Create Your Happy

About Create Your Happy

Welcome to the Create Your Happy podcast with your host, Christy Holt, AKA The Happiness Hussy! My mission is to inspire and empower women to embrace their humanness, find their unique voice, and create a world of joy and authenticity. Join us for your weekly dose of real, unfiltered conversations about life and love. We explore a wide range of topics related to creating conscious, healthy and loving relationships, both with others, and — even more importantly — with ourself. Alright, gorgeous — let’s get curious, become inspired, and Create Your Happy!

Publisher

Christy Holt - The Happiness Hussy

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

29 Mar 2022

Latest episode

29 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

153 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   29 Oct 2026

   Less Expert, More Human | A New Season of Real Conversations About Happiness

   It’s been a hot minute! And I’ve been thinking about where I want to take Create Your Happy next. This season, it’s less expert, more human. I’m tired of the five easy steps to happiness, the next guru, and the idea that we need someone else to tell us how to live our lives. I call BS. I’m having real conversations with humans, not experts who have everything all figured out. We’re talking about happiness, what makes us feel truly alive, what we’ve learned about ourselves, and what it means to create a life that actually feels like our own. No perfectly packaged answers. No sneaky pitches. Just honest conversations about the messy, beautiful experience of being human. I’ll also be exploring what happiness means to me, who I am beyond my roles and labels, and why I believe our relationships with ourselves, others, and life shape how we experience just about everything. Welcome to Season 6 of Create Your Happy. I cannot wait for these conversations. 🩷 Want more? Find more episodes of Create Your Happy, along with my books, courses and other offerings, at coachchristyholt.com⁠. In this episode, we explore: 00:00 — Why I’m Changing the Create Your Happy Podcast 00:20 — Calling Out the Happiness Hype 01:17 — Why You Don’t Need to Fix Yourself to Be Happy 02:37 — Finding Happiness From Within 03:09 — Real Humans, Not Happiness Gurus 04:25 — Why This Season’s Conversations Are Unscripted 05:26 — Exploring What Happiness Really Means 06:10 — Who Am I Beyond My Roles and Labels? 07:46 — What Happiness Means to Me 09:27 — How Our Relationships Shape Our Experience of Life 09:59 — Welcome to Season 6 of Create Your Happy 🎶 Music Credit: “Big Adventure” by Paul Yudin | License Code: IFYBJMN4DCRTCSPO

2. 

   6 Feb 2026

   When Dysfunction Feels Normal (and You Think It’s Just You)

   If dysfunction feels familiar, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you learned how to adapt. This episode is a little different from the usual Relationship Rants. Recorded during a live girls night in, Christy shares a personal story that sits at the heart of so many relationship, work, and life patterns—not because it’s dramatic, but because it’s quietly common. We praise people for being adaptable, flexible, and resilient, without stopping to ask what that adaptability is costing them. Over time, small adjustments become invisible, effort becomes normal, and exhaustion starts to feel like a personality trait. This conversation isn’t about self improvement, personality tests, or fixing yourself. It’s about identity—who we learn to be in order to belong, feel safe, and be accepted, and how that identity can start running our lives without us realizing it. And it’s about the stories we tell that shape our experience. This episode invites a softer kind of awareness. One where misalignment isn’t failure, burnout isn’t who you are, and coming home to yourself doesn’t require a dramatic overhaul—just a pause, a noticing, and a gentle remembering. Contact Christy & Additional Resources: www.coachchristyholt.com Chapters 00:00 — When Dysfunction Feels Familiar Why normal doesn’t always mean healthy. 00:16 — This Episode Is a Little Different A live girls night in story that reveals quiet patterns. 00:37 — Identity Is Learned, Not Inherent How belonging teaches us who to be. 02:34 — How Patterns Become Normal Small adaptations that slowly disappear from view. 03:12 — Who You Learned to Be The roles we take on to fit, stay safe, and be accepted. 05:49 — When Adaptation Becomes Identity How misalignment starts to feel like “this is just who I am.” 06:36 — Burnout, Overwhelm, and Self-Blame When exhaustion gets mistaken for personality. 07:51 — When the Story Takes Over How internal narratives quietly shape our lives. 08:31 — The Stories We Tell Ourselves Why changing the story changes the experience. 10:25 — When Normal Stops Being Neutral The hidden cost of ignoring your nature and rhythms. 12:00 — How This Shows Up in Relationships Belonging over truth, approval over alignment. 12:37 — A Quiet Invitation to Notice Coming home to yourself without pressure or labels. 🎶 Music Credit: “Big Adventure” by Paul Yudin | License Code: IFYBJMN4DCRTCSPO

3. 

   23 Jan 2026

   Narcissism Isn’t What You Think (And Why Labels Keep You Stuck)

   “Narcissist” has become one of the most overused words in modern relationship spaces—and while the label can sometimes bring relief and validation, it can also quietly freeze growth. In this Relationship Rant, Christy slows the conversation way down to explore what narcissism actually is, what it isn’t, and why reducing every painful relationship to a single label often keeps people stuck in the very patterns they’re trying to escape. This episode isn’t about excusing behaviour, denying harm, or blaming anyone. It’s about understanding patterns—because patterns are where real change happens. We explore the difference between narcissistic personality disorder and common narcissistic patterns, why these dynamics don’t exist in isolation, how over-responsibility pairs with control, and why labels can feel clarifying while quietly removing agency. This conversation brings compassion without collapse, responsibility without shame, and a powerful reframe that shifts the focus from diagnosing others to reclaiming choice, self-trust, and balance. Contact Christy & Additional Resources: www.coachchristyholt.com Chapters 00:00 — Why “Narcissist” Has Become the Most Overused Label How one word has come to explain everything—and why that’s a problem. 01:15 — What Narcissism Is (and Isn’t) Distinguishing clinical diagnoses from common relational patterns. 03:04 — Why So Many Women Reach for the Narcissist Label Validation, relief, and the moment a name finally makes sense. 04:42 — Patterns Work in Pairs Why narcissistic dynamics require a matching pattern to stay alive. 06:20 — Covert vs Overt Narcissistic Patterns Dominance, victimhood, and the quieter forms of control. 07:07 — Refusal of Responsibility vs Over-Responsibility Two trauma responses that mirror each other—and keep imbalance in place. 08:08 — The Spectrum of Self From entitlement to people pleasing, and where health actually lives. 09:27 — Generational Trauma and Relational Templates How families teach us who adapts, who holds power, and what love requires. 11:07 — Why Labels Keep You Stuck How certainty can feel safer than complexity—and why it blocks change. 11:39 — How Patterns Actually Begin to Shift Awareness, interruption, and reclaiming choice without shame. 12:25 — Episode Recap Clarity without blame—and why freedom comes from honest self-awareness. 🎶 Music Credit: “Big Adventure” by Paul Yudin | License Code: IFYBJMN4DCRTCSPO

Reach and audience

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

14 ratings

Spotify

4.7 / 5

19 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 60 / 100

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Quality

90

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

77