Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable?
Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.
Beyond The Diagnosis: Understanding Bipolar with Jeremy Davis
What if understanding your mental health starts with recognizing how you think? Author Jeremy Davis joins us to explore bipolar, internal personas, trauma, and tools for everyone.
In This Episode:
Personas are not the same as Multiple Personality Disorder
Don't need a Diagnosis to Practice these Skills
Seriousness of Diagnosing and treatment for people with Bipolar
Mental Health Resources in Show Notes
Jeremy M. Davis grew up in Mount Vernon, Washington, graduated magna cum laude in Computer Science, and built a software engineering career in Silicon Valley before settling in North Carolina, where he spent years believing the chaos in his mind was just the cost of ambition. Diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2012, he spent the next decade rebuilding through the adoption of his sister’s three children, the end of his first marriage, long-term disability, ECT treatment, and a second chance at life with his wife, Heather. A mixed-state episode in 2026 nearly cost him that, and the fact that it didn’t says everything. Jeremy is not a clinician but someone who has lived this from the inside, and he writes the way he built software: methodically, honestly, and with zero tolerance for code that lies about what it actually does. The Faces of Bipolar is his first book.
Jeremy's Links:
Resources
https://thefacesofbipolar.com/resources/
Buy The Faces of Bipolar (and Workbook)
https://buy.thefacesofbipolar.com (https://buy.thefacesofbipolar.com/)
Book Website
https://www.thefacesofbipolar.com (https://www.thefacesofbipolar.com/)
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/thefacesofbipolar (https://www.facebook.com/thefacesofbipolar)
Moniques Links:
How to Seek Help (Diagnosis and Treatment)
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help
Responsibility Pie (From Book- Mind Over Mood)
https://content.app-sources.com/s/66784056449848413/uploads/PDFS/Responsibility_Pie-7392629.pdf
What is Internal Family Systems Therapy?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy
Intro Coaching Session with Monique
https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session
Other Book Recommendations:
Companion Workbook by Jeremy Davis
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HLDS9CMC?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_9N8F66J44F3948MTBENH&bestFormat=true
An Unquiet Mind
https://a.co/d/0e0R2ebE
Not The Chancla: How Awareness of Our History and Trauma Create Compassion to Rewrite Our Future
https://a.co/d/0dk6fd3d
Thank you for listening
26 Oct 2026
Why You Can't Just Calm Down
What if the reason you keep spiraling isn't simply that you're feeling too much? What if your body is responding to a perceived threat, your mind is trying to make sense of it, and your beliefs are turning uncertainty into certainty?
In this episode we review Education from Season 1, discuss how Safety and Capacity need to be the floor boards for befriending your nervous system and tools that simmer down your spiral.
Why its hard to practice skills to self regulate
Spiral Brain, Anxiety Window and Survival Mode are the same
Expand your capacity for fear with acknowledging truths
Body Based Regulation Tools
Episodes in This Episode:
What is Trauma?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1lVg9wDuD2INKHdubzb87o?si=Gqy6ySCWQkO-xKCwkXQx1Q
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/avoidance-and-control/id1717846722?i=1000638913987
The Window of Tolerance
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mTmugoL6wNMrlQ8FFrrfS?si=RvUKfkfVTOCqhJitw5MnkA
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/avoidance-and-control/id1717846722?i=1000641681684
Image Resources from This Episode
(Window of Tolerance, Tools for Avoidance, Tools for Control)
https://dtheal.org/mh-resources#imageresources
Intro Coaching Session:
https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session
My Book
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMNVVWWS?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_A47JWXQ4SN1A2GQKY4HB&bestFormat=true
Low Ticket and Free Groups
https://www.eventbrite.com/o/47342140343
19 Oct 2026
The Necessary Work of Rage & Grief with Jana Bryant
You cannot come to calm when your body is raging or trying to grief. Peace doesn’t come from escaping the messiness of being human. It comes from learning to stay present with what hurts without turning pain into a diagnosis, an assumption, a punishment, or a spiritual bypass.
You cannot bypass your way out of the grief of being human. You can reframe it, diagnose it, spiritualize it, or stay silent about it.
But unprocessed pain doesn't always disappear. Sometimes it becomes the distance between you and the people you love.
Jana is a Human Systems Strategist, former pastor, founder of Permission to Be, and host of Up Shift’s Creek. Her work sits at the intersection of identity, relationships, religious conditioning, discernment, and emotional integration, helping people recognize the invisible patterns shaping their lives so they can move beyond understanding and begin living differently. She is also the creator of the RAAGD™ Framework and Reality Distortion Index™.
Jana Links:
website
www.permissiontobe.org (http://www.permissiontobe.org/)
Podcast
https://www.youtube.com/@UpShiftsCreek
Reality Distortion Index
https://tally.so/r/ODk95k
Moniques Links
https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session
Free and low ticket events
https://www.eventbrite.com/o/47342140343
Not The Chancla: How Awareness of Our History & Trauma Create Compassion to Rewrite Our Future
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMNVVWWS?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420
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