Coffee and Conversations for MEN

About Coffee and Conversations for MEN

Welcome to Coffee and Conversations for MEN, the podcast where two men, Jay Guy and Brian Jones, sit down to share their stories—of struggles, successes, and everything in between—as they navigate the ups and downs of life. Each episode, we will dive into the topics men are curious about, as it relates to their fitness, nutrition, relationships, mental health, and being a lifelong learner. If you’re looking for real talk, honest discussions, and practical advice, you’re in the right place. So grab your coffee, sit back, and join us for some candid conversations.

Publisher

Jay and Brian

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

15 Jan 2025

Latest episode

30 Sept 2026

Latest episodes

26 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   30 Sept 2026

   Episode #26: Own Your Sh*t — Apologies, Accountability & Alignment

   Episode #26: Own Your Sh*t —Apologies, Accountability & Alignment What does it really mean to OWN YOUR SHIT? It’s more than saying, “I’m sorry.” It’s recognizing when we’ve messed up, taking responsibility for our actions, understanding our impact on others, making things right when we can, and changing our behaviour so we don’t keep repeating the same patterns. In this episode, Jay and Brian explore accountability through the Five Pillars of Wellness: Fitness, Nutrition, Mental Health, Relationships, and Lifelong Learning. Because owning your shit isn’t about shame. It’s about becoming more aware, responsible, and aligned with the man you want to be. 1:00 INTRODUCTION 2:15 ☕ WHAT’S IN YOUR CUP? Jay:  Algonquin Campfire Dark Roast  (https://ovroasthouse.ca/products/algonquin-campfire-1?srsltid=AU7gw4WCLrUlxEWVkDnV_FmTGBnKSMtzry-j2hJUXhS-j5snBi0d16RO) Brian: https://www.velvetsunrise.ca/ (https://www.velvetsunrise.ca/)  Velvet Espresso 4:27 💪 FITNESS — Own Your Body Accountability isn't punishment. It’s taking responsibility for how you care for yourself. Fitness is about showing up, making adjustments, and doing the work. 19:00 🥗 NUTRITION — Own What You Put in Your Body Are you actually hungry or are you eating because you're stressed, bored, frustrated, or avoiding something? You can't change a pattern you're unwilling to recognize. 32:40 🧠 MENTAL HEALTH — Own What’s Going On Inside Understanding why we behave the way we do doesn't excuse our behaviour. Understanding why ≠ excusing. Awareness gives us an opportunity to make different choices. 45:45 ❤️ RELATIONSHIPS — Own Your Impact A real apology goes beyond “I'm sorry.” We explore four steps: Recognition → Responsibility → Remorse → Repair. Saying sorry without changing behaviour isn't accountability, it’s repetition. 58:22 📚 LIFELONG LEARNING — Own What You Still Have to Learn Growth requires humility. Sometimes owning your shit means admitting you were wrong, listening instead of defending, and being willing to change your thinking. 🎯 KEY MESSAGES *Accountability is not shame. *Your past may explain your behaviour, but it doesn't have to dictate your future. *Intent doesn't erase impact. *A genuine apology includes action and repair. *You can't control someone else's response, you can control how you show up. *Growth requires humility and a willingness to learn. *Alignment means your actions increasingly reflect your values. ☕ ONE QUESTION TO TAKE WITH YOU Where in your life do you already know you need to own your shit? Not tomorrow. Not when things calm down. What is one small step toward accountability you can take today? RESOURCES: Fisher, J. (2024). The next conversation: Argue less, talk more. Avery. Kim, J. (2019). I used to be a miserable fck: An everyman's guide to a meaningful life*. HarperOne. Marcus, A. (2018). Own the day, own your life: Optimized practices for waking, working, learning, eating, training, playing,sleeping, and sex. HarperCollins 🔗 CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4men Facebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN YouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMEN Email: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com (mailto:CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com) Coffee & Conversations for MEN Real Conversations. Real Men. Real Growth. Because sometimes becoming the best version of yourself starts withhaving the courage to look in the mirror and say: “Yep. That’s mine. I own it.”

2. 

   1 Sept 2026

   #25: Why Men Resist Change (Even When It’s Hurting Us)

