A Year to Understand Yourself

About A Year to Understand Yourself

A Year to Understand Yourself delivers clear explanations of why your twenties feel like a maze and leaves you understanding yourself a little better. Hi, I'm Louis Dockers. I’m the voice that sits across from you when a question nags at night. I started this show because I kept wondering why so many of our choices in our twenties feel inevitable and yet surprising. Each episode I unpack the science behind a feeling or habit, speaking plainly, mapping research onto everyday moments, and closing with a thought that lingers. I explore relationships, work, money, mental health, friendship, and everything that makes growing up both thrilling and exhausting. You probably scroll, overthink, and say “I’ll fix it later” without knowing why. New episodes come out every Thursday and Sunday at 4:00 AM, each one named like a small psychological mirror. This show is for restless twenty-somethings, new graduates finding their feet, and anyone trying to make sense of messy friendships. If you want to understand a particular knot in your life, this is your place. Follow along and think of the show as a lamp you switch on to see the shapes of what you feel.

Publisher

ABSX Network

Category

arts · education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

10 Oct 2026

Latest episode

3 Nov 2026

Latest episodes

28 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   3 Nov 2026

   Six First Impression Lessons Your Younger Self Needed

   You've probably spent more time replaying a first impression than the other person spent thinking about it at all. First impressions are real, studied, and woven into almost every new relationship, opportunity, and room you walk into. What would you do differently if you already knew the outcome didn't depend on being impressive? Most of what you were taught about making a good impression might be aimed at exactly the wrong target. This episode works through six lessons grounded in social psychology and real experience, from what happens before you say a single word, to why trying to seem impressive so often backfires, to how people actually remember encounters and what that means for how you show up. The research behind thin slicing, warmth signals, the liking gap, and the spotlight effect shapes the conversation, without any tidy answers. What you come away with is a quieter, more honest way of thinking about the moments that used to make you spiral. What would you do differently in the next first impression if you already knew the outcome didn't depend on being impressive? Follow along for more conversations like this one. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

2. 

   31 Oct 2026

   Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: The Real Science of Discipline

   You know what you want to do. You just can't seem to make yourself do it consistently, and you've probably wondered more than once whether something is wrong with you. This episode is about the motivation-action gap, the well-documented distance between intention and behavior, and why the way most people think about discipline is making the problem worse. If motivation is unreliable and willpower runs out, what actually keeps a person going on the days they feel nothing? The answer might be the opposite of what you've been told. The episode explores where the gap shows up in real life, five signs you're living inside it, where it comes from in the brain and in culture, and what it quietly costs over time. It also gets into the psychology of why the gap starts to feel like a character flaw rather than a solvable problem, and four concrete approaches that research suggests actually work. The evidence draws on decades of behavioral and motivational science, translated into what it looks like on an ordinary Tuesday morning. What you take away isn't a new system. It's a different relationship with the days you don't feel like it. If this episode raises a question you want to sit with, share it with someone who's been waiting to feel ready. Follow along for more. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

3. 

   27 Oct 2026

   Six Things About Breakups Nobody Tells You Until It's Too Late

   You've done everything people told you to do after a breakup, and somehow you still feel like you're failing at it. Getting over someone isn't a straight line, and most of the advice out there misses the part that actually matters. If you already knew what you know now, what would you have done differently, and does that change anything you do right now? The gap between common wisdom and what actually helps is wider than most people realize. This episode explores why grief and love can exist at the same time without meaning you made the wrong call, what it really means to move on when the person you were before no longer exists, and why staying busy can work against you in ways that don't show up until much later. It also looks at how the story you tell about a relationship shapes recovery more than how long the relationship lasted, and why comparing your internal timeline to someone else's external performance is a category error worth dropping. Research on attachment, narrative identity, emotional suppression and social comparison shapes the conversation throughout. What you come away with isn't a formula, it's a different way of being with the hard part so you stop fighting it twice. What would you have done differently if you'd known this sooner? Follow along for more episodes like this one. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

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