Ask, Don't Tell explores the human skills behind better communication, better decisions, and better results. Hosted by bestselling author and keynote speaker Oscar Subirats, each episode features conversations with leaders and high performers about the power of asking better questions, listening, and helping others arrive at their own yes.
Stop Performing Confidence and Start Showing Up with Ann Kiel Dux | #30
What if the key to becoming a more confident communicator isn't learning what to say, but learning how to show up as yourself?
On this episode of Ask, Don't Tell, Oscar sits down with Ann Kiel Dux, executive presence coach and founder of Dux Communications, to explore how to communicate with confidence, build trust, and make a lasting impression when the pressure is on. Ann explains why confidence is the result of consistent practice, not something you can simply turn on, and how aligning your words, tone, and body language helps others feel your authority, not just hear it.
Together, they discuss the power of being fully present, connecting with people who see the world differently, and developing the human skills that set great leaders apart in an AI-driven world. Ann also shares a practical exercise to help you connect with your audience and make your next high-stakes conversation, presentation, or meeting more impactful.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why confidence comes from preparation and practice, not performance.
How to build trust through presence, emotional intelligence, and authentic communication.
Why human skills are becoming more valuable as AI transforms the workplace.
How to create a stronger connection with your audience by focusing on how you want them to feel.
You don't need to become someone else to be a great communicator. You just need to get out of your own way and bring the best version of yourself into the room.
15 Oct 2026
Stop Reacting, Start Reframing with Dr. Ray Catania | #29
What if the key to changing your life isn't controlling what happens to you, but changing how you respond to it?
Dr. Ray Catania is an award-winning author, master certified life coach, and former sales manager who blends science, spirituality, and human behavior to help people break through the subconscious beliefs holding them back. After experiencing a near-death experience, Ray radically changed his relationship with fear, rejection, frustration, and even death, and now teaches others how to shift their mindset and step into their highest potential.
In this episode, Ray and Oscar explore:
• Why your environment can shape your beliefs long before you realize it
• How an attitude of gratitude can completely change the way you experience your day
• Why changing your relationship with death can help you stop worrying about what other people think
• How to become the "director" of your own life instead of reacting to every situation
Sometimes the biggest breakthrough comes from realizing that you don't have to control the world around you. You can control how you meet it. Tune in and discover how a shift in perspective can change everything.
24 Sept 2026
Stop Postponing the Life You Want with AJ Jones | #28
What if the life you keep saying "someday" to is actually waiting for you to take the first step today?
In this episode of Ask, Don't Tell, Oscar sits down with Adrian Jones, founder of More and author of Powered by Authenticity, to talk about what happens when success no longer feels fulfilling. After surviving two major heart attacks and leaving a high-pressure career in financial services, Adrian transformed his own experience into a mission to help high achievers stop postponing the life they truly want.
They explore:
• Why everyone is in sales, whether they realize it or not
• How authenticity, community, and belonging can fuel personal transformation
• Why waiting for a crisis to make a change can make the process even harder
• A simple "I want" exercise to uncover what really matters to you
You don't have to wait for a wake-up call to start living differently. Take a moment, ask yourself what you really want, and take one step toward it this week.
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