   Episode #25: Why Men Resist Change (Even When It’s Hurting Us) Change isn’t hard because men don’t understand it… It’s hard because it threatens who we believe we must be. In this episode of Coffee & Conversations for MEN, we take a real, honest look at why so many men stay stuck—even when weknow something isn’t working. This isn’t about willpower. It’s about identity.It’s about avoidance. And it’s about what we’ve been taught to protect at all costs. Through five core areas—Fitness, Nutrition, Mental Health,Relationships, and Lifelong Learning—we break down why change feels sodifficult… and what it actually takes to move forward. 00:45 Overview 2:05 What's in your CUP? Jay Stock and Crown Coffee Company (https://www.stockandcrown.com/?srsltid=AfmBOopvzUuH_LHDVlWG_XRsynGeykGRVDtJ_M0VnAJbJkWmYd8BtQvZ) Brian Gros Morne Coffee Roasters (https://grosmornecoffee.ca/) 4:00 💪 FITNESS — “The Body Knows You’re Stuck Before You Do” Fitness isn’t just physical—it’s deeply personal. -It was the identity shift. -Why men avoid starting (hint: it’s not laziness) -The ego hit of becoming a beginner again -How inconsistency can actually reflect growth -The shift from self-criticism → self-compassion Key Takeaway: Change doesn’t happen through motivation—it happens through repetition and consistency. 12:00 🥗 NUTRITION — “Comfort Has a Taste” We don’t eat the way we do because we don’t know better… We eat the way we do because it feels familiar. This segment dives into how food is tied to comfort, routine, and upbringing, and why changing it can feel like losing a part of yourself. -The “clean your plate” mindset many men grew up with -Food as stress relief, reward, and habit -Why knowledge alone doesn’t create change -The identity shift: “trying to eat better” → “I take care of my body” Key Takeaway: Every meal is a vote for the man you want to become. 21:38 🧠 MENTAL HEALTH — “If You Don’t Name It, You Carry It” This is where most men struggle the longest. Because we weren’t taught how to process emotions—we were taught how to suppress them. -Limited emotional awareness growing up -Suppression turning into stress and physical tension -Psychosomatic pain and emotional buildup -The power of therapy, movement, and honest conversation Key Takeaway: Avoidance protects you short-term—but costs you long-term. “Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.” — Mariska Hargitay 31: 27 ❤️ RELATIONSHIPS — “The Hardest Place to Change” Men don’t avoid hard conversations because we don’t care… We avoid them because we care so much. This segment explores: -Why silence feels safer than honesty -How avoidance creates distance over time -The myth that “keeping the peace” protects relationships -The truth: conflict handled well builds connection Key Takeaway: Avoidance doesn’t protect relationships—it slowly disconnects them. 40:26 📚 LIFELONG LEARNING — “Growth Stops When Identity Freezes” When was the last time you did something for the first time? This conversation digs into how men often embrace “controlled change”, but resist anything that makes us feel like beginners again. -Identity vs growth -Why men resist learning new things -The danger of “this is just who I am” -Expanding who you are instead of protecting who you were Key Takeaway: You don’t lose yourself when you grow—you expand yourself. “You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.” 🔥 FINAL THOUGHT Men don’t resist change because we’re weak… We resist it because it forces us to face what we’ve been avoiding. But here’s the truth: Avoiding it doesn’t protect you—it keeps you stuck. Change doesn’t start when you understand it. It starts when you step into it. One rep.One choice.One conversation at a time. 📲 CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4men Threads: @coffeeandconversations4men TikTok: Coffee and Conversations 4 MEN YouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMEN Facebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN Email: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com (mailto:CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com)

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   31 Jul 2026

   #24 Therapy Isn't What You Think It Is (Especially for MEN)

   Coffee & Conversations for MEN 🎙️ Episode #24 Therapy Isn't What You Think It Is (Especially for MEN) 00.50 Episode Overview What comes to mind when you hear the word therapy? For many men, it brings hesitation, uncertainty, or thebelief that it’s only necessary when life is falling apart. In this episode, we challenge that narrative and open up an honest, practical conversation about what therapy really is, and why it matters. Jay and Brian sit down with Psychotherapist (Qualifying)Kim Stuart to explore how therapy can be a powerful tool for growth, self-awareness, and building stronger relationships. With nearly 30 years in education, including 13 years asa secondary school principal. Kim brings both professional expertise and real-life perspective to her work. Her approach is rooted in compassion, curiosity, and collaboration, creating a safe space for people to reflect, heal, and grow. This conversation breaks down the barriers, removes the stigma, and reminds us of one simple truth: Strength isn’t about carrying everything alone. Strength is having the courage to understand yourself. 03:40 What's In Your Cup? Jay: Kicking House : Happy Camper (https://kickinghorsecoffee.ca/collections/coffee) Brian: Tall Boy Roaster: Brazil Espresso (https://tallboyroasters.ca/?srsltid=AfmBOorlq2CQYLN8ZYCflTM8GDwuI69lnvURWnxte-6zfZs6pguhom-o) What We Talk About 07:30 What to expect in your first therapy session 09:40 Therapy explained simply (CBT, ACT, Narrative) 15:44 Why therapy isn’t just for crisis 17:35 Why men hesitate—and what changes that 21:13 How therapy fits into a busy life 22:25 Where therapy makes the biggest impact 23:00 The cost of avoiding stress and burnout 25:00 Why personal experience shapes belief in therapy 27:50 Finding the right therapist and when to move on 36:10 What to look for (and red flags) 37:09 Why discomfort can be part of growth 14:07 What men discover about themselves in therapy 51:50 What progress really looks like 51:52 How to prepare for your first session 53:58 A message for men who are quietly struggling Therapy Approaches — Quick Glossary CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) Focuses on the connection between thoughts, feelings,and behaviours. Helps you identify unhelpful thinking patterns and replace them with more realistic, constructive ones. ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) Teaches you to accept difficult thoughts and emotionsrather than fight them, while committing to actions that align with yourvalues. Narrative Therapy Encourages you to separate yourself from your problemsand “rewrite” the stories you tell about your life in a more empowering way. Solution-Focused Therapy Focuses on solutions rather than problems. Helps youidentify what’s already working and build on small, practical steps forward. Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) Helps you better understand, process, and express youremotions to improve relationships and emotional well-being. Strength-Based Therapy Focuses on your existing strengths, skills, andresilience rather than deficits—building confidence and capability. Books Referenced Buford, B. (1994). Half time: Moving from success to significance. Zondervan. Cole, T. (2023). Too much: A guide to breaking the cycle of high-functioning codependency. Penguin Random House. Payne, A. (2025). The vagus nerve protocol: 28 days in 10 minutes. Kim, J. (2020). I used to be a miserable f*ck: An everyman’s guide to a meaningful life*. HarperOne. Contact Kim Stuart Clinical Director & Founder, Bridge to Hope Inc. Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) Phone: 647-924-1727 Email: Kim.stuart@bridgetohope.ca (mailto:Kim.stuart@bridgetohope.ca) 🔗 ConnectWith Us Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4men Threads: coffeeandconversatios4men TikTok: Coffee and Conversations 4 MEN YouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMEN Facebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN Email: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com (mailto:CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com)

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

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Spotify

5.0 / 5

12 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 55 / 100

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