Are you ready to go from the devastation of divorce to the reclamation of your entire life? Well, Queen, you’ve arrived at the perfect place! Welcome to Better After Divorce, the podcast dedicated to empowering women on their journey to reign with confidence, passion, and power in royal fashion.
This is where we embrace the up-level, the evolution, your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Whether you’re picking up the pieces or building an empire, this space is yours to rise, reign, and thrive. Time to claim your power and become the fierce unstoppable Queen you were born to be.
We Never Went Out on a Weekend
Dating after divorce: what you tolerate in month one becomes the relationship.
We never went out on a weekend. Not once. And I never asked why, because I already knew. In this episode, I walk you through every guy who came through my dating funnel after divorce, the part I didn’t put in the article, and the question that changed what I let in.
IN THIS EPISODE
→ Red Light, Green Light: two months in, weeknights only, and he’s “not big on labels”
→ The text-only guy, the still-married guy, the guy with eight kids, and the one I matched with twice
→ The four years I couldn’t even see men, and what that taught me about patterns
→ Why my relationships always felt like the scaffolding was still up
→ The two questions to ask before your next date
→ Why there’s no rejection, only mismatch
→ How your pattern runs game on you, not just on him
REFERENCE
→ Companion article: It Wasn’t the Men. It Was What I Kept Tolerating (https://coachivy.substack.com/p/it-wasnt-the-men-it-was-what-i-kept?r=2tv4zd&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web)
→ Related episode: the dating game episode: You Were So Busy Being Chosen You Never Chose Him (https://coachivy.substack.com/p/you-were-so-busy-being-chosen-you-cfb?r=2tv4zd&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web)
JOIN ME LIVE
Choose, Don’t Chase: Stop Repeating the Heartbreak (https://coachivy.substack.com/p/choose-dont-chase-stop-repeating?r=2tv4zd&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web). Live on Zoom, Wednesday, October 28, 7 PM ET. Your $27 seat comes with a free plus-one. Bring the friend who shares your pattern.
FOUNDING MEMBERS
The extended segment: why I’m single on purpose, and what my Michelin three-star list looks like now. Subscribe to Better After Divorce on Substack (http://coachivy.substack.com/subscribe).
IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED
Send it to the friend who keeps telling you he’s “fine.”
COACH IVY RESOURCES
→ 🧩 Find your pattern — Get the free Dating Pattern Guide when you subscribe (https://coachivy.substack.com/subscribe)
→ 🧭 Go deeper — Schedule your Archetype Breakthrough Session (https://mailchi.mp/lifecoachivy/archetypebreakthroughsession)
→ 🚦 Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to coachivy@lifecoachivy.com (mailto:coachivy@lifecoachivy.com) — subject line: RLGL
→ ⭐ Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode.
CONNECT WITH COACH IVY
Instagram: @coachivyvine (https://www.instagram.com/coachivyvine/)
Facebook: CoachIvy (https://www.facebook.com/CoachIvy/)
Substack: Better Dating After Divorce (https://coachivy.substack.com/)
Coach Ivy · #SelfEvolutionRevolution · Notice. Name. Choose Differently.
10 Oct 2026
The Heartbreak You Keep Choosing
🎟️ Choose, Don't Chase: Stop Repeating the Heartbreak
Live on Zoom · Wednesday, October 28 · 7 PM Eastern
$27, and every seat comes with a free plus one. Bring the girlfriend who's dating the same guy with a different name.
Save your seat → [event link]
IN THIS EPISODE
→ Red Light Green Light: he texts every day, sends flowers and poetry, but never makes plans to see you in person
→ Why consistency isn't enough, and what to look for instead: congruency
→ The three endings: unavailable, incompatible, noncommittal
→ Why smart women miss the pattern, and why it feels like chemistry
→ The "no labels" speech, and what I finally understood about my own pattern
→ The five archetypes running underneath your choices
→ Why a sovereign woman chooses instead of chasing
REFERENCE
→ The Wedding Date (2005), the source of Nick Mercer's line "Every woman has the exact love life she wants."
IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED
Send it to the friend who keeps saying "it's not the same thing." Then bring her to the 28th. Her seat's on me.
COACH IVY RESOURCES
→ 🧩 Find your pattern — Get the free Dating Pattern Guide when you subscribe (https://coachivy.substack.com/subscribe)
→ 🧭 Go deeper — Schedule your Archetype Breakthrough Session (https://mailchi.mp/lifecoachivy/archetypebreakthroughsession)
→ 🚦 Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to coachivy@lifecoachivy.com (mailto:coachivy@lifecoachivy.com) — subject line: RLGL
→ ⭐ Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode.
CONNECT WITH COACH IVY
Instagram: @coachivyvine (https://www.instagram.com/coachivyvine/)
Facebook: CoachIvy (https://www.facebook.com/CoachIvy/)
Substack: Better Dating After Divorce (https://coachivy.substack.com/)
Coach Ivy · #SelfEvolutionRevolution · Notice. Name. Choose Differently.
28 Sept 2026
Every Man You Date Is Being Asked to Prove You're Not Broken
Every Man You Date Is Being Asked to Prove You're Not Broken
For years I dated as proof I wasn’t broken. Every man was evidence for a case I didn’t know I was building. This week I’m telling the origin story behind all of this work — the pattern I ran in dating, and the same pattern I found running everywhere else in my life.
IN THIS EPISODE
→ A Red Light Green Light on liking him vs. liking that he likes you
→ Why "the work" I did after my divorce didn’t touch the actual pattern
→ The sentence that cracked it open: it wasn’t the men, it was my pattern, my frame, my belief
→ Where this same pattern showed up outside of dating — brain fog, work, asking for help
→ Why I believe dating, leadership, and every role you play are the same subject wearing different clothes
REFERENCE
Companion article: The Forgotten Reason You Forgot: Menopause Brain Fog (https://coachivy.substack.com/p/the-forgotten-reason-you-forgot-menopause?r=2tv4zd)
Related episode: Being Single on Purpose (https://coachivy.substack.com/p/being-single-on-purpose-8f2?r=2tv4zd&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web)
IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED
Send it to a woman who’s still building a case for the defense. She doesn’t need a better man. She needs to see the pattern.
COACH IVY RESOURCES
→ 🧩 Find your pattern — Get the free Dating Pattern Guide when you subscribe (https://coachivy.substack.com/subscribe)
→ 🧭 Go deeper — Schedule your Archetype Breakthrough Session (https://mailchi.mp/lifecoachivy/archetypebreakthroughsession)
→ 🚦 Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to coachivy@lifecoachivy.com (mailto:coachivy@lifecoachivy.com) — subject line: RLGL
→ ⭐ Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode.
CONNECT WITH COACH IVY
Instagram: @coachivyallen (https://www.instagram.com/coachivyallen/)
Facebook: CoachIvy (https://www.facebook.com/CoachIvy/)
Substack: Better Dating After Divorce (https://coachivy.substack.com/)
Coach Ivy · #SelfEvolutionRevolution · Notice. Name. Choose Differently.
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