect.
The "point of no return" that led to a life of no-contact.
Why being a "cycle breaker" is a daily choice, not a one-time event.
Stay tuned for Part 2 as we continue to dismantle the myths of "unconditional" family ties
29 Apr 2026
Episode 1 Why the fuck not! The Manifesto!
In episode 1 , I am set the stage for an unapologetic and unhinged journey. I am officially declared that at 36 years old and two and a half years sober, I am done asking for permission and playing by the rules. I am unfiltered and have unhinged thoughts and I am cool with being that person and that kind of parent. If that's vibe then Why the Fuck not, stay tuned this is just the beginning.
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17 Feb 2026
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5 Oct 2022
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