Brad and Michaela Draper have what many people call "a unique relationship that others strive to be like". Though they feel their relationship is fairly normal, they also realize they are different from most other relationships. They found each on the dance floor of a bar, were married 9 months later, were told they were making a massive mistake... here they are 10 years later with two little rug rats. Brad and Michaela are beyond excited to share some of the nuggets they have picked up along the way while curating what many would say is the ultimate power couple. Join them on this journey as they relay a variety of topics to help you create the type relationship you strive for most.
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152. Opening Our Home: Building Sanctuaries of Compassion
Building a Life That Actually Means Something
What does it look like to open your home, your schedule, and your heart to people who need it most? The Drapers, best friends and co-hosts, are doing exactly that and sharing every honest, messy detail along the way.
Currently preparing their basement apartment for a friend navigating a difficult life transition, the Drapers reflect on how their home has become a genuine sanctuary for people in crisis. (They originally rented the space to afford their 2022 home purchase, which makes this generosity even more striking.) Guests consistently report feeling a different spiritual presence there, something the Drapers connect directly to placing Christ at the center of their home.
Practically speaking, hospitality costs them. Increased utilities, household stress, and Brad managing their 10-month-old daughter during work calls from home are all real challenges they openly acknowledge. Honestly, the inconvenience is real and it is ongoing. Yet they keep showing up anyway, choosing meaningful relationships over comfortable routines.
Are you truly giving your best effort in relationships, family, and life right now? That question sits at the heart of this conversation.
Deeply rooted in mutual support and continuous self-improvement, this episode challenges listeners to look outward even when life feels chaotic.
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7 Oct 2026
151. Speaking Your Partner's Love Language: How Brad and Michaela Transformed Their Marriage
When Folding Laundry Almost Broke a Marriage
What happens when two people love each other deeply but speak completely different emotional languages? Brad and Michaela Draper of "Choosing Us" lived that confusion firsthand, and their story is both funny and genuinely eye-opening.
In their 13-year marriage, Brad's primary love language is acts of service while Michaela's is physical touch. The tension came to a head in a moment that perfectly captures how well-meaning couples miss each other entirely: Brad folded laundry upstairs while Michaela sat downstairs wanting to cuddle. Both were trying to show love. Neither felt it.
Understanding love languages transformed everything for them. Through teaching a prison program class on the topic, they came to see how each person both gives and receives affection differently, and how those preferences shift with life circumstances, hormones, and growing families. (They also had some relatable trouble adjusting to new iPhones, which, honestly, same.)
Importantly, they stress that love languages change over time, they're not fixed traits but evolving needs. Their insights extend beyond marriage to children, friendships, and all meaningful relationships.
If you have ever felt unloved despite someone clearly trying, this episode might explain exactly why.
Tune in to "Choosing Us" and let Brad and Michaela show you how to finally speak someone's language.
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30 Sept 2026
150. 150 Episodes of Teamwork: Grace, Grit, and Growing Together
150 Episodes and Still Going Strong
Incredibly, reaching episode 150 puts The Drapers in the top five percent of all podcasts since most shows don't survive past episode twenty. That milestone alone makes this episode worth your time. Michaela and Brad recorded this one late into the night, exhausted but committed, because keeping promises matters even when life gets messy.
What does it actually look like to keep a marriage thriving through sick kids, morning routine battles, and a deeply inconvenient stomach bug hitting three children on different days? (The "double dragon" phenomenon they describe is as chaotic as it sounds.) This episode gets into all of it with honesty and humor.
In nearly three years of consistent content, the Drapers have built something real: a show that has grown alongside their work teaching in prisons, which has become their actual weekly date night. Their central message is clear and worth repeating: relationships don't just drift, they require constant intentional effort or couples slowly become roommates instead of best friends.
Can a conversation about diaper pails and trash bags half-left in the garage genuinely strengthen your marriage? Surprisingly, yes.
From morning routines to grace under pressure, this episode is a reminder that the small things are never really small. Listen to episode 150 of Choosing Us now.
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Reach and audience
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YouTube views
143
Score snapshot 15 Sept 2025
Apple Podcasts (US)
5.0 / 5
11 ratings
Spotify
5.0 / 5
5 ratings
Podcast Authority Score: 75 / 100
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Quality
96
Social presence
0
YouTube
66
Engagement
71
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