I'm on a mission to free people to be true to who they really are and to unleash their buried voices within. "Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid" is inspired by birthday verse, Proverbs 7:4, "Say to wisdom, “I love you,” and to understanding, “You’re my sweetheart.” We discuss stupid "situationships", "tolerationships" leading to "revelationships". What may appear wise in the world's eyes is really just foolishness. Our discussions may expose our own foolishness but in doing so, it may bridge that great divide and UNITE.
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Episode 601: Ain't Gonna Be Sandwiched with Brett Habas
1:00 How we know each other
1:20 Favorite sandwich
2:54 What do you know for sure?
3:52 Impetus of the blog
6:00 Can you believe Brett has 10 friends to ask for support to read his blog before he published them? Unheard of.
7:00 The Sandwiched Generation-Parents and Children
9:00 Creative Process and post process selection
10:25 Key tip for perfectionists.
11:20 the benefits of therapy (that Amy has also benefitted from)
13:41 What I've learned about myself
16:10 Boundaries “Do You Want My Advice?”
16:45 Julia, his greatest confidant
17:09 Spreadsheets
17:46 Don’t assume your opinion is wanted
17:59 The Modern Father
18:43 Jacob, his producer’s, journey
19:00 Sandwich generation merch
19:30 How Brett chooses post topics
23:27: YouTube audio vlog
23:40 I am an author vs I’m not an author
25:10 Amy’s goal - to return to writing (putting this in writing to for accountability)
26:03 “I am” statements
27:37 Physics teacher desires creative endeavors and you should too
28:03 What Brett learned from others
29:09 Complaining isn’t the same as venting our feelings-no solution needed
29:59 Rather than volunteer, create something for a common cause
30:35 You are not alone
32:15 Validate feelings
32:44 Dis-ease
33:50 Tardiness and the Traitors
35:00 If you can’t change something, roll with it.
35:52 How to get out of the stagnant workplace
36:00 Never boring
37:29 Blog Fridays
37:50 Take Care of Each Other
38:39 Commencement - everyone surrounding the graduate is also going through a change. See blog for more.
39:59 Fox story. See blog for more.
40:44 The Great American Road Trip - See blog for more.
41:53 What’s next for Brett (the audio vlog)
43:16 Brett and his daughter will write a companion post on the same topic-stay tuned (coming soon)
44:44 Closure:
3 TV Shows: The Pitt (HBO Max), Shrinking(Prime), The Bear (Hulu/Disney+)
2 Books: Who Needs Friends? by Andrew McCarthy, Death of a Salesman by Arthur Miller
1 YouTube channel: Quiet Quest
Where can we find Brett?
www.thesandwichgeneration.blog (http://www.thesandwichgeneration.blog/)
https://www.youtube.com/@assemblingTSG
Where Can I Find Amy?
www.amyperras.com
Linkedin: Amy Perras
Twitter: @perras_scope
IG @aintgonnabenostupid
Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid
Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Woman (Book)
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14 Jul 2025
Ain't Gonna Ignore Men's Mental Health with Anthony Gamino
3:01 Anthony is 40 days sober on the day we did this interview
4:14 How he stays sober
5:23 Vulnerability what is it?
5:48 Why don’t we show our vulnerability?
6:23 Alpha males cry
7:01 Keep your circle small
7:50 Therapy
8:18 Generational curses
9:08 Tik Tok banned him
10:21 Tattoo sharing
11:42 Main purpose in sharing this story - alpha male know that you can be vulnerable and you’re never alone
12:53 Graduation story
14:08 Dopamine addiction
14:21 Men don’t communicate-why?
15:39 Share with your inner circle - find an inner circle
16:09 Jelly Roll song: "I know how to cry. And I know how to lie. And I know how to hurt. Been doing it all my life."
16:38 He will respond-DM him on Facebook - Anthony Gamino
17:04 3-2-1 Close
3 Three things to remember when
—when keep your mouth shut
—when to speak up
—when to show love
2 Major Habits to Adopt
—Nature-experience God’s creation.
—Exercise - great for mental health
1 Thing to remember overall
—Be a good person. Be kind. You don’t know what someone is going through.
Where Can We Find Anthony?
FB: Anthony Gamino
IG: High_Jinks7001
Where Can I Find Amy?
www.amyperras.com
Linkedin: Amy Perras
Twitter: @perras_scope
IG @aintgonnabenostupid
Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid
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28 Dec 2024
Ain't Gonna Be No Voice Unheard with Ryan Haehnlein
Introduction: Don’t settle for being unheard.
Dispelling Ignorance: Toilet paper roll
2:53 “Bangs are cool and mullets are not”
4:00 Ryan’s stupid situationship that made Amy cry from laughing so hard. “ It was like agreeing to build a birdhouse, only to discover halfway through that you’re actually constructing a full-scale replica of the Taj Mahal... out of duct tape and optimism”.
5:55 Reconnecting through generations.
7:20 I ran into teachers through the years and reflected on how high school connects to real life.
8:46 Fitting in while in high school, we don’t just fit into ONE box.
9:45 Connect with others
10:50 Adapting to the Ever-Changing Life
11:35 The Need for the Trades
13:16 Local 701 in Aurora offers a training center for mechanics.
16:33 January and July start times: Submit application at any time: https://local701training.org/ (http://www.701training.org)
17:42 Education and career paths. Don’t think what we learn in school isn’t relevant to life: persuasive essays, for example.
19:41 Writing is your voice.
19:54 Lessons from a Union Rep-The Power of Negotiation
22:05 The Life of a Mechanic
25:00 Rusty Bolt metaphor
25:20 Undercover Boss
26:40 Process is Key
27:03 Dead Poet’s Society
27:14 Grow ye roses buds while ye may.
27:54 Questioning Authority
28:19 Exercising my right not to walk.
29:10 Check yourself as a parent who makes their kid grind too hard.
29:32 Independent Thought is key
31:42-3-2-1
Three things every worker/person needs to know
How to say no
When to walk away
Power of collective action
Two Life Lessons
Ask Questions (even the hard ones)
Mistakes are Part of the Process-this is when you learn the most
One Thing to Never Forget
Your Community Matters
Where Can I Find Ryan?
X:@ryan_haehnlein,
email: ryanh@mech.org
Where Can I Find Amy?
www.amyperras.com
Linkedin: Amy Perras
Twitter: @perras_scope
IG @aintgonnabenostupid
Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid
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