- 12
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- 2024
- First episode
About Beyond Compatibility
Beyond Compatibility explores what truly makes relationships work in today’s world. Hosted by Lucas, a tech entrepreneur with a passion for human connection, the podcast dives into topics like modern dating, the loneliness epidemic, and the role of technology in relationships. With expert guests from psychology, relationship coaching, and tech, we uncover practical insights on building meaningful, lasting connections in an increasingly complex world.
- Publisher
- Lucas Lober
- Category
- society & culture
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- No
- First episode
- 12 Sept 2024
- Latest episode
- 11 Apr 2025
Latest episodes
12 episodes in the feed.
11 Apr 2025
S012 – Dating App Burnout? This Woman Built a Wildly Successful Singles Club Instead! No Swiping. No Ghosting. Real Love Starts with a Run!
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Victoria Brito, the founder of FitMeet Berlin—a fitness and social club helping singles in Berlin connect through shared movement, games, and low-pressure events. Victoria shares her own experience dating in Berlin for five years, the dating fatigue that inspired her to take action, and how she built a thriving community of over 3,000 members. 💡 About Victoria:Originally from Brazil and raised in the US, Victoria blends warmth, humor, and strategic thinking to create real-world spaces where singles can meet intentionally—without the stress of dating apps. Through running events, volleyball, yoga, and even themed games, she's changing the dating narrative, one meetup at a time. We dive into: 📍 Why Victoria quit the apps and how offline dating changed her perspective 📍 The magic of shared physical activity—what running reveals about someone's character 📍 How FitMeet uses black clothing as a subtle signal of availability 📍 The importance of vibe-checks over high-pressure speed dating 📍 How the community grew from a WhatsApp message to thousands of members 📍 Navigating dating with honesty and respect: Victoria’s golden rules for showing up 📍 Dating fatigue, love bombing, and Berlin’s unique challenges 📍 The future of FitMeet: from Berlin to a multinational network Whether you’re tired of swiping or just want a new way to meet kind, like-minded people, this episode is packed with laughs, stories, and real talk about building connection in a disconnected world. 🎧 Tune in and let’s dive in! 📌 Follow Victoria! 🔗 Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/vic_vsb/) 📌 Follow FitMeet! 🔗 Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/fitmeet.berlin/) 📌 Follow Beyond Compatibility! 🔗 YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) 🔗 TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) 🔗 LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) 🔗 Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat) 00:00 Quick Promo 02:00 Meet Victoria Brito! 04:00 What Exactly Is FitMeet? 10:24 From Dating Fatigue to Founding a Movement 12:16 Why Dating in Big Cities Feels So Broken 15:08 How a Running Club Turned Into a Dating Revolution 21:41 Real Love Stories from FitMeet 23:09 Honest Dating Tips for Men 28:42 The Wild Story of How Victoria Met Her Boyfriend 34:02 Dating Advice for Women: Be Open, Be Kind 36:15 The Future of FitMeet & Victoria’s Vision 43:45 The Rise of Offline Dating & What’s Changing 44:44 Berlin Dating Horror Stories (You’ll Relate) 51:07 Men vs. Women: Building Understanding, Not Walls 54:16 Final Thoughts & How to Connect with Victoria
19 Mar 2025
S011 - Online Dating Expert Reveals What REALLY Works! w/Anna Robbert
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Anna Robbert, Country Manager for Germany at Meetic, part of Match Group, to discuss the present and future of online dating. Anna has spent years working behind the scenes at some of the world's biggest dating apps, helping singles find love and navigate the complexities of digital matchmaking. 💡 About Anna: Anna Robbert brings more than a decade of experience in communications and marketing. From PR strategies for global lifestyle brands to destigmatizing online dating in German-speaking countries, she has an impressive track record. Since 2023, as Country Manager DACH, she has been responsible for Even, LoveScout24, Neu.de, and Zweisam. She bridges local market needs with global campaigns from Meetic’s headquarters in Paris. We dive deep into: 📍 The challenges of dating as a single parent, including how 69% of German single parents report being ghosted after revealing they have kids. 📍 The overwhelming number of choices in dating apps, and why too many options might be making dating harder, not easier. 