Who Am I To..?

About Who Am I To..?

Who Am I To? is the podcast for millennial women navigating change, new chapters and the questions, doubt, fear, and possibility that come with them. Whether you're starting over, pursuing a dream or feeling the pull towards something different, host Gemma Anne Barnes explores the emotional reality of change through honest conversations, personal stories and the questions we don't always say out loud. This isn't about having all the answers. It's about feeling less alone as you figure things out. Every episode helps you feel seen, understood and a little more certain about your next step.

Publisher

Gemma Anne Barnes

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

22 Oct 2026

Latest episode

12 Nov 2026

Latest episodes

6 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   12 Nov 2026

   Who Am I To Want More?

   Season 1, Episode 6: Who Am I To Want More? Is it selfish to want more? We’re led to believe we should be grateful and happy with what we have. But what if you can be fully grateful and wildly ambitious at the same time? This one’s just you and me. I talk about the questions so many of us keep to ourselves: how can I still want more when I’ve already done so much, and why does it feel so hard to say it out loud? Maybe you’ve thought: “I have a good life. So why do I still want more?” “I should just be grateful. Does wanting more make me greedy?” “Why does saying ‘I want more’ out loud feel so uncomfortable?” “Do I really have to pick between being grateful and being ambitious?” “What if the dream I worked so hard for now just feels almost normal?” “What if wanting more doesn’t discredit how far I’ve come? What if it’s simply me evolving?” I share what it was like to leave a life that looked like it had everything, the day my dream job started to feel like just another day, and why I think wanting more can be a way of honouring the dream and the big dreamer inside of us all. Your turn: What’s the “more” you’ve been keeping to yourself? Come and tell me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes (https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes) If you’d like to keep hearing the things no one says out loud, follow the show wherever you’re listening or watching, and I’ll see you in the next episode.

2. 

   4 Nov 2026

   I Thought I'd Be Further Along By Now

   Season 1, Episode 5: I Thought I’d Be Further Along By Now We’re told that if we dream big, commit and work hard, it all works out. But what happens when you get the thing you dreamed of, and one day you look around and think: I genuinely thought I’d be further along by now? This one’s just us. I talk about the gap between the picture in your head and the life you’re actually living, and why that gap can feel so lonely even when you’re grateful for what you have. Maybe you’ve thought something like this: “I did everything right. So why isn’t it working?” “I’m living the life I dreamed of. Why do I feel so empty?” “I chose this. Why am I still struggling? Does that make me ungrateful?” “I got what I wanted and now I want something else. Do I even know what I want?” “I’m the one who always makes things happen. How can I be the one who doesn’t know what’s next?” What if you don’t need "fixing", just a little possibility? I share the formula I followed for most of my life, the audition I went back to seven times, and the day on my sofa when none of it was working. I also share the two words I promised you back in the first episode, the ones that got me through. Your turn: If you were watching a movie of your life right now, what would you be shouting at the screen? Come and tell me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes (https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes) And if there’s someone who’s gone a little quiet lately, maybe send her this one. If you’d like to keep hearing the things no one says out loud, follow the show wherever you’re listening or watching, and I’ll see you in the next episode.

3. 

   28 Oct 2026

   Who Am I To Miss My Old Life?

   Season 1, Episode 4: Who Am I To Miss My Old Life? What happens when you get the thing you wanted and you still miss the thing you left behind? Why do I miss my old life when I’m the one who chose this? This one’s just us. I talk about the conversation I almost never hear people having: how you can feel joy, calm and gratitude in your new chapter and still grieve the one before it, and why you don’t have to decide which feeling is the “true” one. Maybe you’ve thought something like this: “I love my life here. So why does missing my old one hurt this much?” “I chose this. Does missing it mean I made a mistake?” “Maybe it’s not the life I miss, maybe it’s who I was in it. Is that a thing?” “I feel calm and restless at the same time. How is that possible?” “I can’t go back to who I was, but I don’t know who I am yet. Now what?” “What if missing it just means it mattered?” I share the seesaw I’ve been balancing since moving to Australia: the pure joy of mornings by the ocean, the quiet moments when I missed the non-stop, and the year I felt like I had one foot in each life. Your turn: Is there something you chose to leave that you still miss? A place, a person, a job, a version of you? Come and tell me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes (https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes) (@gemmaannebarnes) If you’d like to keep hearing the things no one says out loud, follow the show wherever you’re listening or watching, and I’ll see you in the next episode.

