About After the Breaking: Stories of What We Rebuild After Life Breaks Us
We all break at some point. A divorce. A brutal breakup. A career that falls apart. An empty nest. A moment where you look up and realize you don't know who you are anymore.
I'm Marya Kazmi — also known as Brown Girl Interrupting — and I know that moment intimately. I walked into marriage at twenty-three and out at forty, raised four children, and spent years gathering myself back up from the shattered pieces that narcissistic relationship left behind.
After the Breaking is what comes next. This is a space for healing that isn't ethereal or out of reach — it's honest, lived-in, and human. Here I share the tools, the stories, and the hard-won lessons of coming home to yourself: releasing control, unlearning old narratives, letting go of resentment, and stepping forward as who you actually are.
If life has broken you open, you're in the right place. Not because I have it all figured out — but because I'm walking this road too, and I refuse to walk it quietly.
Bold, not bitter. Come rise with me.
The Yes That Led Me Home| After the Breaking| Ep 9
When did you stop loving yourself? In this season finale, I share how my rebuild started with one word I had to stop believing: selfish. As a little girl I loved to dance, and I was taught that choosing joy, choosing me, was selfish. I went straight from a home of patterns into a marriage of patterns, until no one had to say it anymore. I was guarding the cage myself. Then in 2019 I said one yes, to an urban soul line dancing class. That yes led to community, a choir, my voice, my son, and ye...
26 Sept 2026
I Stopped Playing the Game | After the Breaking | Episode 8
For years, every buzz of my phone made my stomach drop. His name meant a fight I hadn't agreed to. And then one day I realized the war was still going — he was still fighting it. I had just stopped showing up. Leaving was the loud part. Nobody warns you about the after: when you share children with someone, you don't get to fully leave. You renegotiate them, over and over, for years. This episode is about the thing that finally saved me. It wasn't winning. It was neutrality. I used to tell th...
26 Sept 2026
The Long Way Out | After the Breaking | Episode 7
People always ask when I left. Like there was a day. There wasn't a day — there were about a thousand of them. This is the story behind the name of this show. Seventeen years of marriage, told in five movements — not steps, because I didn't walk out in a straight line. I decided to leave, and then I took it back. I stayed longer after I knew than before I knew. In this episode I talk about the pride that kept me in, the micro-moments where I first knew, the reasons I stayed, and the day...
19 Aug 2026
The Skin We Shed: Every Version I Outgrew | After the Breaking | Ep 6
I used to think healing meant going back — back to who I was before it all broke. But she was never coming back. She was the skin, not the self. In this episode of After the Breaking, I'm sharing the five skins we shed after a marriage or relationship ends — and the woman who grows underneath. In this episode: • Shedding self-abandonment for self-loyalty • Trading performing "okayness" for modeling repair with our children • Moving from auditioning to be chosen → to discerning who even earn...
19 Aug 2026
Loving a Woman Who Survived | After the Breaking | Ep 2
Most men say they want a strong woman. But what they really mean is they want a woman who endures. There’s a difference. In this episode of After the Breaking, we talk about what it actually takes to love a woman who has survived a narcissistic relationship. She’s not insecure. She’s informed. She’s not difficult. She’s discerning. After emotional manipulation, gaslighting, inconsistency, and ego-driven love, a woman changes. Her nervous system changes. Her standards c...
19 Aug 2026
Seen Without Shrinking: Being Loved in Our Fullness | After the Breaking Ep 4
What if the reason you keep going quiet — agreeing when you don't, staying small when you want to speak — isn't a character flaw? What if it's a scar? In this episode of After the Breaking, I'm getting into something I lived for seventeen years inside a marriage built on emotional abuse, and that I've spent the eight years since trying to unlearn: the pattern of shrinking to stay safe. If any of it sounds like yours, you're in the right place. If you're ready to go deeper, Empowerment Unloc...
19 Aug 2026
Brown Girl's Origin Story | After the Breaking | Ep 5
I left the marriage. I did not leave the hole. In this episode, I'm taking you back to where this all started — not the leaving itself, but everything that came after it. The patterns that crept back in. The thoughts that didn't get the memo that I was free. The years it took to realize that healing wasn't a single decision, it was a hole I had to actually climb out of, slowly, more than once. I'm also sharing a few entries from notes I wrote on my phone during the final years of my marriage ...
19 Aug 2026
After the Breaking — Episode 1: Five Things to Release So You Can Vibrate Higher
I broke. Not quietly, not gracefully — into shattered pieces that took years to gather back up. Seventeen years of marriage that I walked into at twenty-three and walked out of at forty, four children, and a version of myself I no longer recognized on the other side of a narcissistic relationship. This is where the rebuilding started. And this is what After the Breaking is about. In this first episode, I'm introducing myself — I'm Marya, also known as Brown Girl Interrupting — and the heart o...
19 Aug 2026
She Forgot She Was Capable | After the Breaking | Ep 3
Emotional abuse doesn't just break your heart. It breaks your ability to trust your own mind. The second-guessing. The self-doubt. The inability to make a simple decision without needing someone else to confirm you're not wrong. The shrinking at work, in parenting, in friendships — in your own life. That's not weakness. That's what happens when someone spends years quietly dismantling your sense of reality. In this episode of After the Breaking, we name the part of emotional abuse that nobody...
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