For the mums who can’t help but yap about it all 🤪 the highs, the heartbreaks, the hilarious bits, and the healing.
Becoming Both is a personal, conversational mix of stories, confessions, and unfiltered chats about motherhood, relationships, identity, and the whole “who even am I now?” of it all.
Hosted by Doula Marley, this podcast is like your favourite group chat come to life - honest, comforting, and sometimes a little too real.
Life Update & Lessons I Learnt After One Of The Hardest Times Of My Life
HELLO FRIENDS! It has been so long..
In this solo episode, I'm back after a bit of a break, because honestly, life has been life-ing. I'm constantly reminding myself that this podcast does not have to be perfect to be worth showing up for.
I give you a quick rundown of our Bali trip with friends. Ayana felt a bit sterile if I'm honest, but Melia was amazing, especially with kids in tow. I also chat about what work looks like right now, still nannying while I build my counselling business, and a possible short term demi pair from Germany who might come and give us a bit more breathing room!! Love that for us.
My son has started mid year school entry and is doing really well, just extra tired, which makes sense and now he is off on this next chapter I'm loving getting extra one on one time with Sophie. I've also finally clawed my way back into Pilates and the gym (after a brutal flu completely wiped me out) after 2 years of feeling very lost with my exercise I am soo excited to get back into it!
Then I get into something heavier. . I open up about a major betrayal 12 months from someone very close to me, the immense grief & heartbreak that has come with it after it rocked a lot of relationships around me, as well the lack of closure I think I will be forever sitting with. It really changed how I view family dynamics and the love and care I want to show my own children as they become adults as well as the importance of fostering healthy and loving sibling bonds.
I also share some reflections on the Lindsay Clancy case, because it is such an important reminder of how seriously we need to take maternal mental health, support, and proper care.
I would love to connect! You can find me over on Instagram at @doulamarley and @counsellormarley, and you can follow the podcast at @becomingboth.
2 Jul 2026
I Think About Having A Third Baby Daily...
Hi friends!
Tonight I’m talking about something that has been on my mind every single blooody day... whether we should have a third baby.
My heart feels so clucky.. I love the idea of another little person, another sibling for Jamie and Sophie, and growing the family I've always imagined. Buuuuut my head keeps reminding me of everything that comes with that decision..
In this episode I'm unpacking the constant back and forth between what my heart wants and what real life looks like. I chat about finally reaching a stage where life feels easier now that Sophie is two, and whether we're willing to jump back into pregnancy, birth, postpartum and all the hard, beautiful chaos that comes with starting again.
I also share the things that genuinely make me hesitate, from my really difficult second pregnancy and birth experience, to running my own business, not having much of a village, finances, travel, school fees, and wondering whether we have the capacity to give another child the life we'd want for them.
But I also talk about the other side of it. The excitement of meeting another little soul. Watching another personality grow. Seeing Jamie and Sophie become older siblings again. The family I always pictured, and why closing the door on that dream feels much harder than I expected.
If you've ever felt torn between what your heart wants and what makes the most sense on paper, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.
If you enjoyed this episode, I'd love if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need to hear it.
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30 Jun 2026
How Much Housework Should A Father Do? We Chat Domestic Load & How It Should Be Split
Hi friends!
After an unexpected three-week break, we're back! In this episode of Becoming Both, I convince Tyron to join me with about five minutes' notice before we head off to Bali for a family holiday.
We start with a little life update.. how we're surviving winter, finally getting a little more sleep, Sophie's determined personality, and the reminder that every stage of parenting is just that: a season.
From there, we dive into a conversation that comes up in almost every family at some point: the mental load.
We chat openly about how we divide responsibilities in our own home (we'd probably call it a 60/40 split), what has worked for us, and where we've had to learn along the way. We explore why it's often not the big jobs that create resentment, but the constant stream of invisible tasks that keep a household running.
As someone with diagnosed ADHD, I also share how constant interruptions from young children can leave me feeling mentally overloaded, and why practical support isn't just about "helping".. it's about sharing responsibility.
We also unpack topics like weaponized incompetence, micromanaging, differing standards around housework, and why expressing appreciation for each other's efforts can go a long way.
This isn't about blaming mums or dads. It's an honest conversation about building a partnership where both people feel seen, supported, and valued.
In this episode we discuss:
The mental load of parenting
Sharing household responsibilities
Parenting as a partnership
Invisible labour and resentment
ADHD and overstimulation in motherhood
Weaponized incompetence
Different standards and priorities at home
Communication around domestic labour
Appreciation and gratitude in relationships
Why motherhood is work, even when you're at home
Whether you're the parent carrying most of the mental load or you're trying to better understand your partner's experience, I hope this conversation encourages more empathy, more teamwork, and a few practical takeaways you can use in your own home.
As always, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Come and continue the conversation over on Instagram @doulamarley @becomingboth
Appreciate the support and feedback as usual!
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