Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

About Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

Beyond the Facade explores authenticity, healing, and recovery from betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Host Luke Gordon (men's program director at Choose Recovery Services and founder of Blueprint Institute) and his guests share tools for addiction recovery, relationship repair, and emotional healing. Learn to rebuild trust, live with integrity, and create authentic connections as you heal from pain and go Beyond the Facade.

Publisher

Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

22 Apr 2024

Latest episode

8 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

117 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   8 Oct 2026

   116: Awareness vs. Capacity

   What happens when the crisis is over? This episode explores why a breakthrough isn't the same as lasting recovery, and how awareness, emotional capacity, accountability, and repeated choices help create meaningful change. Luke is joined by Bryan, a man who recently attended a Choose Recovery Services intensive. Listen in to learn why sustainable recovery means continuing the work even when life starts feeling normal again. Beyond the Facade is produced in partnership with Choose Recovery Services (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/) and Blueprint Institute (https://blueprint-institute.com/). Choose Recovery Services (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/) helps individuals and couples heal from betrayal trauma, addiction, and broken relationships so they can find freedom, wholeness, and lasting change. Blueprint Institute (https://blueprint-institute.com/) is a residential program for men working to heal from compulsive behavior. It provides an immersive environment built around structure, accountability, emotional growth, and behavioral change. We want to hear from you! Fill out this short survey (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdTeli8XXgWJfhxuZDM-8v-I18vo_3yQWBcP1r-LxRysrgC9A/viewform?usp=dialog) to let us know what you like, what you don’t, and what you want more of. Register Now! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/awakening-the-man-within/) - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11, 2026 in Spanish Fork, UT. Rise, Renew, Restore (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-renew-restore-retreat-2027/) - Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/) and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/) - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Help. Her. Heal (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/) - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Integrity Initiative (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/integrity-initiative-group/) - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Intensives (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/) - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals and couples. Road to Recovery Webinar (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/) - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Choose To Be Podcast (https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe) - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Choose Healing (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/) - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. Making Sense of His Behavior (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/making-sense-of-his-behavior/)- Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Tender Resilience - Heal through art. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/tender-resilience-circle/) OR join the  6-Week Group (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/tender-resilience-group/). Choose Courageous Connection (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courageous-connection/) - Weekly live couples group that helps partners bridge their individual healing, so they can rebuild emotional safety and trust together rather than healing on separate paths.

2. 

   1 Oct 2026

   115: The Check-Engine Light of Recovery: Are You Living Out of Alignment? - with Dr. Russell A. Pointer, Jr.

   What if the "off" feeling in your life is data, not failure? Luke Gordon sits down with Dr. Russell A. Pointer Jr., a pastor and public theologian (D.Min, MTS, MS), to talk about alignment with yourself, others, and the divine. Russell shares his own story of betrayal, patriarchy, and entitlement, and how learning to listen changed his marriage and his life. What you'll learn: Why being out of alignment is a check engine light, not a failure How grace and accountability work together Why building a pattern matters more than one good decision Beyond the Facade is produced in partnership with Choose Recovery Services (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/) and Blueprint Institute (https://blueprint-institute.com/). Choose Recovery Services (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/) helps individuals and couples heal from betrayal trauma, addiction, and broken relationships so they can find freedom, wholeness, and lasting change. Blueprint Institute (https://blueprint-institute.com/) is a residential program for men working to heal from compulsive behavior. It provides an immersive environment built around structure, accountability, emotional growth, and behavioral change. We want to hear from you! Fill out this short survey (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdTeli8XXgWJfhxuZDM-8v-I18vo_3yQWBcP1r-LxRysrgC9A/viewform?usp=dialog) to let us know what you like, what you don’t, and what you want more of. Register Now! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/awakening-the-man-within/) - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11, 2026 in Spanish Fork, UT. Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/revive-and-thrive-intensive/) - Join us for a somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Rise, Renew, Restore (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-renew-restore-retreat-2027/) - Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/) and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Groups at Choose Recovery Services for men: Integrity Initiative (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/integrity-initiative-group/) - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. Choose Courageous Connection (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courageous-connection/) - Weekly live couples group that helps partners bridge their individual healing, so they can rebuild emotional safety and trust together rather than healing on separate paths. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/) - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Help. Her. Heal (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/) - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Intensives (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/) - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Road to Recovery Webinar (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/) - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Choose To Be Podcast (https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe) - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Choose Healing (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/) - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. Making Sense of His Behavior (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/making-sense-of-his-behavior/)- Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

3. 

   24 Sept 2026

   114: The Gap Between Sobriety and Relational Recovery - with Tryan Stutes

   Why can someone be years into sobriety and still feel disconnected from their partner? Choose Recovery Services coach Tryan Stutes (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team-bios/#TryanStutes) joins Luke to unpack "the gap" — the invisible wall of pride, fear, and old defenses that keeps couples stuck long after the acting-out stops. It's a raw, honest look at what real accountability requires beyond just staying sober. In this episode, you'll learn: What "the gap" really is Why sobriety does not always equal empathy Accountability vs. explaining yourself Beyond the Facade is produced in partnership with Choose Recovery Services (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/) and Blueprint Institute (https://blueprint-institute.com/). Choose Recovery Services (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/) helps individuals and couples heal from betrayal trauma, addiction, and broken relationships so they can find freedom, wholeness, and lasting change. Blueprint Institute (https://blueprint-institute.com/) is a residential program for men working to heal from compulsive behavior. It provides an immersive environment built around structure, accountability, emotional growth, and behavioral change. We want to hear from you! Fill out this short survey (https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdTeli8XXgWJfhxuZDM-8v-I18vo_3yQWBcP1r-LxRysrgC9A/viewform?usp=dialog) to let us know what you like, what you don’t, and what you want more of. Register Now! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/awakening-the-man-within/) - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11, 2026 in Spanish Fork, UT. Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/revive-and-thrive-intensive/) - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Rise, Renew, Restore (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-renew-restore-retreat-2027/) - Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/) and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Group at Choose Recovery Services: Integrity Initiative (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/integrity-initiative-group/) - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-facade-group/) - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Help. Her. Heal (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/) - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Intensives (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensives/) - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Road to Recovery Webinar (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/road-to-recovery/) - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Choose To Be Podcast (https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choosetobe) - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Choose Healing (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-betrayal-trauma-healing-for-women/) - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. Making Sense of His Behavior (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/making-sense-of-his-behavior/)- Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Tender Resilience - Heal through art. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/tender-resilience-circle/) OR join the  6-Week Group (https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/tender-resilience-group/).

Who has been a guest on Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

Names identified in recent episode analyses. Showing up to five guests.

• Stephen Thomas
• Alana Gordon
• Hope Ray
• Hali Roderick

Reach and audience

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

15 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

10 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 51 / 100

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Quality

81

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

51

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