You can be aligned and still a little unhinged.
This podcast is for people who are doing the work, even when it's messy, uncomfortable, and imperfect.
Hosted by Cass and Shelby, Aligned & a Little Unhinged is where embodiment meets honesty and healing gets real. The conversations explore identity, emotional regulation, attachment, faith, relationships, discipline, nervous system work, and the patterns that keep people stuck with humor, depth, and zero spiritual bypassing.
Some episodes are grounded and reflective.
Some are raw, funny, and a little unhinged.
All of them are honest.
This isn't about perfection or "healed girl" aesthetics. It's about learning how to hold alignment and messiness at the same time, responsibility and compassion, structure and surrender, and integrating it all into real life.
Expect conversations that challenge your self-concept, call out your excuses (with love), and remind you that growth is allowed to be intentional and chaotic.
Follow us on Social Media:
Cass Zimmerman:
Instagram & Tiktok - @Casofras
Shelby Edgar:
Instagram: @_shelbyedgar
Tiktok: @shelbyedgar_
Identity isn't something you find—it's something you build. In this episode, we're talking about why so many people stay stuck in old versions of themselves, how your beliefs shape your identity, and what it actually takes to become the person capable of creating the life, relationships, and future you want.
If you've ever felt like you've outgrown who you've been but aren't sure who you're becoming, this episode is for you.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
5 Jun 2026
Why Dating Feels So Hard Right Now (And What Nobody Wants to Admit)
Dating has never offered more options—yet so many people feel frustrated, disconnected, and stuck repeating the same patterns.
In this episode, we dive into why modern dating feels harder than ever, the impact dating apps have had on relationships, and the uncomfortable truths that might be keeping people single. We discuss chemistry vs. compatibility, why we often choose what's familiar over what's healthy, the myth of "the one," and how our own unresolved patterns can shape who we're attracted to.
If you've ever wondered why dating feels exhausting, why healthy relationships can feel "boring," or why you keep ending up in the same relationship with different people, this conversation is for you.
Topics include:
Dating apps and the paradox of choice
Chemistry vs. compatibility
The myth of soulmates
Why people ignore red flags
What actually makes relationships last
The relationship you want may not require finding a different person—it may require becoming a different version of yourself.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
19 May 2026
Why You Keep Self Sabotaging With Food
Most people think their eating habits come down to discipline, motivation, or "trying harder." But what if your behaviors around food are actually rooted in nervous system regulation, emotional patterns, dopamine, stress, identity, and survival responses?
In this episode, we break down the psychology behind overeating, emotional eating, nighttime cravings, grazing, restriction cycles, self sabotage, and why so many people feel stuck in the "start over Monday" loop.
This episode is less about calories and macros... and more about understanding yourself on a deeper level so you can finally stop fighting your body and start working with it.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
5 May 2026
The Truth About Narcissism, Safety, and the Relationships You Choose
Everyone throws around the word "narcissist"… but most people don't actually understand what it means—or why they keep ending up in the same patterns.
In this episode, we sit down with marriage and relationship therapist Aubrey Perez to break it all down.
We get into the different types of narcissism, what's actually happening underneath those behaviors, and how it shows up in real relationships. But more importantly, we talk about YOU—your triggers, your patterns, and the unconscious ways you might be recreating the same dynamic over and over again.
We also dive into what it really means to create safety in a relationship (and no, it's not just about finding the "right" partner), how to identify your core values, and how to stop abandoning yourself in the process of trying to be loved.
If you've ever questioned your relationship, your standards, or why you keep attracting the same kind of person—this episode will hit.
This isn't about blaming them.
It's about understanding you… so you can finally choose differently.
Find Aubrey here:
Instagram: @amptherapyforyou
TikTok: @amptherapy4u
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
24 Apr 2026
The Soft Girl Myth: What Feminine Energy Actually Is (Part 1)
In this episode, we're calling out the biggest myths around feminine energy that are being pushed all over social media.
From the "soft girl" era to "just receive and don't chase," there's a lot being taught that sounds good… but is actually creating confusion, passivity, and disconnection.
We break down what feminine energy is not, where these ideas go wrong, and why being in your feminine has nothing to do with being naive, avoidant, or dependent.
This is part 1 of a 2-part series where we strip it back to truth — so you can actually understand what it means to show up grounded, self-led, and powerful in your life.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
7 Apr 2026
The Voice That's Running Your Life
There are two voices inside you, the bully and the hero.
In this episode of Aligned & A Little Unhinged, we break down how these two identities show up in your everyday life, shaping your decisions, your confidence, and the way you see yourself.
The bully is the voice that criticizes, doubts, and keeps you small.
The hero is the one that leads, takes ownership, and follows through, even when it's uncomfortable.
