Deeper With Darshana

About Deeper With Darshana

The podcast for soulful seekers, liberated lovers, the courageously curious and anyone who aspires to evolve in those ways. Get ready for stimulation, provocation and transformation - mind, spirit and body - as we go Deeper, together. Join Darshana Avila—somatic sex and relationship expert, international speaker, and Erotic Wholeness transformational guide—for honest, unfiltered conversations exploring sex and intimacy, soul and social justice, healing and wholeness, pleasure and power and so much more. Each episode is an invitation to deepen your own journey of personal liberation and transformation. Darshana and her guests share real stories, practical wisdom, and the kind of radical honesty that sparks action and aliveness. Whether you’re seeking to deepen your relationship with yourself, your partner, or your community, this podcast is your space to get curious, get real, and get free.

Publisher

Darshana Avila

Category

health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

9 Jan 2026

Latest episode

30 Apr 2026

Latest episodes

21 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   30 Apr 2026

   The Wheel of Consent: Desire, Boundaries, and True Intimacy with Betty Martin & Marcia Baczynski

   In this foundational and perspective-shifting conversation, Darshana sits down with Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent, and Marcia Baczynski, a leading educator and facilitator of this work, to explore what consent really means beyond the surface-level definitions most people are taught. Together, they unpack how disconnection from the body—not lack of skill or desire—is the root of most intimacy struggles. They explore how cultural conditioning, early experiences, and misunderstanding of consent shape the way people relate to touch, desire, and boundaries. This episode introduces the Wheel of Consent as a powerful framework for understanding who is doing what and who it is for, and how that clarity creates deeper connection, more authentic desire, and greater personal agency. In this episode, we explore: What the Wheel of Consent is and how it works Why most people are disconnected from what they truly want The difference between permission-based consent and agreement-based consent How cultural conditioning disconnects us from our bodies Why intimacy struggles are often not about sex at all The concept of “domain” and personal responsibility in relationships Why receiving can feel more vulnerable than giving How over-giving can be a way to avoid vulnerability The hidden question behind “Are you okay?” in intimacy The difference between doing something for someone vs for yourself How the Three Minute Game builds awareness and clarity Why slowing down is essential for discovering desire How to introduce consent practices into existing relationships The role of curiosity in building deeper intimacy About Betty & Marcia: Dr. Betty Martin Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years (some of it legal and some of it questionable). 30 years of Chiropractic and other modalities, then later, 15 years of Somatic Sex Education and Surrogate Partner Therapy. Also Contact Improv and other kinds of play. Marcia Baczynski Marcia Baczynski is a sought-after coach, writer, and presenter helping people reclaim desire, agency, and self-trust—especially in sex, relationships and community. Her work sits at the intersection of embodiment, consent culture, and unlearning the “good girl” conditioning that keeps so many people disconnected from their own aliveness. Connect with Betty: Free chapter of Betty's Book: https://www.wheelofconsent.org/free-chapter-sign-up (https://www.wheelofconsent.org/free-chapter-sign-up) bettymartin.org (http://bettymartin.org) wheelofconsent.org (http://wheelofconsent.org) https://www.instagram.com/thewheelofconsent (https://www.instagram.com/thewheelofconsent) https://www.youtube.com/bettymartin (https://www.youtube.com/bettymartin) Connect with Marcia: Free Asking For What You Want Starter Kit: http://askingforwhatyouwant.com/starter-kit (http://askingforwhatyouwant.com/starter-kit) http://askingforwhatyouwant.com (http://askingforwhatyouwant.com) http://instagram.com/askmarciab (http://instagram.com/askmarciab)

2. 

