Welcome to BFFR—where we get real, raw, and don’t hold back. I’m your host, Rachel McElreath, single mom turned 6-figure coach, here to help you stop living in pain and start living on purpose. Let’s BFFR.
This is the final episode of season 1 where I share how my pain gave me my greatest purpose & how to unlock yours with the cards you were dealt.
10 Oct 2025
Loves Getting Choked, But Not Choked Up
The story of how I could lose my breath during sex but never lose my composure in life, and what it taught me about finding safety in vulnerability.
4 Oct 2025
Chlamydia, Shame, & A Shit Ton Of Antibiotics
I’m getting real about the time I ignored chlamydia, the shame that came with it, and the antibiotics that followed. This episode dives into how fear of judgment ran my life and what shifted when I finally stopped giving a f*ck what people thought. If you’ve ever felt out of alignment or shaped yourself around others’ expectations this will remind you that you can always rewrite your story.
26 Sept 2025
My Narcissistic Ex From Hell
If you've ever dated a narcissist... you know it feels like hell wrapped up in a f*cking love letter.
Whether you're healing from the residual affects or still in the thick of it this episode it for you.
If you're ready to take back control of your life & your power click here (https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/FtqN43HIAhZA2J8aOl7BfehvThlkvr1rPX3a2URVrN8tEtduuIYZkBkzp936lg0B.qRjJk1OeeL1zDalJ)to watch me training on how to get back into the drivers seat of your own life.
xx Rach
19 Sept 2025
Hot Men, Hookups, & HPV
If you have ever had sex you have probably had HPV. Eight out of ten people will get it at some point and right now one in four people has it. Most people clear it on their own but sometimes it sticks and sometimes it sticks so long it turns into cancer. That is what happened to me. Hot men, hookups, and HPV left me one stage away from cervical cancer in my 20s.
In this episode I get real about my years of chasing validation, the chaos of teenage rosters and hookups, and the wake up call that came when my pap smear results turned serious. I share the wild stories, the heartbreak, and the lessons that finally forced me to take ownership of my body and my health.
This conversation is not about shame. It is about truth. It is about what nobody told us about HPV, how it can change your life, and how you can take back your power.
If this episode hits you share it with a friend who needs to hear it.
12 Sept 2025
The Bare Minimum Era
I’ve lived it, you’ve lived it, we’ve all lived it. This week I’m breaking down what it really looks like to settle for the bare fkn minimum in relationships, in health, in life, and how I finally raised my standards.
If you’re DONE accepting crumbs and ready to start surrounding yourself with people who set your soul on fire, this episode is your wake up call.
✨ Meet me in the jungle. Book your call here
5 Sept 2025
Unaligned & Unalived
TW: This episode talks about mental health and suicide
I’m pulling back the curtain on the parts of my story that shaped me most. My dad’s infidelity. My mom’s suicide. How those wounds hardwired me into survival mode. For years I ran from the pain through addiction, self abandonment, and repeating the same loops that were never mine to carry.
This episode isn’t just about my past. It’s about the choice we all have to rewrite our stories. To break the habits and beliefs that keep us stuck. To step out of the pain that’s been passed down and finally rise into our purpose.
If you’ve ever felt trapped in cycles that don’t belong to you, this is your reminder that survival doesn’t have to be your standard.
29 Aug 2025
Duality & Divine Unity with DezMariah
In this episode I sit down with DezMariah, Reiki healer, spiritual coach, and host of Spiritual & Spicy, to explore the sacred dance between duality and divine unity. We dive into the balance of masculine and feminine energy, what it really means to heal together instead of hurt together, and the powerful contrast between a soul tie and a trauma bond.
DezMariah shares her perspective on divine unity and how we can hold both contrast and connection as part of our human experience. Together, we invite you to ask yourself where you are living in duality and where you are being called back into unity.
Follow DezMariah on Instagram: @dezmariahxx (https://www.instagram.com/dezmariahxx?igsh=cjh4NjFlM3V0NWcx&utm_source=chatgpt.com)
22 Aug 2025
Blacked Out, Burnt Out, & Barely Surviving
In this episode I share the raw truth about the years I spent blacked out, burnt out, and barely surviving. These were the patterns of self-sabotage that kept me stuck in survival mode and the lessons I had to learn the hard way. If you find yourself repeating the same cycles, this episode is for you.
Free training: 3 Reasons Why You’re Self-Sabotaging and How to Stop
Watch here (https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/MnatDgQAet6sCtXZUqo7TLeNul-J7z-suJWgSkb-XY1Z0sDFpxH2R1ldIYIWmQqk.67w3cVnL_eOul8HS?startTime=1755111737000)
15 Aug 2025
What Faking Your Orgasms Says About You
Let’s BFFR — if you’ve ever faked an orgasm, you’re not alone. But behind that performance is something way deeper than just “getting it over with.” In this episode, I’m breaking down what it really says about you when you fake it — in bed and in life — and how it’s quietly eating away at your self-worth. We’re talking validation-seeking, people-pleasing, and the patterns that leave you disconnected from your own pleasure, power, and truth.
If you’re ready to stop performing and start owning your worth, this one’s for you.
🎧 Stay connected & explore more: https://linktr.ee/rachelmcelreath (https://linktr.ee/rachelmcelreath)
8 Aug 2025
Wtf Is A Unicorn?
Today we’re talking threesomes, throuples, and some much-needed therapy.
This episode is not just about what a unicorn is (though yes, you might want to Urban Dictionary that)—it’s about who I became when I abandoned myself just to be the “cool girl,” the people-pleaser, the unproblematic one who made herself small to be wanted.
We’re diving into my past, the messy moments, the toxic patterns, and what it really looked like to reclaim my voice, my worth, and my identity.
If you’ve ever lost yourself trying to be “chosen”... this one’s for you.
Book a call to start your own healing journey:
👉 https://calendly.com/rachelmcelreath/meeting (https://calendly.com/rachelmcelreath/meeting)
1 Aug 2025
Welcome to BFFR: The Sh*t Nobody Else Will Say
This isn’t just a podcast. This is a f*cking wake-up call.
In the first episode of BFFR, Rachel McElreath gets brutally honest about the year that broke her open... three abortions, a near cancer diagnosis, and the kind of self-abandonment most people are too afraid to admit out loud.
This is for the women who feel too messy to be healed.
For the ones who stayed too long.
For the ones who numbed, spiraled, ignored the red flags, and lost themselves in situationships, substances, or silence.
Rachel shares the truth behind the chaos, how she finally got sober and celibate, and what it really means to wake the f*ck up — not just spiritually, but somatically, emotionally, and soul-deep.
No fluff. No filters. No delusion. Just the truth that healed her.
And maybe… the truth that will heal you too.
🎧 Subscribe, share, and come back next Friday —
Because we’re not pretending we’re fine anymore.
We’re here to be f*cking for real.
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