Welcome to Confessions of a Parent Coach, the podcast where you'll learn that even parenting experts like me, Ann Kaplan, mother of four, and your host won't have all the answers. I believe that once you realize there's no such thing as a perfect parent, you can achieve fabulous behavior and amazing relationships with your kids.
When Your Kid Gets in Trouble at School: What's Actually Yours to Handle
Getting a note home from school can make you feel like you're the one being called into the principal's office.
In this episode, Ann talks about the emotional spiral that can happen when your kid gets a refocus sheet, a behavior note, or a call home — and why the first step is separating your child's classroom behavior from your identity as a parent.
She also breaks down a key shift: classroom management is primarily the responsibility of the person running the classroom. That doesn't mean blaming the teacher. It means collaborating without taking on a problem you can't fully solve from home.
What You'll Learn
Why school behavior issues can trigger shame, defensiveness, and panic
What to ask teachers before adding consequences at home
When home reinforcement can actually help
Why behavior conversations shouldn't happen in front of your child
How to work with the school without making your child feel like "the bad kid"
Key Takeaway
Before asking, "What should I do at home?" ask:
"How are you handling this in the classroom?"
That one question can completely change the conversation.
Want Support With This?
If you're tired of knowing what you should do but still getting pulled into the same shame, frustration, or reactivity, Ann's group coaching program is where you can work through the deeper stuff in real time — alongside other parents who get it.
You'll get coaching, practical support, and a community that helps you respond more calmly and confidently when parenting gets messy.
14 Oct 2026
The Wisdom of Knowing Nothing: What Changes When You Stop Assuming You Know Best
What if the wisest thing you could bring into parenting was the willingness to admit, I don't know?
In this episode of Confessions of a Parent Coach, Ann shares a personal season of questioning herself as a coach and what it revealed about self-awareness, judgment, and growth.
Inspired by the idea, "I know that I know nothing," she explores what changes when we stop assuming we already understand our kids' behavior, struggles, or needs.
Sometimes the most powerful response isn't advice. It's curiosity.
Instead of rushing in with answers, what if we slowed down enough to ask:
What's really going on here?
What am I not seeing yet?
What does my child need from me right now?
Ann also shares how self-judgment nearly caused her to pull away from her coaching work, and why awareness itself isn't the problem — it's what we make that awareness mean.
In this episode:
Why self-awareness can sometimes feel so uncomfortable
The difference between awareness and self-judgment
How curiosity can change the way we respond to our kids
Why "knowing less" can create more connection
What Ann is changing inside her parenting coaching group
The question to sit with this week:
Where might you be judging what you're becoming aware of instead of simply allowing yourself to see it?
7 Oct 2026
Why You Can See the Pattern and Still Not Change It
You know the pattern. You can see yourself doing it. You may even know exactly why you're doing it.
So why can't you just stop?
In this episode of Confessions of a Parent Coach, Ann Kaplan explores the uncomfortable space between self-awareness and actual behavior change.
Sometimes growth doesn't look like improvement yet. Sometimes it looks like noticing yourself yelling, people-pleasing, over-functioning, controlling, or repeating an old relationship dynamic… and feeling completely frustrated that you're still doing it.
But that awareness matters.
Ann breaks down how observation creates the distance we need for future choice, how this connects to Internal Family Systems and the Enneagram, and why the "goo" stage of transformation can feel so discouraging even when something important is happening underneath.
If you've been thinking, I know better, so why am I not doing better? — this episode is for you.
In this episode:
Why awareness comes before agency
How behavioral patterns actually begin to change
The difference between noticing a pattern and being able to stop it
IFS, self-observation, and creating distance from your parts
The Enneagram and waking up to automatic patterns
Why being witnessed can help you recognize your own growth
Join Ann's Group Parent Coaching Program
If you're noticing your patterns but struggling to create lasting change on your own, group coaching gives you support, perspective, accountability, and a place to be witnessed through the process.
Learn more here:
https://www.annkaplanparentcoach.com/groupparentcoaching
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