We talk about how most people unknowingly let the bully run the show, and how that keeps them stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, inconsistency, and low self-trust.
But we also dive into how to shift, how to start building the hero within you through awareness, discipline, and keeping promises to yourself.
Because the life you want isn't built by the bully.
It's built by the version of you who shows up anyway.
If you've been stuck in your head, doubting yourself, or feeling like you're your own worst enemy… this episode will hit.
31 Mar 2026
Building A New Life (And Questioning Everything Along the Way)
In this episode, we're just catching you up on life.
We talk about what it looks like to step into new chapters — new careers, new relationships, new levels — and everything that comes with it… including the imposter syndrome, the doubt, and the "what am I even doing?" moments.
Shelby shares about starting something new and navigating that uncomfortable space of doing things differently, while Cass dives into going all in on her business, her fitness journey, and stepping into a new relationship.
This one is real, a little unfiltered, and probably something a lot of you will relate to if you're in a season of growth that doesn't feel fully stable yet.
Because becoming who you said you wanted to be doesn't always feel confident… sometimes it just feels like figuring it out as you go.
24 Mar 2026
The Valley of Despair: Where Most People Quit
Everyone loves to talk about the glow-up.
No one talks about the part where your life feels like it's falling apart.
In this episode, we break down Alex Hormozi's concept of the Valley of Despair—the phase where you've outgrown your old life, but your new one hasn't fully landed yet.
And honestly? This is where most people quit.
We go deep into why healing feels more like loss than gain in the beginning—losing relationships, identity, comfort, and the versions of you that once felt safe… even if they were keeping you stuck.
We talk about:
Why this phase feels so heavy and disorienting
What's actually happening in your mind and nervous system
Why going back to your old patterns will always feel easier—but cost you everything
And how to actually move through it instead of getting stuck or self-sabotaging
If you feel like you're in the middle of losing everything… this episode will help you understand why.
You're not broken.
You're just in the valley.
And if you can stay here long enough—you'll become someone your old life could never hold.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
17 Mar 2026
The Truth About Narcissists: What You're Missing in Toxic Relationships
In this episode, Cass and Shelby sit down with Aubrey, an AMFT specializing in Brainspotting Therapy, to talk about relationships — why they're beautiful, why they're hard, and why therapy can be one of the most helpful tools when problems arise.
We dive into common relationship struggles like communication breakdowns, emotional triggers, and unresolved patterns, and how couples can begin navigating those challenges in healthier ways.
We also unpack narcissism — what it actually is, why it's often misunderstood, and how narcissistic dynamics can show up in relationships.
Aubrey loves working with couples, helping people process grief, and supporting victims of narcissistic abuse. She incorporates Brainspotting and DBT skills into therapy with a focus on communication, understanding, and emotional regulation.
Find Aubrey here:
Instagram: @amptherapyforyou
TikTok: @amptherapy4u
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
9 Mar 2026
Attachment Styles Explained: Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck
In this episode, we dive into attachment styles — the patterns that shape how we show up in relationships.
From anxious attachment and the fear of abandonment, to avoidant attachment and the instinct to pull away, these dynamics often develop early in life and continue to influence how we connect, communicate, and experience love.
We break down what each attachment style looks like, why certain relationship dynamics feel so intense, and how anxious and avoidant patterns often create the push-pull cycles so many people experience in dating and long-term relationships.
Most importantly, we talk about how healing actually happens.
Not by blaming your past, but by becoming aware of the patterns, regulating your nervous system, and learning how to build secure, healthy connection.
If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner or why certain relationships trigger you so deeply, this conversation will give you the awareness and tools to begin changing those patterns.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
24 Feb 2026
The Black Coffee Rule: Stop Sweetening What's Meant to Be Bitter
In this episode, we talk about the black coffee rule — the idea that not everything in life is meant to be sweetened.
Some seasons are bitter.
Some truths are uncomfortable.
And growth rarely tastes the way we expect it to.
We explore how our instinct to avoid discomfort, rush healing, or sugarcoat reality can keep us stuck — and how learning to sit with life as it is builds resilience, clarity, and self-trust.
Because the people who grow the most aren't the ones who avoid bitterness…
They're the ones who learn to taste it without running.
Sometimes it's bitter.
But it's still good.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
16 Feb 2026
Leadership Starts With Ownership
Leadership isn't a title — it's an identity.
In this episode, we break down what real leadership actually looks like and why it always starts with self-leadership.
We talk about:
Why ownership is the foundation of leadership
How lack of clarity creates dysfunction
The role ego plays in poor leadership
Why emotional regulation is a leadership skill
How leaders set the tone in every environment
If you're leading a business, a family, a relationship, or yourself, this conversation will challenge you to look at where responsibility actually belongs.
