Daily doses of life advice from your favourite disaster gay uncle. Sebastian Sterling, a 38-year-old British former West End dancer, delivers harsh truths wrapped in humor and genuine care. New episodes every morning at 7 AM GMT. Submit your questions at loudandfound.com/sebastian
Sebastian advises a listener dealing with an unexpected engagement proposal made in his sleep with a Haribo ring, offering guidance on navigating the awkward situation.
28 Jun 2025
#15 Paralysed by the Pressure of a 'Perfect' Sunday?
Sebastian helps a listener overcome the pressure of a perfect Sunday reset by finding a kinder, more realistic approach to relaxation in this fictional interview.
27 Jun 2025
#14 Failing the Gender Test You Didn't Know You Were Taking?
Sebastian explores the myth of a 'correct' way to express gender, tackling imposter syndrome and affirming that there is no single standard for non-binary identity.
26 Jun 2025
#13 When Your Wardrobe is a Shrine to Your Failures
Sebastian helps a listener confront her past through her wardrobe, encouraging her to embrace her true self by releasing clothes that represent past failures in this fictional podcast.
25 Jun 2025
#12 When Self-Improvement Turns You Into a Sociopath
Sebastian helps a listener rediscover joy after their self-improvement journey transforms them into a joyless robot, offering insights on ditching rigid routines and embracing fun; this is a fictional interview.
24 Jun 2025
#11 My Uncle Claims My Cat Lacks Mental Capacity
Sebastian advises a listener navigating family disputes over a cat's inheritance, emphasizing the importance of establishing clear boundaries to protect the feline's fortune.
23 Jun 2025
#10 My Promotion Is a High-Paying, Soul-Crushing Lie
Sebastian Maniscalco analyzes a listener's job promotion that offers high pay but lacks actual work, exploring whether it's a beneficial opportunity or a detrimental situation.
23 Jun 2025
#9 He's Practising His Breakup Lines... On a Fictional Character
Host Sebastian analyzes a listener's boyfriend's fictional breakup notes to determine if it signals harmless creativity or a potential relationship problem in this interview episode.
22 Jun 2025
#8 Resigning as the Unqualified Office Therapist
Eleanor finds herself the office therapist and seeks to resign, while Sebastian offers advice on setting boundaries to reclaim time and sanity in this fictional podcast episode.
22 Jun 2025
#7 I'm Your Mate, Not Your Personal Gay Cliché
Sebastian advises Luke on navigating well-meaning friends who reduce him to a gay stereotype after he comes out in this interview episode.
22 Jun 2025
#6 Mourning a Life That's Taking Up All Your Wardrobe Space
Isla confronts the fantasy of her aspirational wardrobe, as Sebastian helps her embrace her current life and find contentment with her present style.
22 Jun 2025
#5 My Manifesting Mantras Have Become Unhinged
Sebastian Maniscalco analyzes a listener's unhinged manifestation mantras, revealing the dangers of toxic positivity and suggesting a kinder approach to achieving career goals in this episode.
22 Jun 2025
#4 When You're Asked to Fund Your Brother's 'Dreams'
Sebastian advises listeners on setting boundaries with family members regarding financial requests, specifically addressing scenarios where siblings seek funding for personal pursuits, in this interview episode.
22 Jun 2025
#3 Out of Sight, Out of Mind, and Out of a Promotion?
Sebastian helps a listener navigate the challenges of remote work and strategize ways to regain visibility and advance their career while working from home in this interview episode.
22 Jun 2025
#2 'Too Dramatic' or Is Her Fiancé Just Biphobic?
Sebastian analyzes a listener's exclusion from her sister's wedding, suspecting the fiancé's biphobia is the real reason behind the "too dramatic" label.
21 Jun 2025
#1 Your Friend Got a Mortgage and You Got... Existential Dread?
Leo from Manchester expresses existential dread about friends buying houses, and Sebastian discusses comparison's perils, emphasizing the importance of individual timelines in this interview.
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