Welcome to Akka’s Unsolicited Advice, where eldest South Indian daughters finally get the mic (because we’ve always had the opinions). If you’ve ever been the family’s built-in babysitter, unpaid therapist, cultural translator, and emotional shock absorber all before hitting puberty, this one’s for you. Each episode serves up stories, unsolicited (but spot-on) advice, and big sister energy with a side of sarcasm. Whether you’re the resident akka or just need one in your life, come validate your oldest-daughter trauma with us. No filter, no apologies, just a lot of love and probably some judgment.
Send us Fan Mail There is an unwritten rulebook for being raised by a Tamil mom. We just never got a copy. In this episode, we review some of the rules we somehow all learned by osmosis—from superstitions you were never allowed to question, to the correct way to wash dishes, Tupperware return etiquette, what gifts are acceptable to give guests, and, for reasons we cannot explain, a surprisingly deep investigation into the merits of Ferrero Rocher. Basically, it’s a conversation about all the ...
26 Aug 2026
Pack Your Bags, We're Going to India for the Summer
Send us Fan Mail For some of us, summer vacation meant one thing: India. In this episode, Anjali and I talk about growing up with summers that revolved around trips to India. One of us was ready to stay home, the other couldn't wait to go. We compare our experiences, from spending summers with family to realizing that somehow every vacation plan can turn into a full-blown family vacation. We also talk about growing up in a family where travel was such a normal part of life that we were genuin...
12 Aug 2026
Thambi Has Entered the Chat
Send us Fan Mail What’s it actually like having an Akka? For once, we’re hearing from the thambi. In this episode, we invited Dharshini's baby (he is an adult) brother, Mithran, to share his perspective on growing up with an older sister. He talks about what he learned from her example, the ways having an Akka shaped him, and the things he definitely did (and didn’t) appreciate about having an older sister. We talk about sibling dynamics, the advantages of being the younger one, and whe...
5 Aug 2026
Not the Main Character
Send us Fan Mail What happens when stories set in Tamil communities rarely center Tamil women? In this episode, we unpack how Tamil women are portrayed in Indian media—from being sidelined into supporting roles to having their pain used as a turning point for a male character's journey. We talk about beauty standards, representation, and why it's so rare to see women who actually look like us leading the story. We talk about what it means to grow up searching for yourself on screen and what c...
29 Jul 2026
So...Why Are You Still Single?
Send us Fan Mail For once, the Akka giving the advice is the one answering the questions. In this flip-the-script episode, my cousins take over the interview chair to ask me about dating (or not dating), being single in my thirties, and navigating all the questions that seem to come with it. We talk about family expectations and what I'm actually looking for in a partner. Along the way, we unpack the pressure to meet life's milestones on everyone else's timeline, what it means to be happily s...
22 Jul 2026
Too Skinny, Too Curvy, Never Just Right
Send us Fan Mail Our bodies have always seemed to be a topic of conversation, but should they be? In this episode, we talk about growing up in a culture where comments about weight, appearance, and body changes are often seen as normal conversation, even when they leave a lasting impact. From well-intentioned family remarks to the beauty standards reinforced within the Tamil community, we unpack how these messages shaped the way we viewed ourselves, and how we're working to redefine that rela...
15 Jul 2026
Puberty, But Make It Public
Send us Fan Mail From awkward first periods and learning how to use a pad, to sadangus and realizing your entire extended family somehow knew what was happening before you did... this episode is all about growing up. We laugh our way through the chaos of figuring out periods, the advice we got (whether we asked for it or not), and the reality of navigating a topic that was somehow both completely private and everyone's business at the same time. We also talk about balancing the cultural tradi...
8 Jul 2026
Lovely, But Not Fair
Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we unpack one of the most pervasive yet often unspoken issues in the Tamil community: colorism. From childhood comments about staying out of the sun to the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways lighter skin was praised, we explore how we first learned that skin tone could influence how someone was perceived and valued. We reflect on the messages we heard at home, in our families, and through Tamil and Indian media, and how those experiences shaped our own relations...
1 Jul 2026
Say My Name, Say My Name
Send us Fan Mail What’s in a name? More than most people realize. Welcome to Season 2 of Akka's Unsolicited Advice! We're back with a conversation inspired by the recent debate surrounding Indian Americans who anglicize or adapt the pronunciation of their names. While the internet often treats it as a simple choice, the reality is much more personal. In this episode, we share the stories behind our names, what they mean to our families, and how they've changed depending on the spaces we've oc...
