Alive Within

About Alive Within

Darbi B is a certified Life Coach and focuses on working with young adults ages 16-26. However, this work is for anyone at any age that is looking to make life decisions. Are you making a transition from a job, relationship, home, entire career, and more? I can help. I help people to become more alive within by choosing to manage their minds. Join me and tap into being Alive Within!

Publisher

Darbi B

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

10 May 2020

Latest episode

19 Nov 2020

Latest episodes

28 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   19 Nov 2020

   Want It If You Got It

   Want it if you got it. It's like Flaunt it if you got it. Today I want to play on that phrase and talk about Want. Do you want it if you got it? I hear it all the time. I’m so unhappy. I guess I’m not smart enough for this or that. I don’t think I’ll have that. That’s just not gonna happen for me. My life isn’t that great. Every time I slow them down and we start pointing out what they DO have the whole perspective shifts and life doesn’t seem so bad. We think that something out there is going to bring us happiness. We may have this fleeting idea of our future and it looks awesome but what I have today isn’t even close. The thoughts of bridging the gap seems impossible. We also find ourselves focusing on what other people are doing. What other peoples lives look like. It’s all an unfair comparison that we need to stop doing. Well, how do we do that? How can we stop those beliefs and thoughts that we have? The truth is. You don’t have to stop them. Just allow them to happen. When a thought comes you can acknowledge it and do very little about it after that. Don’t reject it. Don’t accept it. Just allow it. There’s nothing broken with you or wrong with you if you have thoughts about what you don’t have. There’s nothing wrong with you if you want something more. You’re just perfect if you wish you had something more. It’s this beautiful desire that makes life fun. It would be so boring if we didn’t want more. What would drive us and be fun about that? This all being said…there has to be a balance. Or rather…we need to do our best at creating the balance. It will be a life long journey. I think life has to have imbalances all the time so we are learning and growing all the time to balance them. As normal as it is to have thoughts of wanting more it’s also normal to have thoughts of gratitude and wanting what you already have. It’s important to give that equal air time. If I’m going to set goals I want to equally share some time in thinking about what’s great in my life. What’s amazing about what I’ve accomplished, what I have, what I’ve learned, who I’ve become, how awesome my relationships are. I had a client ask. How do I want what I have. At that time I gave them an example of my car. I’ve always had my current car on my dream list until a year ago. When I finally got my dream car I was so excited. Have you ever been so excited to have something, or go somewhere or be with someone and then the excitement wears off? That’s called the honeymoon stage. If we don’t continue to look at what we have and RE-realize the reasons we wanted it then it’s just another mundane piece in our life. We need to put some effort into a rich life where we are living a little more alive within. Most of the time when I’m driving my dream car I take a minute to look around and enjoy what I’ve earned. I remember how I worked to get to this point. I smell the leather. I look at the colors throughout and love it. I’m sure my kids get annoyed when I put the car in reverse and it shows me what behind me and indicated if there are any moving objects oncoming and I say “I love my car. Thanks car, for keeping me extra safe.”...cont'd

2. 

