Beyond the Facade explores authenticity, healing, and recovery from betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Host Luke Gordon, cofounder of Choose Recovery Services, and his guests share tools for addiction recovery, relationship repair, and emotional healing. Learn to rebuild trust, live with integrity, and create authentic connections as you heal from pain and go Beyond the Facade.
Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services
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Beyond the Facade explores authenticity, healing, and recovery from betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Host Luke Gordon, cofounder of Choose Recovery Services, and his guests share tools for addiction recovery, relationship repair, and emotional healing. Learn to rebuild trust, live with integrity, and create authentic connections as you heal from pain and go Beyond the Facade.
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July 16, 2026
104: Recovery Doesn't Fail at Relapse--It Fails Long Before That
<p>Recovery isn't won in the moment you resist temptation—it begins long before the urge ever appears.</p><p>This week Luke Gordon explores why relapse is rarely an isolated event. Instead, acting outside your values is often the final step in a much longer emotional cycle involving stress, loneliness, shame, insecurity, and unresolved discomfort.</p><p>You'll learn why your brain isn't trying to ruin your life—it is trying to solve emotional pain using familiar patterns. More importantly, you'll discover how learning to tolerate discomfort instead of escaping it becomes the foundation of lasting recovery.</p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><ul><li><p>01:49 Relapse Starts Earlier</p></li><li><p>03:01 Familiar Over Healthy</p></li><li><p>04:33 Relief vs Healing</p></li><li><p>06:14 Tolerating Discomfort</p></li><li><p>08:05 Flood Irrigation Metaphor</p></li><li><p>10:31 Tools for Regulation</p></li><li><p>12:30 Track Emotions, Not Behaviors</p></li></ul><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***</strong></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/reclaimed-intensive/"><u>Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive</u></a> - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/"><u>Courage to Thrive</u></a> - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. </p></li><li><p>💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/"><u>Scholarships</u></a> and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. </p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Get our FREE eBook - <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/betrayal-trauma-guide/"><u>Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life</u></a></p><p><strong>Connect With Us:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Learn more about Luke <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#LukeGordon"><u>here</u></a>. </p></li><li><p>Schedule a complimentary consultation <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/home/complimentary-session/"><u>here</u></a>.</p></li><li><p>Don’t miss an episode! <a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/yyW1MdD"><u>Join our email list</u></a> and get notified when new episodes air! </p></li><li><p>Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services </p></li></ul><p><strong>Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/"><u>Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group</u></a> - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/"><u>Help. Her. Heal</u></a> - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/"><u>Intensives</u></a> - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/"><u>Road to Recovery Webinar</u></a> - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe"><u>Choose To Be Podcast</u></a> - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.</p></li></ul><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/"><u>Choose Healing</u></a> - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/making-sense-of-his-behavior/"><u>Making Sense of His Behavior </u></a>- Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Learn more and register for courses at </strong><a href="http://chooserecoveryservices.com"><strong>chooserecoveryservices.com</strong></a></p><p><br></p>
July 2, 2026
103: Why Knowing Better Doesn't Always Mean Doing Better
<p>Many people spend years reading books, listening to podcasts, attending therapy, and understanding addiction. Yet they still feel stuck.</p><p>This week Luke and Alana explain why information alone never creates transformation—and what actually does.</p><p><strong>You'll learn:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Why insight feels good but doesn’t change behavior</p></li><li><p>The uncomfortable “growth zone”</p></li><li><p>How emotional awareness rewires recovery</p></li><li><p>Why habits matter more than motivation</p></li><li><p>How integration creates lasting healing</p></li></ul><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><ul><li><p>01:35 The Recovery Expert Trap</p></li><li><p>02:25 Swimming Lessons</p></li><li><p>05:37 Insight vs Practice</p></li><li><p>07:24 Repetition</p></li><li><p>11:15 Integration</p></li><li><p>15:13 Systems</p></li><li><p>18:46 Compassion As You Try to Change</p></li></ul><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***</strong></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/"><u>Courage to Thrive</u></a> - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/reclaimed-intensive/"><u>Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive</u></a> - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.</p></li><li><p>💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/"><u>Scholarships</u></a> and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. </p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Get our FREE eBook - <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/betrayal-trauma-guide/"><u>Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life</u></a></p><p>Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to <a href="mailto:podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com">podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com</a>. </p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUM7hsOcaM_j_PjCjNzTorEwciK3zdnkb"><strong>Watch us</strong><u></u></a><strong> on YouTube.