Because you don't get to blame and call yourself a leader.
Leadership starts with you.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
9 Feb 2026
If It's Not a Yes, It's a Situationship
This week, we're talking about situationships—and why so many people stay stuck in them far longer than they want to admit.
If you've ever been in something that felt like a relationship but was never clearly defined…
If you've been emotionally invested while the other person stayed vague, inconsistent, or noncommittal…
If you kept hoping clarity, effort, or commitment would eventually come…
This episode is for you.
We break down what's actually happening beneath the surface in situationships, including:
Why situationships feel so hard to leave, even when they're painful
How limerence keeps you attached to potential instead of reality
The role attachment styles and nervous system dysregulation play
Why inconsistency creates stronger emotional bonds than consistency
How "waiting for clarity" slowly erodes self-trust
The difference between mutual interest and emotional unavailability
Why calm, secure connection can feel boring when you're used to chaos
We also talk about the subtle ways people abandon themselves in these dynamics—by not asking for what they need, minimizing their desires, or staying silent to avoid "scaring someone away."
And we get honest about this truth:
If someone wanted to build something with you, you wouldn't be confused.
This episode isn't about blaming yourself.
It's about understanding why your body, brain, and heart got hooked—and how to start choosing clarity, safety, and self-respect instead.
Because real love doesn't live in mixed signals.
And healing starts when you stop mistaking uncertainty for chemistry.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
2 Feb 2026
When Hustle Turns Into Burnout
High performers don't quit.
They just slowly lose themselves trying to hold everything together.
Burnout doesn't show up as collapse at first.
It shows up as irritability.
Brain fog.
Emotional numbness.
Resentment toward the life you worked so hard to build.
In this episode, we break down:
• Why burnout is common in driven, capable people
• How "pushing through" actually makes it worse
• What to do when rest doesn't even feel restful anymore
• And how to rebuild capacity without losing your edge
This isn't about doing less.
It's about learning how to sustain more — without self-abandonment.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
27 Jan 2026
Conflict, Triggers, and Alignment: Who Are You When Things Get Hard?
Your relationship with conflict reveals your relationship with yourself.
Do you shut down?
People-please?
Get defensive?
Over-explain?
Pull away before you can be left?
In this episode, we dive into how rejection, abandonment, and fear of failure shape the way you show up in relationships—and why learning to navigate conflict from an aligned, regulated place is non-negotiable if you want a life that actually feels safe, connected, and fulfilling.
Conflict isn't something to fear.
It's an invitation to meet yourself more honestly.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
19 Jan 2026
You Don't Need Better Goals. You Need an Identity Shift
Every January we set goals with the best intentions… and every February we're right back where we started.
In this episode, we break down why New Year's resolutions don't stick—and why goal setting fails when it's built on willpower instead of identity. We talk about the missing piece no one is teaching you: becoming the person who already lives the life you're chasing.
This isn't about doing more.
It's about being different.
We dive into identity shifts, embodiment, and the practical tools that help you stop starting over and finally create lasting change—mentally, emotionally, and physically.
If you're tired of "trying harder" and ready to become her, this episode is for you.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
12 Jan 2026
Confidence is BUILT.
Confidence is one of the most misunderstood things in personal growth.
In this episode of Aligned & A Little Unhinged, we break down what confidence is not, and what it actually is. We debunk the myths that keep people chasing approval, perfection, and external validation, and explain why none of that creates real self-trust.
We talk about confidence as a skill, not a personality trait. Something you build through action, consistency, and learning to keep promises to yourself.
If you've ever felt like confident people were just "born that way," this episode will completely shift how you see yourself, and what's possible for you.
Reach out to us on Social Media!
Instagram:
@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
8 Jan 2026
Welcome to Aligned & A Little Unhinged
Welcome to Aligned & A Little Unhinged.
In this first episode, we're introducing ourselves—who we are, where we've been, and what brought us here. We share our personal stories, the experiences that shaped us, and the moments that pushed us to create a space for real, honest conversations.
This podcast was created for people who are doing the work—or feeling the pull to start. The ones navigating growth, healing, relationships, ambition, and identity in real time. The ones who want to be aligned, but aren't afraid to be a little unhinged in the process.
Here, we'll be talking about mindset, embodiment, emotional regulation, relationships, discipline, faith, and what it actually looks like to live out your values in real life—not just talk about them.
This episode sets the foundation for what's to come and why this space matters to us.
If you resonate with this conversation, we'd love for you to leave a review, share your feedback, or reach out to us on social with questions or topics you want us to dive into.
Welcome to Aligned & A Little Unhinged—we're so glad you're here.
Follow us on social media
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@Casofras
@_shelbyedgar
Tiktok:
@Casofras
@shelbyedgar_
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