Ditch The Debate is the podcast for women who don't feel like themselves anymore. Each week, transformation coach and clinical hypnotherapist Taniel Strydom explores the patterns that keep us stuck - from people-pleasing and perfectionism to burnout, self-doubt and overthinking. Through honest conversations, practical tools and fresh perspectives, you'll reconnect with yourself, quiet the mental noise and create a life that feels like yours again.
Have you ever caught yourself thinking:
"I don't feel like myself anymore."
Maybe you've blamed motherhood.
A demanding career.
Stress.
Or simply getting older.
But what if that's not the real reason?
In this episode of Ditch the Debate, Taniel explores the hidden ways women slowly disconnect from themselves through the small, everyday choices that seem harmless on their own - but over time create distance between who they are and who they've learned to be.
She introduces The Self-Disconnect - the gradual separation between your authentic self and the version of you that's been shaped by years of putting everyone else's needs first.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Why feeling disconnected from yourself rarely happens overnight
The everyday habits that quietly create self-disconnection
Why capable, caring women are often the most likely to leave themselves behind
The hidden cost of constantly putting everyone else first
Why confidence, clarity and self-trust often fade when you stop listening to yourself
One simple question to help you begin reconnecting with yourself
If you've been wondering why you don't feel like yourself anymore, this episode is a reminder that you haven't lost who you are.
You've simply become harder to find.
➡️ Episode page: https://tanielstrydom.com/feeling-disconnected-from-yourself
➡️ Website: https://tanielstrydom.com
➡️ Follow me: https://instagram.com/tanielstrydom
29 Jul 2026
Why You Don't Feel Like Yourself Anymore
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I just don't feel like myself anymore"?
From the outside, life might look fine. You're managing work, family, responsibilities and everything that comes with them. But somewhere along the way, you've stopped feeling connected to the person at the centre of it all.
In this episode of Ditch the Debate, we're talking about why that happens, why it doesn't mean you're broken, and how reconnecting with yourself often begins with the smallest of shifts.
We'll explore:
Why losing yourself is usually a gradual process, not one defining moment.
How constantly responding to everyone else's needs can leave you disconnected from your own.
Why feeling grateful and feeling exhausted can exist at the same time.
The hidden cost of always performing, coping and "having it together."
A simple question that can help you reconnect with yourself again.
One small practice to help you start including yourself in your own life.
Reflection Question
Where have you quietly stopped including yourself in your own life?
Don't look for the biggest answer. Start with the first honest one.
Mentioned in this episode
The idea that reconnecting with yourself doesn't mean becoming the person you used to be.
Learning to become available to yourself again.
The difference between functioning and truly feeling alive.
If this episode resonated with you, I'd love it if you shared it with another woman who might need to hear it.
You can also connect with me here:
🌐 https://tanielstrydom.com
📸 https://instagram.com/tanielstrydom
Until next time...
Keep ditching the debate.
And trust yourself a little more.
2 Jun 2026
The Messy Middle Nobody Talks About
Have you ever felt like you're no longer who you used to be, but you're not yet the person you're trying to become?
Welcome to the messy middle.
In this episode, Taniel explores the uncomfortable in-between space that often comes with personal growth, healing, career changes, motherhood, and life transitions.
She unpacks why curve balls at work and at home can derail even our best intentions, why recovery often takes longer than expected, and how self-criticism keeps us stuck far longer than the original problem ever does.
If you've been feeling exhausted, disconnected, or frustrated with yourself lately, this episode is a reminder that you're not failing - you might simply be in the middle of becoming.
In This Episode We Discuss:
What the "messy middle" actually is
Why growth rarely feels as good as it looks online
How workplace stress and family challenges can derail us
The hidden reason recovery takes so long
Why self-compassion is more practical than self-criticism
Simple ways to regulate your nervous system when life throws a curve ball
How to keep moving forward when everything feels uncertain
Key Takeaway
You are not lost.
You are in between.
The messy middle is not a detour from your growth.. - it is your growth.
Connect with Taniel
➡️ Episode page: https://tanielstrydom.com/the-messy-middle
➡️ Website: https://tanielstrydom.com
➡️ Follow me: https://instagram.com/tanielstrydom
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