Art of Spousing

About Art of Spousing

Art of Spousing is for marriages that what to move from being mundane to becoming masterpiece relationships. Hosts James and Lisa Duvall share truths and lessons learned from their 30 years of marriage and over a decade of teaching, coaching, and speaking on marriage.

Publisher

Art of Spousing

Category

religion & spirituality · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

26 Feb 2022

Latest episode

30 Mar 2026

Latest episodes

78 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   30 Mar 2026

   Two Great Forgivers: Breaking Free from Hurt and Rebuilding Oneness

   Forgiveness is one of the most powerful—and most challenging—practices in marriage. In this episode, James and Lisa unpack what it really means to become “two great forgivers.” If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of hurt, repeating the same arguments, or struggling to move forward after conflict, this conversation will give you clarity and hope. You’ll discover why forgiveness is not about forgetting or losing yourself, but about choosing freedom—again and again. We explore the cost of unforgiveness, the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and the practical steps couples can take to rebuild trust and restore connection. This episode invites you into a deeper, Christ-centered vision of marriage—one marked by grace, humility, and intentional love. Because a thriving marriage isn’t built on perfection… it’s built on two people who keep choosing to forgive. 🔑 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why every healthy marriage requires two great forgivers The truth that forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling What forgiveness is not (forgetting, losing yourself, or avoiding the issue) Why unforgiveness creates emotional distance, resentment, and disconnection The hidden cost of holding onto hurt—and how it impacts your marriage long-term How “small offenses” quietly build barriers between you and your spouse The difference between forgiveness (individual) and reconciliation (relational) Why reconciliation requires both spouses—but forgiveness starts with you A practical framework for giving and receiving forgiveness well How to take ownership, communicate clearly, and create a plan for change The role of grace, self-awareness, and emotional maturity in healing How choosing forgiveness reflects Christ and leads to deeper oneness 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES Marriage Clarity Accelerator A one-day guided experience to help you break cycles, gain clarity, and move forward together with a plan. 👉 Schedule your free 30-minute call (HERE (https://calendly.com/d/cwq6-57k-3nd/marriage-discovery-call)) 5 Voices Resources: Take a FREE 5 Voices Assessment (https://family.giantos.com/store/5-voices) 5 Voices for Marriage Course (https://5voices.circle.so/marriage) Connect with us: Instagram: @artofspousing Website: www.artofspousing.com (http://www.artofspousing.com) Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more married couples. ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: Show Notes contain affiliate links. If you click and make a purchase, we may earn a small commission that helps keep the mics on!

2. 

   16 Mar 2026

   How to Build Emotional Safety in Your Marriage

   What makes a marriage feel emotionally safe? In this episode of The Art of Spousing, James and Lisa talk about one of the most important foundations of a healthy marriage: emotional safety. Because most couples do not struggle because they do not love each other. They struggle because it does not always feel safe to share what is really happening inside. Together, they unpack seven practical ways to create a safer emotional environment in your marriage. They walk through three things couples need to avoid criticism, contempt, and defensiveness and four practices that help emotional intimacy grow: forgiveness, validation, compromise, and seeking outside help when needed. This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply encouraging for couples who want to move from surface level interaction to deeper connection. Whether your marriage feels tense, disconnected, or simply ready for a healthier rhythm, this episode will help you take one intentional step toward greater trust, vulnerability, and closeness. What You’ll Learn / Key Points Why emotional safety is essential for emotional intimacy in marriage How criticism quietly erodes trust and connection The difference between being a problem identifier and a problem solver Why empathy matters even when you do not fully agree How contempt damages respect and creates distance Why defensiveness blocks healing and honest communication How forgiveness restores connection and rebuilds safety Why validating feelings does not mean agreeing with everything How compromise helps couples move toward each other with maturity When seeking counseling or coaching is wise, not a sign of failure Simple ways to create communication non-negotiables in your marriage How small intentional practices help your marriage live with clarity, lead with love, and last with strength Links & Resources: Marriage Intensive (https://www.artofspousing.com/) (reset, rebuild, find common ground) Schedule a call with James & Lisa (https://calendly.com/d/cwq6-57k-3nd/marriage-discovery-call) The Collective (https://art-of-spousing.circle.so/Collective) (online community for marriage rhythms) Weekly Practice Email (https://mailchi.mp/artofspousing/weeklypractise) (sent every Monday) 5 Voices Resources: Take a FREE 5 Voices Assessment (https://family.giantos.com/store/5-voices) 5 Voices for Marriage Course (https://5voices.circle.so/marriage) Connect With Us: Instagram: @artofspousing (https://www.instagram.com/artofspousing/) Website: www.artofspousing.com (http://www.artofspousing.com/) Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more married couples! Disclaimer: Show notes may contain affiliate links. If you click and make a purchase, we may earn a small commission that helps keep the mics on!

3. 

   2 Mar 2026

   The Power of Positivity: How to Bring Light Instead of Gloom to Your Marriage

   Have you ever noticed how some couples just radiate joy while others seem to carry a cloud of negativity wherever they go? After 33 years of marriage, James and Lisa have discovered that the difference often comes down to one powerful choice: the intentional decision to bring light instead of gloom into your marriage. In this episode, they dive deep into what it really means to cultivate positivity in marriage. This isn't about faking happiness or pretending everything's perfect—it's about the daily practice of choosing to focus on what's right, building emotional safety, and creating an atmosphere where both spouses can thrive. You'll learn practical tools for positive attribution, the science behind gratitude, and how to rewire your brain to notice the good in your relationship. Key Points You'll Learn: • Why positivity is a practice, not a personality trait • How your reticular activating system affects what you notice in your marriage • The power of positive attribution and assuming the best about your spouse's intentions • How to create emotional safety that allows for vulnerability without fear • The 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions needed for healthy marriages • Three practical gratitude exercises to transform your marriage atmosphere • Why gratitude is the ultimate mindset reset button • How to be your spouse's biggest cheerleader and personal champion Links & Resources: Marriage Intensive (https://www.artofspousing.com/) (reset, rebuild, find common ground) Schedule a call with James & Lisa (https://calendly.com/d/cwq6-57k-3nd/marriage-discovery-call) The Collective (https://art-of-spousing.circle.so/Collective) (online community for marriage rhythms) Weekly Practice Email (https://mailchi.mp/artofspousing/weeklypractise) (sent every Monday) 5 Voices Resources: Take a FREE 5 Voices Assessment (https://family.giantos.com/store/5-voices) 5 Voices for Marriage Course (https://5voices.circle.so/marriage) Previous Episodes: Think Together, Not Alike: How to Make Decisions as a Team (https://share.transistor.fm/s/73eadd56) Unleashing the Power of Grace: Strengthen Your Marriage Through Humility (https://share.transistor.fm/s/7dc6c6c4) Connect With Us: Instagram: @artofspousing (https://www.instagram.com/artofspousing/) Website: www.artofspousing.com (http://www.artofspousing.com/) Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more married couples! Disclaimer: Show notes may contain affiliate links. If you click and make a purchase, we may earn a small commission that helps keep the mics on!

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Engagement

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