📍 The dating fatigue phenomenon—how swiping too much can lead to burnout, and tips to avoid frustration while using apps. 📍 The differences in dating experiences between men and women, including why men swipe right 40 times to get a match and how women manage overwhelming attention. 📍 Affinity-based dating apps—why niche platforms catering to specific groups (50+ singles, single parents, cultural backgrounds) are growing in popularity. 📍 The role of AI in dating apps—how artificial intelligence is shaping matchmaking, filtering potential partners, and even helping people craft better opening lines. 📍 The future of dating apps—what trends we can expect in the next decade, including how technology might reshape how we form relationships. Whether you're struggling with too many matches or not enough, dealing with dating burnout, or just curious about how dating apps really work behind the scenes, this conversation is packed with insights, strategies, and expert advice.🎧 Tune in and let's dive in! 📌 Follow Anna! 🔗 LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-robbert-berlin-paris/) 🔗 Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/annaalpha) 🔗 Tiktok (https://www.tiktok.com/@annaalpha.paris) 📌 Follow Affinity Apps! 🔗 Zweisam (https://www.instagram.com/zweisam.de) (50+) 🔗 Even (https://www.instagram.com/even_deutschland) (Single Parents) 📌 Follow Beyond Compatibility! 🔗 YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) 🔗 TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) 🔗 LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) 🔗Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat) 00:00 Promo 01:48 Anna's work and drive 05:09 Challenges of launching a dating app 10:19 How to attract people 17:28 Best features in an app 22:41 Generalist vs Affinity apps 25:47 Future of dating apps 31:14 Dating apps dissatisfaction 36:15 Tips for Men 41:19 Tips for Women 46:32 Lying on your profile 50:14 Tips for preventing dating burn out 55:45 Final thoughts & where to find Anna
13 Dec 2024
S010 - Reflections, Lessons, and What’s Next: Season One Finale w/Burulça Uluvar
In this special season finale of Beyond Compatibility, my girlfriend, Burulça, steps into the host role to reflect on the journey so far. Together, we dive into the evolution of this podcast, its themes, and the lessons learned over the first 10 episodes. Burulça and I discuss the origins of my passion for relationships, the challenges of shifting from a software engineering career to podcasting, and the incredible range of topics we’ve explored this season—from loneliness and dating culture to emotional intelligence and societal expectations. I also share some of the behind-the-scenes challenges of starting a podcast, including learning about production, editing, and social media distribution. Key highlights of this episode include: Insights into why relationships are harder to navigate in today’s world. The role of technology in scaling challenges and opportunities in dating. The loneliness epidemic and why offline connections matter more than ever. A glimpse into the plans for Season 2, exploring friendships, AI, and the future of relationships. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on the impact of this podcast journey and a look at what’s to come. Join us as we explore how to deepen connections, foster meaningful relationships, and navigate the complex intersection of biology, society, and technology. - 00:00 Podcast Introduction 00:27 Episode Introduction 02:39 What made you start this podcast? 04:30 How has your understanding of relationships evolved through the interviews this season? 05:57 How has the transition from software engineer to entrepreneur been for you? 14:23 Why are relationships or dating so challenging today? 19:18 How do you narrow down your options and decide who is “the one”? 21:40 You interviewed two matchmakers, what were their insights? 22:05 How do people decide on the one person they want to get to know better? 28:09 What are the main factors contributing to the loneliness epidemic? 28:29 What have you learned from the last nine episodes? 36:35 Do you see good interest in these kinds of events? 42:32 How do you figure out what kind of people you want to meet and build connections? 42:56 Should people be more intentional or put in more effort to nurture relationships? 45:51 What do you think about the underrepresentation of men in this topic? 57:16 What did you learn from the people you interviewed? 66:44 How does social media affect the stories we tell ourselves? - Follow us on social media! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat) Thank you for an incredible first season. Stay curious, stay connected, and keep exploring what makes us truly compatible. Changing the way we relate, one conversation at a time.
