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- 2026
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About I’m the Xaddy
I’m non-binary, my partner is pansexual, and we are having a baby. Join me as I navigate what it means to be a non-binary parent, experiencing all the emotions, the endless to-do lists, and the bizarre yet beautiful world of making a baby and raising a human. Expect ramblings, tears, and heartwarming moments as I share my experience with you from conception to birth and beyond.
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- en
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- First episode
- 27 May 2026
- Latest episode
- 26 Aug 2026
Latest episodes
15 episodes in the feed.
26 Aug 2026
A pause for birth....(the baby and ours)
I’m the Xaddy is taking a short pause while we welcome our baby into the world. 🖤 When Season 2 returns, we’ll be talking about becoming a parent, the first 40 days, diblings, identity after birth and everything we’re learning along the way. Season 2 will bring new episodes every two weeks. For now, thank you for being here. See you on the other side. 🖤
19 Aug 2026
Life-changing… and somehow the same every day
Pregnancy is life-changing. But most days, it can also feel incredibly mundane. In this episode, I talk about the mental load of late pregnancy, monitoring movements, blood sugars, food, appointments, symptoms and everything else my brain has decided needs tracking. I reflect on becoming more attuned to my body and our baby, preparing for birth, collecting colostrum and the strange reality of growing an entire human while still carrying on with everyday life. But the biggest surprise has been my relationship with gender. I expected pregnancy to feel more feminine. Instead, it has felt more human. As a non-binary person, I’ve experienced the shared physical reality of pregnancy without necessarily feeling a shared identity with other pregnant people. I talk about what that has taught me about my body, femininity and who I am. I also share two very different experiences within maternity care, feeling like a number during a consultant appointment, and then feeling genuinely seen by midwives who had been learning about trans and non-binary visibility. And now, as my pregnancy comes towards its end, we’re about to become the representation we once wished we’d seen ourselves. Birth is next.
5 Aug 2026
The second trimester isn't what you think it is
Everyone says the second trimester is the easy part of pregnancy... but nobody warned me about this. In this episode, I look back on everything that happened during my second trimester as a non-binary parent-to-be, from baby kicks and anatomy scans to changing body image and preparing for parenthood. Plus, my wife joins me to answer questions about pregnancy and becoming parents together. Funny, honest and full of the moments nobody talks about.
29 Jul 2026
Spaces that weren't made for me
What happens when you’re pregnant, but the world keeps assuming you’re someone you’re not? In this episode of I’m the Xaddy, I share the emotional reality of navigating pregnancy as a non-binary birth parent. From gendered NHS forms and antenatal appointments to pregnancy books, apps and social media, this episode explores the invisible labour of constantly translating information that wasn’t written with you in mind. A thoughtful conversation about identity, inclusion, belonging and what small language changes could mean for LGBTQ+ parents and birth parents everywhere.
22 Jul 2026
The Strange Space Between Pregnancy And Parenthood
obody Talks About The In-Between Stage What does it feel like to become a parent before you’ve even met your baby? In this episode of I’m the Xaddy, I share my experience of non-binary pregnancy, being diagnosed with gestational diabetes, and navigating the emotional changes that come before birth. I talk about the reality of being a non-binary pregnant person, preparing for parenthood and changing identity, grieving the life you’re leaving behind, feeling caught between who you were and who you’re becoming and finding your place in a pregnancy world that doesn’t always feel inclusive. Pregnancy isn’t just about growing a baby. It’s also about growing into yourself as a parent.
1 Jul 2026
A short update - I am taking a 2 week break but why?
After a challenging couple of weeks at nearly 33 weeks pregnant, I’m taking a short two-week break to rest and recharge. Pregnancy, the heat, and a busy schedule of appointments have finally convinced me to listen to my body. I’ll be back on 15th July with a new episode exploring the emotional ”in-between” stage of pregnancy—when you don’t quite feel like yourself anymore, but don’t quite feel like a parent yet. Thanks for being here. Stay hydrated, be kind to yourself, and I’ll speak to you soon.
24 Jun 2026
Periods, Pubes and Pit-stains
Periods. Pubes. Pit-stains. They’re all completely normal, yet so many of us are taught to hide them. In this episode of I’m the Xaddy, I unpack the shame surrounding menstruation, body hair, and sweat while reflecting on my experience as a non-binary person going through fertility treatment and pregnancy. From menstrual cups and failed fertility cycles to hairy legs, impossible beauty standards, and running permanently hot while pregnant, this is a conversation about what happens when you stop performing for other people’s expectations and start accepting your body for what it is: human. If you’ve ever questioned body image, gender roles, pregnancy, or why we’re taught to apologise for perfectly normal bodily functions, this episode is for you.
17 Jun 2026
What the First Trimester Really Feels Like | Non-Binary Pregnancy, Symptoms & Anxiety | Featuring my partner
In Episode 8 of I’m the Xaddy, I share the reality of non-binary pregnancy during those uncertain first 12 weeks, from exhaustion, strange symptoms and anxiety to navigating gender identity inside a healthcare system that often assumes pregnancy is a binary experience. My partner also shares their perspective, giving an honest insight into supporting a pregnant partner, preparing for parenthood, and experiencing early pregnancy together. If you’re searching for real conversations about first-trimester symptoms, LGBTQ+ families, pregnancy after fertility treatment, or non-binary parenthood, this episode is for you.