5 Mar 2026
Fitting In: The Gen Alpha Edition
Send us Fan Mail Growing up today looks very different than it did for the millennial akkas. In this episode, we hear from a new generation navigating identity in a world that is more diverse, but still full of stereotypes and pressure to conform. We talk about what it means to grow up South Indian when representation is finally increasing and what they feel about culture, language, and belonging. Last episode we talked to the millennial mom, this episode we have her daughter, Anjali, as a sp...
26 Feb 2026
Fitting In: The Millennial Edition
Send us Fan Mail Growing up South Indian in a mostly Western world meant mastering the art of blending in (or at least trying to). In this episode, we talk about what “fitting in” looked like for millennial Akkas: from lunchbox shame and name fumbling to learning when to be proud and when to push back. We talk about identity, representation, and how we’re raising the next generation to belong without shrinking themselves.
19 Feb 2026
Doctor, Engineer, or Disappointment?
Send us Fan Mail We’ve all heard the stereotype: Tamil parents want you to be a doctor, engineer, or at least something with a steady paycheck and no creative risk. But that’s not everyone’s story. In this episode, we talk about parental expectations and how they shape our career choices. Whether your parents had a 5-year plan for you or just wanted you to be happy (?!), we unpack how their hopes, fears, and support affected the paths we took.
12 Feb 2026
We Don't Talk About Mental Health (But We Should)
Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we’re breaking the silence around mental health, the kind that gets swept under the rug with a “just be strong.” From the pressure to always keep it together to the stigma around therapy, we unpack how mental health is (or isn’t) talked about in South Indian families. If you were raised to pretend everything’s fine, we’re here to say: you’re not alone. Real Akka stories, hard truths, healing laughs, and, naturally, a bit of unsolicited advice.
5 Feb 2026
Girl Marries Not-Tamil Boy
Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we go beyond the initial shock and explore what happens after you tell your family he’s not Tamil. We dig into the real-life aftermath of big feelings, big questions, and sometimes big drama. From managing subtle (and not-so-subtle) comments, to figuring out how to bridge two cultures in a relationship, this episode tackles the emotional and practical challenges that follow the reveal. We also talk about what healthy boundaries look like and how to support yo...
29 Jan 2026
Girl Meets Not-Tamil Boy
Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into the emotional, funny, and sometimes nerve-wracking reality of dating outside the Tamil culture, especially when it’s time to tell your family. We explore what it means to fall for someone who doesn’t share the same language or customs and how that can bring both joy and tension. Through personal stories and thoughtful reflection, we unpack the fears many of us grew up with: disappointing our parents, breaking unspoken cultural rules, or navigatin...
22 Jan 2026
Curls, Chaos, and Coconut Oil
Send us Fan Mail Our hair holds our history, with Sunday oiling rituals, school photos with tight braids, and the quiet shame of not fitting the “good hair” ideal. In this episode, we talk about unlearning beauty standards, embracing texture, and healing the complicated relationship we’ve had with our hair. Because sometimes, learning to love your curls is learning to love yourself.
15 Jan 2026
What We Learned (And Didn't) About Money
Send us Fan Mail Savings, spending, and side-eye from your parents: today we’re talking money. In this episode, we unpack what we were (and weren’t) taught about money, how guilt sneaks into our spending, and what financial independence means for eldest daughters. It’s part therapy session, part budgeting confession, with the usual, unsolicited advice. From navigating “save everything” mindsets to learning to invest without panic, we’re figuring out how to build wealth without the shame. Beca...
8 Jan 2026
Unlearning and Rewriting the Gender Rules
Send us Fan Mail Our parents meant well, but love doesn’t always protect us from stereotypes. In this episode, we talk about how gender shaped our upbringing: the expectations placed on daughters, the freedoms given to sons, and how we watched our parents perform their own gender roles. Now that we’re older, we’re learning to question those patterns, challenge the “that’s just how it is” mindset, and redefine what equality looks like in our own lives, one Akka conversation at a time.
1 Jan 2026
So, You’re the Eldest Daughter…
Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Akka’s Unsolicited Advice, the podcast for every eldest daughter who had to figure it all out first. I’m Aarthi: recently graduated physician, lifelong big sister, and expert in unsolicited wisdom. In this intro episode, I’m sharing why we started this podcast, what it means to grow up as the South Indian eldest daughter, and what you can expect from the conversations ahead. Think sisterhood, storytelling, and advice you didn’t ask for, but definitely need.
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