Welcome to Built to Love, the podcast for couples who want to build lasting love. Hosted by Alexa Gelles, Relationship Counsellor and Coach, this podcast brings you the relationship skills we should’ve learned in school. Each episode offers practical tips and insights to help couples strengthen their connection and create more ease. Whether you’re facing communication challenges, navigating conflict, or building a happier future, Built to Love has the support you need—one conversation at a time!
Episode 8: Nonviolent Communication: The Secret to Feeling Heard (with David Ring)
Host Alexa Gelles interviews David Ring, nonviolent communication expert, who defines nonviolent communication, explains how it transforms relationships, and emphasizes tuning into personal needs to foster connection.
26 Sept 2025
Episode 7: Planning a Wedding? Don’t Skip This Conversation (with Colleen Marcoux)
Wedding officiant Colleen Marcoux discusses with host Alexa Gelles how couples can prepare for marriage beyond wedding planning, exploring meaningful conversations and the rising popularity of elopements in this interview.
5 Sept 2025
7 Mindset Shifts That Will Transform Your Relationship
Relationship coach Alexa Gelles reveals seven powerful mindset shifts that help couples overcome challenges and build a lasting, connected future together in this interview.
17 May 2025
The 4 Worst Relationship Myths (And What to Do Instead)
You’ve probably heard things like “never go to bed angry” or “fighting is bad” and assumed they were gold-standard advice for a healthy relationship. But here’s the truth—some of the most popular relationship tips are actually doing more harm than good.
In this episode of Build to Love, I’m unpacking four of the most common myths that keep couples stuck, confused, and questioning their connection. These outdated beliefs can create unrealistic expectations and make you feel like you’re doing something wrong—when in reality, you’re just navigating what it really means to grow in partnership.
I’m sharing what’s actually true about conflict, communication, support, and long-term love—and giving you the tools to create a relationship that’s more grounded, connected, and resilient.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why going to bed angry might be the healthier choice
How fighting (when done well) is a sign of a strong relationship
Why waiting for a crisis to seek support can slow your growth
The real reason relationships aren’t supposed to feel “easy” all the time
How to shift your mindset to build love that truly lasts
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22 Apr 2025
Stop Fighting, Start Connecting: The Built to Last Method for Lasting Love
Keep having the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone—and you’re not stuck. In this episode, I’m walking you through the 3 pillars of my Built to Last method to help you stop the cycle of conflict, communicate more clearly, and feel deeply connected again. These are the exact tools that changed my own relationship and now help my clients create love that actually lasts.
What you’ll walk away with:
Why small fights can feel so big
How to stop arguments before they spiral
How to reconnect emotionally and physically
Did something in this episode hit home? DM me on Instagram @alexagelles (https://instagram.com/alexagelles) and let me know what resonated—or which pillar you want help with.
Want more support? Join the waitlist for Built to Last (https://alexagelles.com/built-to-last) or reach out to work with me 1-on-1 (https://alexagelles.com/relationship-coaching).
If this episode helped, don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review—it helps more couples find the tools to create lasting love.
28 Mar 2025
3 Surprising Relationship Beliefs That Will Change How You See Love
Looking for the "perfect" partner? Spoiler alert: they don't exist. In this episode, I’m diving into the power of imperfection in relationships. I’ll share why letting go of unrealistic expectations and accepting both your and your partner’s flaws can lead to a deeper, stronger connection. Relationships aren’t about perfection; they’re about growth, understanding, and making it work together despite the bumps along the way.
What you’ll walk away with:
Why imperfections are opportunities for growth, not obstacles
How understanding each other's flaws can strengthen the bond
The importance of shared values over aiming for flawlessness
Did any of these insights surprise you or shift your perspective? DM me on Instagram @alexagelles (http://instagram.com/alexagelles) and share your thoughts!
Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review if this episode resonated with you!
28 Mar 2025
Welcome to Build to Love: Why Love Feels Hard (and How to Make It Last)
Welcome to the first episode of Built to Love!
Relationships can be tough, but they don’t have to be a constant struggle. In this episode, I’m sharing why relationships often feel harder than they should and what we can do about it. I’ll walk you through the key things I’ve learned on my own journey of building a healthy, lasting relationship—and give you a sneak peek into the powerful tools you’ll learn in this podcast. If you're ready to stop the cycle of endless conflict and start building a love that lasts, this episode is for you.
What you’ll walk away with:
The main reason relationships feel harder than they should
How making small, intentional changes leads to stronger communication
Why building a strong foundation is key to long-term success
Want to create a relationship that's built to last? Check out my 1:1 Premarital Coaching sessions here (alexagelles.com/relationship-coaching). If this episode hit home, don’t forget to leave a review and share it with your besties!
28 Mar 2025
Why You Keep Having the Same Fights (and How to Finally Break Free)
Arguments are a part of every relationship—but they don’t have to pull you apart. In this episode, I’ll talk about why conflict is normal, how to handle it better, and how to use it to grow closer with your partner. I’ll share simple ways to shift how you respond during fights, improve your communication, and turn arguments into moments for growth.
What you’ll walk away with:
How to stop fights from spiraling and stay connected
Why arguments can actually help you grow together
Easy steps to improve understanding and communication during tough talks
Ready to break the cycle of conflict and build a relationship that lasts?
Check out my 1:1 Premarital Coaching sessions here (alexagelles.com/relationship-coaching).
I’d love to hear from you—let me know what resonated, what surprised you, or any topics you'd love me to cover in future episodes. Reach out to me on Instagram@alexagelles (https://instagram.com/alexagelles)!
15 Mar 2025
Start Your Journey to Lasting Love: Built to Love Podcast Trailer
Welcome to Built to Love, the podcast for couples ready to stop fighting and build a lasting, loving relationship. In each episode, I’ll share tools to improve communication, navigate conflict, and face life’s challenges together. Whether you’re facing recurring arguments or want long-term success, this podcast will help you create the love you deserve. Hit subscribe and start building lasting love, one conversation at a time!
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