Building Up Fathers

About Building Up Fathers

Building up fathers in a way that encourages them to love themselves and their families the way God loves His people.

Publisher

Jared and Ryan

Category

education · kids & family · religion & spirituality

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

9 Oct 2025

Latest episode

20 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

24 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   20 Oct 2026

   24. Let’s Talk About Sex: After “The Talk” - 3 of 3

   As our kids grow older, the conversation about sex and relationships moves beyond simply explaining what is right or wrong. Attraction becomes real, desire grows stronger, relationships become more serious, and eventually our kids have to make decisions for themselves. This episode looks at how fathers can help prepare them for that transition, moving from control to influence and teaching them to understand intimacy as something valuable that requires wisdom, trust, commitment, and care. The goal is not to raise kids who never make relational mistakes. It is to raise sons and daughters who know how to steward desire, recognize healthy boundaries, evaluate relationships, recover when things go wrong, and continue inviting their father into the conversation. That begins with the kind of relationship we build with them now. Our presence, integrity, humility, and response when they fail can shape whether they still want our voice in their lives when they no longer have to listen to it. In This Episode: • Moving from controlling your child's choices toward becoming a trusted voice they willingly invite into relationships, marriage, and adulthood • Understanding intimacy as being fully known and fully loved, and helping kids experience that kind of secure connection with God and within their family • Teaching kids that desire itself is not the enemy, while helping them develop the self-control to decide which desires should guide their actions and which should not • Reframing physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual boundaries as protection for something valuable rather than arbitrary restrictions • Helping kids recognize the difference between attraction and lust, while talking directly about pornography as a substitute for the commitment, vulnerability, responsibility, and connection found in healthy intimacy • Preparing ahead of time for the mistakes your kids will make so your first response communicates grace, protection, restoration, and a willingness to walk through consequences with them • Evaluating relationships through more than attraction by considering character, shared values, spiritual compatibility, emotional health, trust, and long-term direction • Helping kids understand that intimacy should grow alongside commitment, and that ending an unhealthy or incompatible relationship can be an act of wisdom rather than failure Key Themes: • Moving from parental control to relational influence • Intimacy rooted in being known, loved, and safe • Self-control as the stewardship of desire • Boundaries that protect what is valuable • Grace and restoration after failure • Commitment leading intimacy rather than following it Takeaway: Our kids do not need fathers who can guarantee that they will never get hurt, cross a boundary, choose the wrong person, or make a decision they regret. They need fathers who have spent years preparing them to think wisely and who remain present when real life gets complicated. That means modeling healthy intimacy ourselves, teaching without shame, allowing commitment to guide closeness, and responding to mistakes in a way that keeps the door open. We will not do all of this perfectly, and neither will our kids. But through humility, consistency, grace, and intentional choices, we can become the kind of fathers whose wisdom is still welcomed long after our authority is gone.

2. 

   29 Sept 2026

   23. Let's Talk About Sex: During "The Talk" - 2 of 3

   As your kids begin noticing attraction, talking about dating, and experiencing stronger emotions toward other people, the conversation gets more complicated. Fathers have an opportunity to help them understand what those feelings mean before culture, friends, or their own impulses define the answers for them. This episode lays out a framework for talking about timing, purpose, discernment, stewardship, and transparency as your kids move toward relationships and intimacy. The goal is not to control every decision or deliver one perfect conversation. It is to stay present as the questions become more significant, helping your kids understand their feelings without being ruled by them, establish boundaries before pressure arrives, and recognize what healthy relationships actually look like. That kind of guidance grows through trust, honest conversations, and a father who is willing to keep showing up. In This Episode: • Recognizing when your child is beginning to think differently about attraction, dating, and relationships, and knowing when to move the conversation forward • Giving attraction and dating a larger purpose instead of allowing attention, status, loneliness, physical desire, or insecurity to define relationships • Helping your kids understand that attraction is real and good, but it does not automatically mean someone is trustworthy, compatible, or right for them • Teaching discernment by helping kids identify their own values and recognize the character traits they should look for in another person • Understanding stewardship as learning to handle desire, affection, emotional connection, physical touch, pressure, and boundaries with wisdom • Setting boundaries before emotions become overwhelming and gradually giving kids responsibility for making healthy relational decisions themselves • Modeling the respect, humility, honesty, and relational health you hope your sons and daughters will expect and practice in their own relationships • Building enough safety and transparency that your kids know they can bring questions, mistakes, heartbreak, and uncertainty to you without losing connection Key Themes: • Purpose behind attraction and relationships • Wisdom and discernment over impulse • Stewardship of desire and physical boundaries • Identity, value, and emotional security • Relational modeling through fatherhood • Trust, transparency, and long-term presence Takeaway: Your kids do not need you to perfectly predict every relationship or prevent every painful decision. They need a father who is close enough to help them understand what they are feeling, wise enough to give those feelings context, and humble enough to keep the conversation open as they grow. Attraction, dating, intimacy, and relationships carry increasing weight as kids get older, which is why these conversations cannot be reduced to one moment. Keep showing up, keep asking thoughtful questions, model the kind of relationships you hope they build, and give them increasing responsibility as they learn to steward their own choices. You will not handle every conversation perfectly, but consistent presence, humility, and intentional guidance can give your kids a foundation they can carry into relationships for the rest of their lives.

3. 

   10 Sept 2026

   22. Let’s Talk About Sex: Before “the talk” - 1 of 3

   Talking to your kids about sex can feel like one of the most intimidating responsibilities of fatherhood, especially if your own experience was one awkward conversation that came too late and ended too quickly. But healthy sexual formation does not begin with a single explanation of how sex works. It begins years earlier through ordinary conversations about the body, privacy, boundaries, relationships, value, and trust. In this episode, we reframe “the talk” as an ongoing relationship between a father and his child. The goal is not to have every answer or perfectly navigate every conversation. It is to become a safe, present father who pays attention, asks questions, responds without shame, and intentionally prepares his kids for the things they will eventually encounter. In This Episode: • Why “the talk” works better as a series of conversations that develop as your child grows • How using clear, appropriate language about the body can remove unnecessary embarrassment and shame • The difference between teaching privacy and communicating that certain parts of the body are dirty or wrong • How simple boundaries around hugs, touching, tickling, secrets, and personal space prepare kids to understand consent later • Why a father’s reaction to uncomfortable questions can determine whether his child comes back with another one • How unanswered questions about worth, love, desirability, and identity can shape the relationships kids pursue as they grow • Using natural questions about friendships, crushes, relationships, and what kids are seeing or hearing to understand where they actually are • Why fathers need to proactively prepare kids for pornography, sexualized media, inappropriate images, and other influences before those things become immediate problems Key Themes: • Sexual formation as an ongoing conversation • Healthy identity without shame • Privacy, boundaries, and respect • Emotional safety between fathers and children • Worth beyond attention and desirability • Intentional fatherhood before difficult moments arrive Takeaway: You do not need to manufacture one perfect conversation that teaches your child everything they need to know about sex and relationships. Start with the next conversation they are ready for. Teach them that their body is good, help them understand appropriate boundaries, ask questions about what they are experiencing, and show through your response that they can bring difficult things to you. If you missed some of those opportunities earlier, you can still begin now. Growth happens as fathers choose to stay present, humble, engaged, and willing to enter conversations that may initially feel uncomfortable. The goal is not perfection. It is becoming the kind of father your child knows they can come back to.

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