Would You Rather Be Ghosted or Manipulated Into Leaving?
We're asking a wild but honest question: Would you rather be ghosted… or manipulated into leaving a relationship?
From ghosting to gaslighting, we unpack the reality of modern dating and why so many people struggle to end relationships the right way.
We talk about:
Why ghosting has become so normal
Emotional manipulation in relationships
Why people avoid difficult conversations
Rejection, pride, and dating in your 20s & 30s
Are we actually dating wrong?
If you've ever been ghosted, confused in a relationship, or struggled to let go… this episode is for you.
16 Mar 2026
Your Friendships Aren't Low Maintenance, You are Just Not Trying
Why do friendships suddenly feel harder as adults?
At some point in your late 20s, something changes. Friends get married, careers get demanding, people move away, and suddenly the friendships that once felt effortless start to feel… complicated.
In this episode of As Told By Us, we talk about the reality of adult friendships — why people feel lonelier than ever, why we often prioritise romantic relationships over friendships, and what it actually takes to maintain meaningful connections as life evolves.
Have adult friendships become harder, or are we just not putting in the effort anymore?
Let's talk about it.
9 Mar 2026
Freelancing, Unemployment & Dating in This Economy | As Told by Kate & Tawanda Part 2
Last week's conversation was too good to end… so we kept it going.
In this Part 2 episode of As Told By Us, we sit down again with Kate and TJ for a brutally honest conversation about what it actually feels like to be a young adult trying to figure life out in this economy.
We were raised believing the formula was simple: go to school, get your degree, find a stable job, and build a life. But for many millennials and Gen Z today, that formula isn't working the way we were promised.
We talk about the reality of freelancing and inconsistent income, the pressure of hustle culture, moving back home as an adult, dating when you're not where you thought you'd be financially, and what it feels like to watch your peers seemingly "make it" while you're still figuring things out.
The conversation also gets deeply personal as we unpack faith, disappointment, patience, and the emotional weight of feeling like you did everything right… but life still hasn't worked out the way you expected.
This episode is for anyone who feels like they're navigating adulthood without a blueprint.
In this episode we discuss:
• The truth about freelancing vs a 9–5
• Why hustle culture feels unavoidable
• Losing jobs and questioning faith
• Dating expectations and the "provider" debate
• Moving back home and navigating independence
• The pressure of watching others succeed online
• Learning patience in a generation that feels behind
And to close it out, we ask a powerful question:
What would you tell your 38-year-old self?
Join the conversation and let us know — what would you say to your future self?
Follow As Told By Us for more honest conversations about adulting, relationships, money, and life as young Africans navigating the world.
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