Better in Theory is a podcast unpacking the gap between what looks good online and what actually feels good in real life. From dating and beauty standards to ambition, confidence, social media, and modern relationships, exploring the realities behind the aesthetics through honest conversations, personal stories, and unfiltered opinions.
We rarely say it out loud, but most of us keep an invisible scoreboard in our relationships. Who texted first. Who made the plans. Who apologized. Who's putting in more effort. But what if that habit is quietly damaging the very relationships we're trying to protect? In this episode, I talk about why the healthiest relationships aren't built on perfect 50/50 balance, the difference between generosity and being taken advantage of, and why paying attention to patterns matters more than counting points.
18 Aug 2026
Better in Theory: The Grass Isn't Greener, It's Just Different
Being single isn't easy. Neither is being in a relationship.
We spend so much time believing happiness exists on the other side of our relationship status that we forget every season comes with tradeoffs. In this episode, I talk about the freedom of being single, the loneliness that can come with it, the sacrifices that relationships require, and why I think we're all a little guilty of romanticizing the life we don't have.
Maybe the goal isn't to rush into the next chapter. Maybe it's learning to fully live the one you're already in.
11 Aug 2026
Better in Theory: Your Job Is Not Your Identity
We spend thousands of hours building our careers—but somewhere along the way, many of us start believing that what we do is who we are. In this episode, I explore why your job should be a means to building the life you want, not the defining piece of your identity. We talk about work culture, ambition, burnout, productivity, and what happens when our self-worth becomes tied to a job title. Because at the end of the day, your résumé tells people how you make money but your life tells people who you are.
4 Aug 2026
Episode 10: Why do We Stay Too Long?
Why do we stay in relationships that no longer fulfill us? Jobs we've outgrown? Friendships we've quietly stopped enjoying? In this episode, I explore the psychology behind why leaving is often so difficult—even when we know it's the right decision. From sunk-cost fallacy to fear of the unknown, we unpack why holding on can feel safer than moving forward, and why sometimes the hardest decision is also the healthiest one.
28 Jul 2026
Episode 9: Cringe Culture
When did trying become "cringe"?
In this episode, I dive into the culture of making fun of people who put themselves out there whether they're posting content, chasing big goals, building a business, or trying to become an influencer. Somewhere along the way, we started rewarding cynicism and mocking ambition, and I think that's backwards.
The people who create, take risks, and keep showing up despite the judgment are the ones who change their lives. So why are we so quick to criticize them instead of cheering them on?
Let's talk about why caring less about looking "cool" and more about pursuing what excites you might be one of the most freeing decisions you can make. Because the people calling you cringe usually aren't the ones brave enough to put themselves out there.
7 Jul 2026
The Modern Dating Nightmare
Dating has never been more connected, yet somehow we've never been worse at communicating.
In this episode, I dive into the culture that's made situationships feel normal, drama feel exciting, and honest conversations feel almost impossible. We talk about why so many people avoid difficult conversations, how social media has changed the way we date, and why healthy relationships can sometimes feel "boring" after being conditioned to chase chaos.
If you've ever questioned modern dating, found yourself stuck in a situationship, or wondered why genuine communication feels so rare, this episode is for you.
Let's unpack the habits we've normalized and what it might look like to date differently.
30 Jun 2026
Success Doesn't Feel Like I Thought It Would
I always thought hitting certain milestones would feel different. The promotion. The salary. The accomplishments. Instead of feeling like I "made it," I found myself asking, Is this it?
In this episode, I'm talking about the expectations we attach to success, why achievement doesn't automatically create fulfillment, and what I'm learning about finding purpose beyond the next goal.
23 Jun 2026
Better in Theory Episode 5: Nobody Prepared Me for My 20s
Your 20s are supposed to be the "best years of your life," but no one talks about how overwhelming they can be. In this episode, I share what I've learned about ambition, relationships, comparison, loneliness, and building a life that actually feels like your own. If you've ever felt behind, this one's for you.
16 Jun 2026
Better in Theory Ep4: Addressing Isolation during Self Improvement
We often hear about the exciting side of self-improvement—the promotions, the glow-ups, the new opportunities. What nobody talks about is how lonely growth can feel while you're in the middle of it.
In this episode of Better in Theory, I'm talking about the unexpected isolation that can come with changing your life. From outgrowing relationships and learning to rely on yourself, to building something meaningful when no one else seems as invested as you are, this conversation is for anyone who's ever felt alone on their journey.
If you've been questioning friendships, feeling disconnected, or wondering why growth doesn't always feel as rewarding as social media makes it seem, this episode is for you. Because sometimes loneliness isn't a sign that you're doing something wrong, it's a sign that you're becoming someone new.
9 Jun 2026
Better in Theory Ep3: The Cost of Being Attractive
In this episode of Better in Theory, we're talking about beauty, confidence, self-improvement, and the pressure to constantly optimize ourselves. Living in South Florida has made me question a lot of the things we accept as normal from cosmetic procedures and fitness culture to social media validation and the idea that we're always one step away from being "better."
At what point does self-improvement become self-rejection? Are we actually becoming more confident, or are we just getting better at performing confidence? Let's talk about it.
3 Jun 2026
Better in Theory Ep2: Walking with Jesus in Miami
In a city built on ambition, nightlife, beauty, and hustle… what does it actually look like to walk with God?
In this episode of Better in Theory, Ashlee and Ashtyn have an honest conversation about navigating faith while living in modern culture , especially somewhere like Miami. From social media and appearance culture to money, dating, temptation, ambition, and the pressure to “make it,” they unpack the tension so many young adults feel but rarely talk about openly.
This isn’t a perfect-Christian conversation or a sermon, it’s a real discussion about trying to follow Jesus while still figuring life out.
If you’ve ever felt torn between faith and the lifestyle around you, this episode is for you.
Topics include:
• Faith & modern culture
• Miami nightlife & temptation
• Social media and self image
• Ambition, money & success
• Dating & relationships
• Beauty standards & validation
• Walking with God imperfectly
• Finding purpose beyond appearances
Because sometimes what looks fulfilling in theory… feels very different in reality.
27 May 2026
Better in Theory Ep1: Why Are We Trying so Hard?
This week on Better in Theory, we’re unpacking confidence, beauty standards, validation, and what it actually feels like to navigate modern womanhood in a world that constantly tells us who we should be.From self-care and self-improvement to social media, insecurity, appearance culture, and the pressure to “have it all together,” we get honest about the contradictions women live with every day. Is confidence real or something we perform? Is self-care helping us or becoming another expectation to live up to? And at what point does self-improvement turn into self-obsession?This isn’t advice. It’s a real conversation.If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting to improve yourself and wanting to accept yourself, questioned beauty standards while still participating in them, or wondered how much of confidence is genuine versus curated — this episode is for you.Welcome to Better in Theory, where we unpack the things that sound better in theory than they feel in real life.✨ Subscribe for new episodes💭 Comment your thoughts below: What sounds better in theory than it actually is?#Podcast #BetterInTheory #Confidence #SelfCare #WomenPodcast #Miami #ModernWomanhood #SelfImprovement #SocialMedia #PrettyPrivilege
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