by Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade is a podcast about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and with others. Each week host Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose Recovery Services and certified addiction recovery and betrayal trauma coach) and his guests will explore the concepts of integrity and authenticity and how each is essential in building meaningful relationships. Listen in as we explore our own vulnerabilities in order to seek genuine connection to ourselves and to those around us. Join us as we go Beyond the Facade.
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May 1, 2025
<p>How do you define masculinity? In this episode, we explore the inherited beliefs about what it means to be a man and discuss how to reclaim masculinity by embracing vulnerability and authenticity. </p><p>Discover the intersection of toxic masculinity, recovery, and feminism, and learn practical tools for fostering genuine connections and healing from systemic shame. Join us as we redefine what it truly means to be strong.</p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><ul><li><p>03:15 Defining Toxic Masculinity</p></li><li><p>04:11 Linking Masculinity to Addiction and Recovery</p></li><li><p>04:28 Understanding Feminism</p></li><li><p>08:37 The Three Circles</p></li><li><p>13:17 Weekly Practice and Reflection</p></li></ul><p><strong>Watch the episode on YouTube</strong><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUM7hsOcaM_ivpf9PVocYKO_pKo4LVs14" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong> </strong><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/unmasked-paths-to-authentic-masculinity/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men</a> - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register<a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/unmasked-paths-to-authentic-masculinity/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> HERE</a>.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/heal-the-healer-intensive/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Heal the Healer</a> - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.</p></li><li><p>Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives. Email us at <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[email protected]</a> to learn more.</p></li></ul><p><strong>Connect With Us:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Learn more about Luke <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#LukeGordon" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>. </p></li><li><p>Schedule a complimentary consultation <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/home/complimentary-session/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>.</p></li><li><p>Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! <a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/yyW1MdD" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sign up here</a>.</p></li><li><p>Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services </p></li></ul><p><strong>Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group</a> - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Help. Her. Heal</a> - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Intensives</a> - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Road to Recovery Webinar</a> - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose To Be Podcast</a> - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.</p></li></ul><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Healing Hearts</a> - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose Healing</a> - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/recovery-book-study-group/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group</a> - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-renewal/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose Renewal</a> - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/resilient-teens/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Resilient Teens</a> - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/adult-children-uniting-for-healing/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Adult Children Uniting for Healing</a> - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.<br /></p></li></ul><p><strong>Learn more and register for courses at </strong><a href="http://chooserecoveryservices.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>chooserecoveryservices.com</strong></a><br /></p>
April 24, 2025
<p>Does it feel like your partner is more likely to take advice from others rather than you? In this episode Alana Gordon (LMFT, founder of <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/"><u>Choose Recovery Services</u></a>, and co-host of the <a href="https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe">Choose To Be</a> podcast) joins Luke and they unpack the complexities of why men often don’t accept feedback from their partners. </p><p>(Hint: It has a lot to do with shame and values.)</p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><p>00:50 The Communication Gap</p><p>02:32 Root Causes</p><p>07:24 Addressing Shame</p><p>08:59 Practical Advice</p><p><strong>Watch the episode on YouTube</strong><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUM7hsOcaM_ivpf9PVocYKO_pKo4LVs14"><strong> </strong><u></u><strong>HERE</strong><u></u></a></p><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/unmasked-paths-to-authentic-masculinity/"><u>Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men</u></a> - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register<a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/unmasked-paths-to-authentic-masculinity/"><u> HERE</u></a>.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/heal-the-healer-intensive/"><u>Heal the Healer</u></a> - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.</p></li><li><p>Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives. Email us at <a href="mailto:[email protected]"><u>[email protected]</u></a> to learn more.</p></li></ul><p><strong>Connect With Us:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Learn more about Luke <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#LukeGordon"><u>here</u></a>. </p></li><li><p>Schedule a complimentary consultation <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/home/complimentary-session/"><u>here</u></a>.</p></li><li><p>Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! <a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/yyW1MdD"><u>Sign up here</u></a>.</p></li><li><p>Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services </p></li></ul><p><strong>Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/"><u>Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group</u></a> - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/"><u>Help. Her. Heal</u></a> - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/"><u>Intensives</u></a> - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/"><u>Road to Recovery Webinar</u></a> - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe"><u>Choose To Be Podcast</u></a> - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.</p></li></ul><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts/"><u>Healing Hearts</u></a> - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/"><u>Choose Healing</u></a> - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/recovery-book-study-group/"><u>Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group</u></a> - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-renewal/"><u>Choose Renewal</u></a> - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/resilient-teens/"><u>Resilient Teens</u></a> - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/adult-children-uniting-for-healing/"><u>Adult Children Uniting for Healing</u></a> - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.</p><p><br></p></li></ul><p><strong>Learn more and register for courses at </strong><a href="http://chooserecoveryservices.com"><strong>chooserecoveryservices.com</strong></a><br></p>
April 17, 2025
<p>What does it mean to be masculine? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, CCPS, Director of Choose Recovery Services, and co-host of the <a href="https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose To Be</a> podcast) joins Luke and together they explore the line between healthy masculinity and toxic behaviors.</p><p>They shed light on vulnerability, emotional suppression, and how to reclaim a healthier version of manhood. </p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><p>01:28 Defining Masculinity vs. Healthy Masculinity</p><p>06:35 Impact of Toxic Masculinity</p><p>14:46 The Pendulum Swing</p><p>18:22 The Role of Vulnerability</p><p>23:09 Balance of Power</p><p><strong>Watch the episode on YouTube</strong><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUM7hsOcaM_ivpf9PVocYKO_pKo4LVs14" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong> </strong><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><p><strong>Last change to register - Get $200 off!</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Courage to Thrive Intensive</a> - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. Learn more and register <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">HERE</a>. <strong>Use code thriveapril2025 to receive $200 off.</strong></p></li></ul><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/unmasked-paths-to-authentic-masculinity/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men</a> - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register<a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/unmasked-paths-to-authentic-masculinity/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> HERE</a>.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/heal-the-healer-intensive/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Heal the Healer</a> - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.</p></li></ul><p><strong>Connect With Us:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Learn more about Luke <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#LukeGordon" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>. </p></li><li><p>Schedule a complimentary consultation <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/home/complimentary-session/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>.</p></li><li><p>Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! <a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/yyW1MdD" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sign up here</a>.</p></li></ul><p><strong>Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group</a> - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Help. Her. Heal</a> - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Intensives</a> - View our intensive calendar and find the right experience for you.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Road to Recovery Webinar</a> - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose To Be Podcast</a> - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.</p></li></ul><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Healing Hearts</a> - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose Healing</a> - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-renewal/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Choose Renewal</a> - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/resilient-teens/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Resilient Teens</a> - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/adult-children-uniting-for-healing/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Adult Children Uniting for Healing</a> - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.<br /><strong>Learn more and register for courses at </strong><a href="http://chooserecoveryservices.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>chooserecoveryservices.com</strong></a></p></li></ul>
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