</strong></p><p><strong>Follow us on Instagram: </strong>@choose_recovery_services</p><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/home/complimentary-session/"><u></u><strong>Schedule</strong><u></u></a><strong> a complimentary consultation.</strong></p><p><a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/95gxktd/CTBPodcastsignup"><strong>Join our email list</strong></a><strong> to be notified when new episodes air.</strong></p><p><strong>More from Choose Recovery Services</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beyondthefacadewithchoose"><u>Beyond the Facade Podcast</u></a> - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-healing-betrayal-trauma-support-for-women/"><u>Choose Healing</u></a> - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/"><u>Intensives</u></a> - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/"><u>Help. Her. Heal</u></a> - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/"><u>Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group</u></a> - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-empowered-divorce-podcast-navigating-divorce/id1650161235"><u>The Empowered Divorce Podcast</u></a> with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-empowered-divorce-podcast-navigating-divorce/id1650161235"><u></u></a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://datingfromwithin.amiewoolsey.com/dating-from-within-page"><u>Dating From Within</u></a> - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://shouldistayorgo.amiewoolsey.com/"><u>Should I Stay or Go?</u></a> - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://amiewoolsey.com/swag-shop-product-details/product/trauma-trigger-kit"><u>Trauma Trigger Kit</u></a> - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/believing-in-you/"><u>Believing in You</u></a> - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://intimacywithin.amiewoolsey.com/intimacy-within-page"><u>Intimacy Within</u> <u></u></a>- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/making-sense-of-his-behavior/"><u>Making Sense of His Behavior</u></a> - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. </p></li></ul>
June 25, 2026
102: This Isn't an Addiction Problem - It's an Emotional Awareness Problem
<p>Most men were never taught how to identify their emotions—and that missing skill can quietly fuel addiction, disconnection, and destructive coping patterns.</p><p>This week Luke explores why emotional awareness is one of the most important foundations of recovery. You'll discover why thoughts aren't feelings, why behavior management isn't enough, and how learning to recognize emotions can interrupt the cycle of compulsive behaviors.</p><p><strong>Listen to learn:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Why "I'm fine" isn't an emotion</p></li><li><p>How emotional distress leads to acting out</p></li><li><p>Why shame and loneliness stay hidden</p></li><li><p>The real purpose of emotional awareness</p></li><li><p>A simple exercise to build emotional regulation</p></li></ul><p>Recovery isn't just about stopping behaviors—it's about learning to understand what your emotions are trying to tell you.</p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><ul><li><p>01:33 Why Men Miss Emotions</p></li><li><p>02:23 Thoughts vs Feelings</p></li><li><p>04:59 Rocky III Fear Lesson</p></li><li><p>8:04 Stop Asking Why</p></li></ul><p><strong>Watch the episode on YouTube</strong><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUM7hsOcaM_ivpf9PVocYKO_pKo4LVs14"><strong> </strong><u></u><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***</strong></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/reclaimed-intensive/"><u>Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive</u></a> - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/"><u>Courage to Thrive</u></a> - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. </p></li><li><p>💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/"><u>Scholarships</u></a> and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. </p></li></ul><p>Get our FREE eBook - <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/betrayal-trauma-guide/"><u>Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life</u></a></p><p><strong>Connect With Us:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Learn more about Luke <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#LukeGordon"><u>here</u></a>. </p></li><li><p>Schedule a complimentary consultation <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/home/complimentary-session/"><u>here</u></a>.</p></li><li><p>Don’t miss an episode! <a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/yyW1MdD"><u>Join our email list</u></a> and get notified when new episodes air! </p></li><li><p>Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services </p></li></ul><p><strong>Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/"><u>Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group</u></a> - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/"><u>Help. Her. Heal</u></a> - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/"><u>Intensives</u></a> - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/"><u>Road to Recovery Webinar</u></a> - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe"><u>Choose To Be Podcast</u></a> - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.</p></li></ul><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/"><u>Choose Healing</u></a> - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. </p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/making-sense-of-his-behavior/"><u>Making Sense of His Behavior </u></a>- Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Learn more and register for courses at </strong><a href="http://chooserecoveryservices.com"><strong>chooserecoveryservices.com</strong></a></p><p><br></p>
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