10 Jun 2026
The invisible labour of advocacy
In this episode, I explore what it’s like to navigate pregnancy as a non-binary person within NHS maternity care. From gendered language and outdated forms to assumptions about parents, partners, and family structures, I share the realities of pregnancy when healthcare systems are not designed with non-binary, transgender, and LGBTQ+ parents in mind. We discuss inclusive maternity care, non-binary pregnancy experiences, NHS healthcare, fertility treatment, donor conception, pregnancy appointments, parental leave, and the importance of recognising diverse family structures. This episode highlights how language, policies, and healthcare systems can impact the well-being of queer families and offers insight into creating more inclusive care for non-binary and transgender parents. Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, expecting a baby, working in healthcare, or interested in equality and inclusion in maternity services, this episode provides an honest look at pregnancy, parenthood, and being seen in healthcare.
3 Jun 2026
The gap between knowing and naming
In this episode, I explore whether I always knew I was non-binary, or if the signs only made sense in hindsight. A reflective and honest look at identity, childhood experiences, and the journey of unlearning gender expectations.
27 May 2026
The Hormones, the deBRAcle and changing my name
In this episode, I talk about the ways pregnancy and fertility treatment have changed not just my body, but my sense of identity, visibility, and how I move through the world as a non-binary person. I open up about the intensity of fertility hormones and what it felt like to suddenly experience emotions, mood swings, and bodily changes in a way that genuinely reminded me of puberty for the first time. From hormone injections and progesterone pessaries to feeling hyper-aware of my body and how other people perceived me, this episode explores the complicated relationship between pregnancy, gender, and visibility. I also share the unexpectedly emotional experience of trying to find bras that actually worked for my changing body after years of wearing binder-style bras, including a deeply uncomfortable trip to Primark that forced me to confront feelings I hadn’t fully unpacked before. And finally, I talk about the decision to legally change my name before giving birth, why it mattered so much to me, how pregnancy made identity feel more public and official, and why I wanted to enter parenthood as the version of myself that truly felt right. This episode is about identity, control, dysphoria, visibility, and learning how to stay connected to yourself while your body and the way the world sees you changes around you.
27 May 2026
The 13 week scan, the cravings and taking sick leave
In this episode, I talk about the point where pregnancy finally started to feel real, the 13-week scan, the strange intensity of cravings, and the reality of reaching a point where I had to stop and take care of myself. I share what it felt like seeing our tiny person for the first time, watching them move on the screen at just 6.5cm long, and how that moment quietly shifted something in me emotionally after months of fertility treatment, waiting, and uncertainty. I also open up about the surreal world of pregnancy cravings, from sour snakes and Jaffa Cakes to oranges, olives, mozzarella, swiss roll and custard and what it felt like to suddenly realise my body was making decisions before my brain could catch up. And finally, I talk honestly about becoming unwell during pregnancy, the emotional difficulty of taking nearly three weeks off work, and learning that sometimes rest isn’t weakness, it’s necessary. This episode is about letting go of control, listening to your body, and realising that pregnancy isn’t just physical, it changes the way you think, feel, and exist in the world around you.
27 May 2026
Picking a donor & getting pregnant
In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest and strangest parts of the fertility journey, choosing a donor, starting IUI treatment, and what it actually took for us to finally get pregnant. I share what the donor selection process really looked like behind the scenes, from reading letters and hearing donor voice notes to navigating the emotional weight of choosing someone who will always be part of our future child’s story. I also open up about moving forward with IUI as a non-binary person: the scans, hormone injections, trigger shots, pessaries, ovulation tracking, and the complicated relationship between fertility treatment, gender, and identity. After six rounds of IUI, countless appointments, negative tests, medication, stress, and emotional exhaustion, this episode follows the reality of trying to conceive when hope and heartbreak start living side by side. And finally, the moment everything changed: the positive test that made all of it feel real.
27 May 2026
Growing our non traditional family
In this episode, I talk about the moment our journey into parenthood became real, exploring fertility treatment, navigating testing, and deciding who would carry our child. I share why we chose IUI as our starting point, what the fertility testing process actually looks like, and how quickly assumptions about our bodies and future were replaced with very real questions. I also open up about what it meant for me, as a non-binary person, to suddenly become the one carrying. From internal scans and Hycosy testing to unpacking complicated feelings around gender, pregnancy, and identity, this episode explores the emotional shift from supporting the journey… to being at the centre of it. This episode is about uncertainty, adaptation, and learning that something can feel complicated without feeling wrong.
27 May 2026
Becoming a parent while non-binary
Welcome to the very first episode of I’m the Xaddy. In this episode, I talk about why we decided to become parents, what this journey has already meant to us, and why I felt the need to start this podcast in the first place. I also explain the meaning behind “Xaddy”, the name, the identity behind it, and why traditional parenting labels never quite fit. This episode is really the beginning of everything: fertility, identity, visibility, and documenting what it’s actually like to experience pregnancy and parenthood as a non-binary person in real time.
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