   11 Nov 2020

   Cut It Out

   Let’s get right to today’s podcast. Do you ever have people in your life that bring you down? Is there a person right now that you can think of that has something critical to say every time there’s a topic? Do they really get to you and make you feel yucky? Well then you should cut them out of your life, right?! I hear people talk about cutting toxic people out of their lives and I cringe a little every time I see or hear that because I think that most people mean this and execute this in a way of running away from the problem. I’ve seen it a lot on social media when someone announces that they’re going to go on a cleaning rampage where they clean out all their friends that are toxic. They declare that they just don’t have room for toxic people anymore. The reason this makes me cringe is actually a few reasons. First, I don’t think you have to “cut” toxic people out of your life. Second, I don’t think there’s a need to announce to everyone when you’re making a change in you and are deciding to set boundaries. Rarely do you even have to notify the labeled offender. And third, If you really are cleaning up your intimate circle of friends, social media definitely isn’t the place to do any of that management. Let me explain these reasons one at a time. Why do I think it’s unnecessary to CUT people out of your life? I’m not saying you wouldn’t want to cut ties with some people in your life. You may want to do that. I just don’t think it’s anything like it’s being touted on social media. I see people recklessly and angrily cutting people out. This is done in a way as to make the other person pay for not being good to them. It’s done in a way as to say I’m better than you and you don’t fit. I just don’t agree with those reasons. You can choose to not have someone in your life, choose not to communicate with a person or some people, or choose to put strict boundaries up for yourself but it all needs to be in a spirit of bettering yourself. This is what people are trying to attempt but they’re misguided in thinking that the people they are cutting out are making them act or feel a certain way so they need to cut them out. That’s not true. You may not be at your best around someone and that can happen very regularly but I can tell you that it’s not them who is making you feel bad. They may know your triggers and regularly use them. But it’s not all them. It’s your thinking about what they’re saying or doing. I’m not saying you don’t want to reduce or eliminate time with that person or those people. You may want to but realizing that you are the creator of your thoughts and therefore your feelings is essential. I may decide that I don’t behave very well around a certain person and spend less time around them because I don’t want to spend the time and energy to manage my mind around them. However, it’s important to know that that’s what it is. Mind management. They can be the way they are and you can control the way you think, feel and behave. So instead of cutting people out…how about we peacefully walk away or move forward? Second. Why I don’t think you have to announce that you are “cutting” toxic people out of your life. Because when you make a true change in your thinking or heart then you no longer feel the need to announce the changes. You just become. There will be people who fit into your life, likes and schedule and there will be some that don’t. This does not mean they are less than and announcing anything about you leveling up in your life would indicate that you are raising yourself above others and therefore putting them below you because they don’t fit. There’s No need.....Cont'd

3. 

   6 Nov 2020

   Do You Have a Weird Relationship With Goals?

   Goals are such an interesting topic to me. I work with peoples goals every single day. I eat, sleep and drink it, it seems. Everyone has a different relationship with goals. Some people don’t set goals at all. They think they are not worth setting because they will just be broken or forgotten. They could be right…if that how you think of them. Those people also may think their life is good enough. There’s no need to set goals. Some people set small goals based on the past. They may think something like, well…I’ve lost 5 lbs in the past so I know I can do that. I’m going to lose 5lbs. Probably not more than that though. Because I’ve never done it. Or they may think, I’ve been to a bar and not had a drink so I’ll do that because I know I can do THAT. Nothing more because I’ve never been able to do that. Some people set “Impossible” goals and promptly forget them. They set them by thinking of what they’d like to see or have happen in their lives then stretch the goal a little or a lot farther. They may create collages. They may write all over their mirror. They may put pictures on their phone to remind them of their goal. The sky is the limit in every sense of the word. I’ve been in every scenario. I’ve thought all the things about goals. I’ve always had a weird relationship with goals. Like I wasn’t quite sure how to deal with them. I wasn’t quite sure how to manage having them and succeeding with them. The reason that was my reality is because I never stopped to think about the goal setter. It’s not all about the goal itself… What about you? The goal setter. You are what matters the most in the equation. It really doesn’t matter whether they are big or whether they are small. It just matters that you set goals you want. It matters that you set goals you know you can achieve and you get a little nervously excited to think of reaching them. But all the results will be in failure and self loathing if you don’t come to realize that the relationship with yourself is the starting line to any goal. You can set all the goals big or small but it won’t matter. You will always find yourself at the bottom wondering why you can’t get to the top if you forgot to create a relationship with yourself. It’s important to set aside some time to believe in yourself. Nothing great will come from someone who believes they will just give up on the goal in a few months. You want to evaluate whether you are starting already having broken the commitment. What do I mean by that??? I mean…how many times have you set down at the new year, at a new job or any time you’ve wanted to set goals and become anew but you knew somewhere within your subconscious that you weren’t going to make it all the way. You knew you would stop being as fired up after a few days, weeks or months. This is what I’m talking about. Before you set your goals you need to set your SELF. Who am I when it gets hard? If you don’t like that start changing your thinking to get closer to who you want to be. You may not be able to jump from “I don’t ever stick to a goal longer than 3 days.” To “I’m the kind of person that won’t give up until I reach my goal, no matter how long it takes.” If you really believed one or the other…what do you think your results would be?...cont'd

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