4. 

   22 Oct 2026

   Am I Brave Enough?

   Season 1, Episode 3: Am I Brave Enough? Who am I to decide that this season of my life is coming to an end? And what if you could close one chapter without knowing exactly what comes next? Pull up a chair. I sit down with Clare Garner, who moved herself and her two daughters to Egypt in a matter of days, and we talk about the dreams we outgrow, the thoughts we don’t say out loud, and why the moments that feel the most alone can be the ones that connect us. Maybe you’ve thought: “I’ve been saying I want this for years. So why haven’t I done it yet?” “Does a dream have to last forever, or can a chapter just feel complete?” “I made the decision. So why am I suddenly asking what on earth I’ve done?” “Everyone else seems to have it figured out. Am I the only one who doesn’t?” “What if nothing’s permanent, and I’m allowed to try it and change my mind?” “I’m feeling so much right now and I don’t know where to put it. What if I let it out?” Clare shares how a one-month trip turned into a new life, and I open up about starting again in Australia and what was really happening for me in that first year. Your turn: Is there a chapter you’ve wondered might be complete? Or a “someday” you keep coming back to? Come and tell me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes (https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes) (@gemmaannebarnes) Connect with Clare: On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claregarnerofficial/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/claregarnerofficial/?hl=en) Listen to the Raw and Real podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ZrQrIYQupncln8U4dGSW2?si=33f04b66af2a4781 (https://open.spotify.com/show/6ZrQrIYQupncln8U4dGSW2?si=33f04b66af2a4781) If you’d like to keep hearing the things no one says out loud, follow the show wherever you’re listening or watching, and I’ll see you in the next episode.

5. 

   22 Oct 2026

   Am I The Only One?

   Season 1, Episode 2: Am I The Only One? Have you ever had one of those moments where you look around and everyone else seems to be coping? And you think: surely I’m not the only one going through this. In this episode, we talk about the quiet aftermath of change, and what happens when we start treating our own thoughts like evidence that we’re the only one feeling this way. Maybe you’ve thought: “Everyone else seems to be coping. Why am I still finding this so hard?” “I thought I’d feel differently by now. Why don’t I?” “People keep saying time heals everything. But how much time, exactly?” “Why am I excited and terrified at the same time? Are those two really meant to go together?” “If I’m questioning my choice, does that mean I regret it?” “What if the conversation running in my head at 2am is running in someone else’s head too?” I share what those early mornings felt like: grateful, lost, excited and overwhelmed, all before I’d finished my breakfast. And I leave you with the question I’ll be asking every guest on the show. Your turn: What’s the question you’ve been asking yourself? What’s the thought that’s been on repeat? And if someone was standing at the edge of a new chapter, what would you want them to know? Come and tell me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes (https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes) (@gemmaannebarnes). If you’d like to keep hearing the things no one says out loud, follow the show wherever you’re listening or watching, and I’ll see you in the next episode.

6. 

   22 Oct 2026

   Who Am I To Do This?

   Season 1, Episode 1: Who Am I To Do This? We’ve been told the hardest part of change is making the decision. But what if it isn’t? And what if “Who am I to do this?” isn’t a stop sign at all? In this first episode, I introduce the show and the question so many of us ask but rarely say out loud, whether you’re standing at the edge of change, in the messy middle, or sitting in the quiet aftermath. Maybe you’ve thought : “I wanted this. So why do I feel so lost now that I’ve got it?” “Does asking ‘who am I to?’ actually mean I’ve made the wrong choice?” “I miss what I left behind. Does that mean I shouldn’t have left?” “Why do I feel joy and grief at the same time? Is that even allowed?” “What if I’m not behind or getting it wrong, and I’m just standing somewhere new?” “What if the doubt and the courage were always travelling together?” I share my own version of these moments, from stepping away from a career I loved to sitting on my living room sofa in Australia, wondering if I’d made a huge mistake. Your turn: What’s the question you’ve been asking yourself? What’s the thought that’s been on repeat? Come and tell me on Instagram: instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes (https://www.instagram.com/gemmaannebarnes)(@gemmaannebarnes). If you’d like to keep hearing the things no one says out loud, follow the show wherever you’re listening or watching, and I’ll see you in the next episode.