   24 Apr 2026

   Reclaiming Sensuality in Midlife with Elisa Spring

   In this rich and deeply human conversation, Darshana sits down with intimacy midwife Elisa Spring to explore the many expressions of erotic aliveness beyond sex alone. Together, they move through the intersections of play, grief, dance, motherhood, sensuality, and midlife transformation. Elisa shares how her own lived experience—through motherhood, movement, and personal evolution—has shaped her relationship to eros as something that is not separate from life, but woven through it. They explore how intimacy is not always graceful or polished, but often awkward, messy, and deeply revealing. Through that, they invite a more honest and embodied way of relating—to self, to others, and to the world. This episode is both grounding and expansive, offering a powerful reframe of eroticism as something that includes joy, sorrow, play, and everything in between. In this episode, we explore: How eroticism extends beyond sex into play, movement, and everyday life The connection between grief and pleasure in the body Why intimacy includes awkwardness, not just flow and chemistry How dance and movement reconnect us to sensual aliveness The role of motherhood as a path of transformation and initiation Why midlife is a powerful rite of passage for women and female bodies How unresolved experiences resurface during midlife for integration The relationship between land, nature, and sensual embodiment Why modern culture disconnects us from our erotic nature The importance of returning to childhood expressions of play and creativity How social conditioning shapes our relationship to sensuality The courage it takes to reclaim erotic aliveness Why pleasure and grief are not opposites, but interconnected The role of play in healing and reconnecting to self About Elisa: Elisa is a curious student of the mystery whose Mother Tongue has always been dance. She is a Mother to four magnificent humans ages 11, 13, 19, and 25. Elisa is a longtime Mentor and Intimacy Midwife. The intersections of her work include relational energetics, intimacy and communication skills, sexuality, expanded movement and grief tending. She is a Grief Doula, invoker of aliveness, and explorer of creative movement. Elisa creates spaces for humans to courageously connect to the pulse of their lifeforce. She currently facilitates Communal Grief Rituals and Wheel of Consent inspired touch practices that help humans to deepen intimacy with their bodies and expand their range of self-expression. Elisa loves spending her time enjoying communal meals, gathering around a fire, playing with her edges through contact improv, communing with waterfalls, and learning with horse kin. Connect with Elisa: Instagram: www.instagram/spellsoftruth (http://www.instagram/spellsoftruth) Website: Webswww.spellsoftruth.com (http://Webswww.spellsoftruth.com) Connect with Darshana: DarshanaAvila.com/offerings (http://DarshanaAvila.com/offerings) DarshanaAvila.com/community (http://DarshanaAvila.com/community) instagram.com/darshana_avila/ (http://instagram.com/darshana_avila/) YouTube.com/@darshana_avila (http://YouTube.com/@darshana_avila)

3. 

   17 Apr 2026

   Extended Lovemaking, Attunement, and the Art of Erotic Presence with Rahi Chun & Ariel Szabo

   In this expansive and deeply embodied conversation, Darshana is joined by colleagues Rahi Chun and Ariel Szabo to explore what it really means to cultivate intimacy beyond the limited scripts we’ve inherited about sex. Together, they unpack their body of work, Divine Union for Lovers, which emerged directly from their lived experience as partners and practitioners. What unfolds is a redefinition of lovemaking—not as performance or goal-oriented sex, but as a practice of presence, attunement, and expanded erotic connection. They explore how intimacy becomes a space for healing, nervous system regulation, and emotional integration, and how slowing down allows access to entirely new dimensions of pleasure and connection. In this episode, we explore: How their work Divine Union for Lovers emerged from their relationship Why extended lovemaking is not about endurance but about presence The importance of scheduling intimacy and creating intentional space How to cultivate intimacy even with limited time through ritual Why many people avoid intimacy due to unconscious fears and nervous system responses The role of attunement as a learnable skill, not an innate trait The eight pillars of intimacy and how they support deeper connection How desires shift over time and why ongoing communication is essential The impact of sexual history and nervous system patterns on intimacy How triggers can become opportunities for deeper connection and healing The concept of erotic charge and expanding the body’s capacity for pleasure Why sex is more than penetration and how to redefine what intimacy looks like The pleasure scale and how to move through different levels of arousal What dearmoring is and how the body releases protective patterns over time How slow, attuned lovemaking can rewire the nervous system Why creativity and exploration are essential to erotic aliveness About Rahi Chun & Ariel Szabo: Rahi Chun & Ariel Szabo are certified Somatic Sex Educators and Sexological Bodyworkers and the co-creators of Divine Union For Lovers, an educational, somatic, trauma-aware pleasure platform for lovers learning to deepen & expand their lovemaking. Ariel is also a Psychedelic practitioner working at the intersection of Plants and Pleasure and a writer exploring the effects of cultural conditioning, sexuality, social justice, power and pleasure at The Erotic Frontier on Substack, while Rahi is a Genital De-armoring Specialist teaching practitioners globally and online through his signature course, "The 3 Keys to Genital De-armoring for Reclaiming & Expanding Pleasure."  They enjoy nature, the ocean, travel, animals and food in Santa Monica, California. Connect with Rahi & Ariel: Offer Divine Union For Lovers Online Course: https://divineunionforlovers.com/ (https://divineunionforlovers.com/) Freebie The Art of Penis Mapping: https://divineunionforlovers.mykajabi.com/penis-mapping (https://divineunionforlovers.mykajabi.com/penis-mapping)

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