4 Dec 2024
S009 - Building Relationships That Last w/Regina Lux
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Regina Lux, a mother of six and social media influencer whose platform, Veritas on the Rocks, dives into meaningful discussions on relationships, societal values, and personal growth. Regina shares her insights on the importance of integrity, the societal narratives shaping our behaviours, and why building a strong community is essential for fostering connection and growth. We explore Regina’s personal journey, from her early experiences as a young adult to building a fulfilling marriage. She opens up about the values that have guided her life, emphasizing topics like the importance of chastity, the challenges of modern dating culture, traditional gender roles, and the societal pressures facing men and women today. Regina also offers actionable advice on navigating relationships with intention and purpose. One of the key topics we discuss is infidelity. Regina shares insights from her popular video, “Why People Cheat” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQ18AohWxu8), where she explores the underlying reasons behind infidelity and how to address these challenges in relationships. Follow Regina! Instagram: veritas_on_the_rocks (https://www.instagram.com/veritas_on_the_rocks/) TikTok: @veritasontherocks (https://www.tiktok.com/@veritasontherocks?lang=en) Facebook: Veritas on the Rocks (https://www.facebook.com/VeritasOnTheRocks) YouTube: Veritas on the Rocks (https://www.youtube.com/@VeritasontheRocks) Follow us on social media! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
29 Nov 2024
S008 - How to Reconnect and Deepen Intimacy w/Rebecca Collins
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Rebecca Collins, a somatic intimacy coach who helps individuals and couples break free from recurring relational patterns to create soulful and deeply connected partnerships. Rebecca brings a unique blend of expertise, drawing from her background in psychology, Tantra, and internal family systems, to help her clients navigate the complexities of intimacy and connection. We explore Rebecca’s personal journey, including her transition from corporate branding to intimacy coaching, her insights into the challenges of modern relationships, and how she uses innovative approaches like parts work and somatic practices to foster healing and trust. Rebecca shares actionable advice on understanding unmet needs, communicating desires, and building vulnerability in relationships. We also dive into the concepts of monogamy, non-monogamy, and how alternative approaches to connection can deepen intimacy and self-discovery. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your relationship, gain clarity about your own needs, or simply explore new ways to connect on a deeper level, this episode is packed with valuable insights and inspiration. Follow Rebecca! Instagram: introsbective (https://www.instagram.com/introsbective/) Follow us on social media! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
21 Nov 2024
S007 - Relationship Readiness & True Compatibility w/Tammy Shaklee
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Tammy Shaklee, a certified matchmaker with over a decade of experience helping people find meaningful connections. Tammy shares her unique approach to matchmaking, focusing on “relationship readiness” and self-awareness as key components to successful relationships. We discuss how she guides singles to move beyond surface-level traits and build compatibility through shared values, lifestyle alignment, and kindness. We explore the differences between matchmaking and dating apps, the challenges of modern dating, and practical steps to navigate red flags and foster meaningful relationships. Tammy also offers tips on why giving second chances matters, how to manage expectations, and how to find love in today’s fast-paced world. If you’re curious about improving your relationships or finding lasting love, this episode is filled with actionable insights and inspiration. Join me as we uncover the art of matchmaking and what it takes to create lasting, compatible connections. Follow Tammy! Instagram: h4mmatchmaking (https://www.instagram.com/h4mmatchmaking/) Instagram: tammyshaklee (https://www.instagram.com/tammyshaklee/) Website: h4m.com (https://www.h4m.com/) Follow us on social media! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
13 Nov 2024
S006 - Dating advice for men w/Mathias Rabe
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Mathias Rabe, a dating coach who specializes in guiding men through the early stages of dating. Mathias dives into the common struggles men face, from overthinking interactions to decoding subtle cues that often go unnoticed. We discuss why many men feel stuck in the online dating world and how to build confidence to approach women authentically in real life. Mathias shares practical insights on what truly attracts women, how men can overcome the fear of rejection, and why confidence and emotional intelligence play such essential roles in forming meaningful connections. If you’re looking to understand the psychology behind dating and want actionable tips to improve your approach, this episode is packed with valuable advice. Join me as we explore how men and women see dating differently, why those differences matter, and what it takes to create lasting, compatible connections. Follow Mathias! Instagram: datingwithmathias (https://www.instagram.com/datingwithmathias/) TikTok: @datingwithmathias (https://www.tiktok.com/@datingwithmathias) Website: mathiasrabe.com (https://mathiasrabe.com/) Follow us on social media! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
6 Nov 2024
S005 - Journaling and Active Listening w/Julia Deufel
