Been there, done that, now what?

About Been there, done that, now what?

Unfiltered. Unfinished. Real. This isn’t a guru podcast. It’s two people who’ve lived through chaos, survival mode, addiction, identity shifts and rebuilding from the ground up — now asking the question most people avoid: Now what? We talk about growth without pretending we’ve mastered it. Outgrowing old versions of yourself. Trusting calm when your nervous system prefers drama. ADHD brains. Relationships after chaos. The uncomfortable side of becoming better. It’s deep — but it’s not dull. There’s laughter. There’s calling each other out. There’s real talk without the fake motivation. Street experience meets self-development. Hard truths, proper humour, and conversations for people who’ve earned their growth. If you are treading water in life you’ve survived something and you’re ready for the next level — welcome.

Publisher

Terry and Clair

Category

education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

12 Feb 2026

Latest episode

8 Jun 2026

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   8 Jun 2026

   Been there - Ate that

   The conversation delves into the complex relationship between food and mental health, exploring the impact of #dopamine, #addiction, and emotional eating. It also addresses body image, self-esteem, and the challenges of food preparation and planning. Strategies for managing food cravings are discussed, emphasizing the importance of support and understanding. #mentalhealth #adhd #life Takeaways Food addiction is influenced by dopamine and can have a significant impact on mental health. Binge eating and emotional eating are linked to unresolved emotional issues and can affect self-esteem and body image. Chapters 00:00 The Food Dilemma 08:26 The Impact of Food on Mental Health 22:12 Body Image and Self-Esteem 34:52 Strategies for Managing Food Cravings

2. 

   22 May 2026

   Fixes that didn't fix you

   The conversation delves into the reality of living life with ADHD and addiction, exploring the messy middle of the journey. It discusses the search for external fixes and the role of spirituality in recovery, providing insights into the challenges and experiences of individuals navigating these complex issues. Takeaways Seeking external fixes The role of spirituality in recovery Chapters 00:00 The Role of Spirituality in Recovery #ADHD #Recovery #Mentalhealth

3. 

   28 Apr 2026

   Social Anxiety

   This week's podcast conversation delves into the challenges of #social anxiety, #negative self-talk, #addiction, #alcoholism and the impact on #relationships. It explores the factors contributing to social anxiety, #copingmechanisms, and the struggle with #self-esteem and addiction. Terry and Clair discuss the need for understanding, support, and the complexity of #mentalhealth. Takeaways Navigating #socialanxiety and self-judgment Impact of childhood experiences on mental health Chapters 00:00 Navigating Peaks and Troughs 05:14 Factors Contributing to Social Anxiety 10:14 Impact of Childhood Experiences 15:24 Seeking Understanding and Support 21:10 Struggle with Taking Action

4. 

   18 Apr 2026

   Celebrating Seven Years of Sobriety

   As they discuss Terry's 7-year sobriety birthday, the conversation covers the journey of #sobriety, personal growth, and the challenges faced in maintaining a #soberlifestyle. It delves into the #emotional and identity-related aspects of sobriety, as well as the impact on #relationships and experiences. The speakers reflect on the changes and #growth they have experienced over the years. Takeaways Seven years of sobriety Personal growth and maturity #addiction #recovery #alcoholism Chapters 00:00 Setting Up and New Beginnings 10:12 Challenges and Growth 23:31 Dealing with Feelings and Identity 32:45 Personal Growth and Maturity

5. 

   11 Apr 2026

   Coming back swinging

   The conversation explores the positive attributes of #recovery and the concept of #ADHD as a superpower. It delves into the #resilience and strength associated with ADHD, highlighting the highs and lows of the condition. The hosts share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the transformative nature of ADHD and its impact on their lives. Takeaways ADHD as a Superpower Resilience and Strength Chapters 00:00 ADHD as a Superpower

6. 

   27 Mar 2026

   ADHD Love Bombing

   The conversation delves into the complexity of relationships, exploring the impact of ADHD, addiction, attachment wounds, and the search for love and trust. It also highlights the phenomenon of love bombing and hyperfocus in relationships, shedding light on the challenges and dynamics of romantic connections. Takeaways Love bombing Hyperfocus in relationships #ADHD #ADDICTION #PODCASTING #PODCAST Chapters 00:00 The Role of Hyperfocus in Relationships

7. 

   15 Mar 2026

   Rejection Sensitivity

   Terry and Clair discuss rejection sensitivity and its impact on their lives, relationships, and personal growth. They explore the connection between rejection sensitivity, trauma, attachment, and ADHD, and the challenges of self-improvement and self-acceptance. Takeaways Rejection sensitivity impacts relationships Self-improvement can be a lifelong journey Chapters 00:00 Understanding Rejection Sensitivity 06:21 Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance 18:14 The Pursuit of Contentment

8. 

   6 Mar 2026

   Sober dancing

   The conversation delves into the themes of self-discovery and acceptance, exploring the journey of #findingoneself, evolving, navigating #sobriety, and embracing the process of self-acceptance. It also touches on unlearning societal expectations and embracing the aging process. The dialogue provides insights into the complexities of personal growth and the challenges of self-acceptance. Takeaways #Selfdiscovery #Acceptance Chapters 00:00 Finding Ourselves 12:26 Navigating Sobriety and Identity 30:15 The Journey of Self-Acceptance 44:13 Unlearning and Embracing Aging

9. 

   27 Feb 2026

   Enmeshment?

   The conversation delves into the impact of #ADHD on #addiction, #self-sabotage, and #selfacceptance. It also explores the experiences of #ADHDdiagnosis, childhood #trauma, #grief, and #hyperfixations. The theme of understanding oneself and finding acceptance is prevalent throughout the discussion. Takeaways ADHD and its impact on addiction and self-sabotage The struggle with acceptance and understanding oneself Chapters 00:00 ADHD and Self-Sabotage 06:36 ADHD Diagnosis and Childhood Experiences 11:51 ADHD and Books 16:57 ADHD and Childhood Experiences 23:32 ADHD and Grief 29:23 ADHD and Self-Acceptance

10. 

    21 Feb 2026

    Think like Tel

    The conversation delves into Terrys childhood trauma, family dynamics, and early introduction to alcohol and drug use. It then explores encounters with Alcoholics Anonymous and the Young Offenders Institution, followed by a discussion on rehabilitation and determination to change. The impact on family and personal growth is also highlighted. The conversation covers Terry's journey of transformation, from meeting Elena to overcoming addiction and finding purpose. It explores the impact of sobriety on his life, the challenges he faced, and the positive changes he experienced. Terry's reflections on his past behavior and personal growth are highlighted, along with the role of visualization and manifestation in his life. Takeaways Childhood trauma and its impact Struggles with addiction and self-medication Visualization Overcoming addiction Chapters 00:00 Childhood Trauma and Family Dynamics 08:00 Rehabilitation and Determination to Change 13:13 Impact on Family and Personal Growth 22:09 New Beginnings and Meeting Eleanor 28:21 Transition to a Sober Lifestyle 35:54 Manifestation and Life Changes

11. 

    12 Feb 2026

    Clair from where?

    The conversation delves into Clair's journey of recovery and the struggles with addiction. It explores the challenges faced, the turning points, and the reflections on the recovery journey. Takeaways Recovery Journey Struggles with Addiction Chapters 00:00 Reflecting on the Recovery Journey

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