Dating on High Alert

About Dating on High Alert

Dating on High Alert dives into the messy reality of relationships and life, neurodivergence, trauma, masking, and survival mode - because when your nervous system has spent years trying to keep you safe, connection gets complicated. Hosted by Ilja Abbattista - trauma-informed coach, survivor advocate, and AuDHD truth-teller - this podcast explores ADHD, autism, CPTSD, attachment, emotional overwhelm, nervous system responses, and what it actually means to build safety in love and life after survival. For neurodivergent people, trauma survivors, partners, and couples trying to understand each other more deeply. Because this isn’t just about dating. It’s about learning to hear yourself again, in life and in love. New episodes weekly. Until next spiral.

Publisher

Ilja Abbattista

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

6 May 2025

Latest episode

10 Jun 2026

Latest episodes

38 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   10 Jun 2026

   ADHD Medication Revealed My Autism | The Day My Brain Went Quiet

   Send us Fan Mail What really happens when you start ADHD medication? In this episode of Dating on High Alert, Ilja Abbattista shares her honest personal experience of being diagnosed with ADHD in her 50s and starting stimulant medication for the first time. From the fear of losing her creativity to experiencing a quiet mind for the first time in her life, Ilja explores the reality of titration, side effects, dopamine-seeking behaviours, and the unexpected discovery that ADHD medication reveal...

2. 

   31 May 2026

   Stop Giving People an Exit Before They've Chosen to Stay

   Send us Fan Mail Have you ever told someone everything about your past, only to watch them pull away? Maybe you've called it honesty, or you've called it vulnerability. Maybe you've convinced yourself that if they're going to leave, you'd rather know now. But what if sharing your deepest wounds too early isn't connection? What if it's self-protection? In this episode of Dating on High Alert, Ilja explores the hidden difference between intimacy and intensity, why so many people with trauma, AD...

3. 

   20 May 2026

   Read. Forgotten. Devastated. (You've Been Both.)

   Send us Fan Mail What happens when you read a message, mean to reply… and then completely forget? And what happens when someone does the same thing to you? In this episode of Dating on High Alert, we’re talking about unread messages, forgotten plans, RSD spirals, ADHD, autism, AuDHD, avoidance, and the painful gap between intention and impact. Because sometimes one person is distracted - and the other person feels abandoned. This episode is for anyone who has ever forgotten to reply, gone qui...

Reach and audience

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

1 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 10 / 100

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Social presence

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YouTube

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