In this episode, I sit down with Julia Deufel, a writer and the founder of Reflections and Connections, a guided journaling workshop that’s all about fostering personal insight and connection. Julia shares how her workshops bring people together through guided prompts, quiet reflection, and structured sharing, creating a unique space for participants to connect on a deeper level—even with strangers. We discuss the powerful role that journaling and active listening can play in improving self-awareness and building authentic relationships. Julia also walks us through the importance of active listening in everyday life, stressing how valuable it can be to just listen without giving advice or judging. Together, we explore how these practices help us reflect, connect, and find more meaning in our lives. If you’re curious about ways to deepen self-awareness, strengthen your relationships, or explore the benefits of intentional reflection, this episode has something for you! Follow Julia! Instagram: Julia Deufel (https://www.instagram.com/juliaadeufel/) TikTok: @julclart (https://www.tiktok.com/@julclart) Instagram Reflections & Connections: Reflections & Connections (https://www.instagram.com/reflections.connections/) Follow us on social media! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
29 Oct 2024
S004 - Compatibilidad y Matchmaking con Laura Mójer
This episode was recorded in Spanish. En este episodio de Más Allá de la Compatibilidad, Lucas conversa con Laura, una matchmaker profesional de Mallorca, sobre el arte de construir relaciones auténticas y estables. Laura nos cuenta cómo ayuda a sus clientes a encontrar pareja, evitando las frustraciones de las aplicaciones de citas y enfocándose en la compatibilidad real. A lo largo de la charla, exploramos cómo nuestras expectativas, el impacto de las redes sociales y los cambios en los roles de género afectan nuestra idea del amor. Laura también comparte su camino profesional y su enfoque para enseñar a otros el matchmaking de manera comprometida y profesional. Es una conversación profunda para quienes buscan entender qué significa realmente conectar en un mundo de opciones infinitas. Sigue a Laura! Instagram: Laura Mójer (https://www.instagram.com/laura_mojer/) Instagram: VinQulo (https://www.instagram.com/vinqulo/) Y a Beyond Compatibility! YouTube: Beyond Compatibility en YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility en TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) LinkedIn: Beyond Compatibility en LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility en Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
18 Oct 2024
S003 - Terapia, Rupturas y Autoestima con Carolina Martinez
This episode was recorded in Spanish. En este episodio de Beyond Compatibility, converso con Carolina Martínez, terapeuta gestáltica, sobre las complejidades de gestionar una ruptura amorosa y cómo nuestra autoestima influye en nuestras relaciones. Hablamos de las diferencias en cómo hombres y mujeres afrontan el duelo, las fases del proceso y cómo la tecnología y las redes sociales afectan nuestra capacidad de superar una separación. Si alguna vez te has sentido atrapado después de una ruptura o te has preguntado cómo construir una autoestima más sólida, este episodio está lleno de herramientas y reflexiones que te ayudarán en tu camino. Sigue a Carolina en sus redes! Instagram Carolina Martínez (https://www.instagram.com/carolinamartinez.terapeuta) Youtube Carolina Martínez (https://www.youtube.com/@CarolinaMartinezTerapeuta) TikTok Carolina Martínez (https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinamartinez.terapia) Y a Beyond Compatibility! Youtube: Beyond Compatibility en Youtube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: Beyond Compatibility en TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) Linkedin: Beyond Compatibility en Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: Beyond Compatibility en Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
3 Oct 2024
S002 - Offline Dating & Authentic Connections w/Johanna Gustavsson
In this episode of Beyond Compatibility, I sit down with Johanna, a passionate teacher and entrepreneur dedicated to fostering authentic connections through her collective for offline dating in Berlin. Together, we explore the challenges of online dating, the pervasive loneliness in urban environments, and the evolving landscape of relationships. Johanna shares her experiences organizing community-based events, including the innovative "Smingle Parties," which aim to create meaningful interactions in a digital age. Join us as we discuss the nuances of dating experiences across genders, the future of dating, and how building a sense of community can transform our connections. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this conversation offers valuable insights into what it takes to nurture genuine connections. Know more about Smingle! https://www.instagram.com/smingle.berlin/ (https://www.instagram.com/smingle.berlin/) Fund Smingle project! https://www.gofundme.com/f/create-an-app-for-smingle (https://www.gofundme.com/f/create-an-app-for-smingle) Follow us on social media! Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw) TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat (https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat) Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/ (https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat (https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat)
12 Sept 2024
S001 - Motivation, Relationships, Loneliness & AI companions
In this first episode of Beyond Compatibility, we explore the complexities of modern relationships. We dive into why relationships are tougher today and why compatibility matters more than ever. We discuss the loneliness epidemic, the impact of technology and AI companions on how we connect, and what the future of relationships might look like. You'll also get an introduction to the vision behind this podcast, which aims to explore deeper, more meaningful connections with the help of experts in psychology, technology, and relationship coaching. Follow us on social media! Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4p51wbdJgw3GVZIwofTgxw Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondcompat Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/beyond-compatibility/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond.compat
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