You built the life that looks successful, hit the top, and quietly realised it was never actually yours.
That's borrowed desire, and this episode is where you stop pretending you didn't notice.
I came home from my big trip still riding the high, then a few days later I was in the car, inconsolable, sobbing, asking what the fuck I'm even doing here.
Charlie and I sit right in the snapback: that gnarly stretch where every area of your life lights up like a neon sign and you can't unsee it.
We talk about the gap between success and fulfilment, why the money was never enough, burnout, and what shifts when you stop leading from logic.
If you're a high-achieving woman or a female founder in NZ asking how do I stop feeling overwhelmed as a working mum, this is for you.
It's not a quick fix.
It's the somatic, aliveness-led work we're in every single day.
Press play if you're done tolerating a life that looks great on paper and quietly doesn't feel like yours.
16 Sept 2026
28: 40 hours on a plane to learn this one thing.
Here's why the women who go furthest aren't trying harder, they're finally giving themselves permission to know who they are and want what they want.
Ash comes back from attending Living Brave Live in Denver having danced in her underwear with a crowd of two thousand strangers, and we unpick what that freedom actually is. Not confidence, not another strategy.
It's putting down the internal baggage, the masks, the noise in your head, and being clean in your own energy.
We talk about why being slightly off from what you truly want is exactly where burnout lives, why competition is a story, and why you can fuck it up without being a fuck up. This is for the exhausted high-achieving woman who has an inkling there's more.
Press play if you're done shrinking back, and come join Made for More here...
https://hello.holisticskincoach.co.nz/made-for-more-4429 (https://hello.holisticskincoach.co.nz/made-for-more-4429)
7 Sept 2026
The Power Within You - Guest Fliss Gray
This one is a little different.
Ash is away, so Charlie sits down with Fliss Gray, the coach and breathwork facilitator behind Finding Focus, before the session the two of them run together on Sunday 13 September.
They talk about what breathwork actually is once you get past the noise around it.
Not a big cathartic performance, but the simple act of following your breath until the analysing, planning part of your mind steps back and the rest of you gets a word in.
Fliss is open about having been a full sceptic before she trained, and about what shifted that, which was her own experience rather than the theory.
They get into self-awareness that never turns into change, and the years you can spend naming your patterns without ever learning to settle them.
Attention and energy as things you spend well or leak.
Why discernment matters when there is a framework for everything and now AI on top.
And why something this simple, and this free, has never quite gone mainstream.
Free resources at www.charlieandash.co.nz. (www.charlieandash.co.nz)
You can find Fliss on Instagram @findingfocus_nz
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