Do You Feel That?

About Do You Feel That?

Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

Publisher

Coelle.app

Category

health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

23 Sept 2025

Latest episode

20 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

52 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   20 Oct 2026

   How to Make Your Partner Crave You — The Psychology of Sustained Desire

   Every long-term couple eventually faces the same quiet question: where did the craving go? Not the love — the specific, embodied wanting of this particular person. The research has answers. And they’re not what most people expect. In Episode 52, Scott and Brittney dig into the psychology of sustained desire — what actually makes a partner keep craving you years and decades into a relationship, and why the conventional wisdom about this is almost entirely wrong. Drawing on a systematic review of decades of desire research, Scott and Brittney walk through seven specific, practical things that sustain and rebuild erotic charge between partners from maintaining your own distinct identity and creating deliberate anticipation, to expressing desire explicitly and understanding why too much closeness can paradoxically dampen the very desire you’re trying to sustain. The paradox at the center of it all: desire needs space to breathe. The most desirable partner in a long-term relationship is not the one who is most available. It’s the one who remains genuinely interesting — distinct, alive, engaged with their own life — and who keeps choosing their partner with enough specificity that the choice stays visible. In this episode: The paradox of intimacy and desire — why high but stable closeness doesn’t increase desire, and what actually does Remaining distinct — why the partner who keeps their own identity is more compelling than one who dissolves into the relationship Being seen doing something compelling — the research on novelty, dopamine, and seeing your partner fresh Creating anticipation deliberately — why the most powerful arousal tool in long-term relationships is almost entirely unused Emotional attunement — how gradually slipping out of genuine interest in your partner’s inner world shows up as reduced desire Confidence in and out of the bedroom — what it actually looks and feels like as a driver of sustained attraction Introducing genuine novelty within the relationship — the dopamine response and why every new shared experience refreshes attraction Expressing desire explicitly — why assuming your partner feels wanted isn’t the same as making them feel wanted The Perel paradox — why desire needs someone to reach toward, and what happens when partners become too merged The one question worth asking your partner tonight 📚 Referenced: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it’s guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download (https://www.coelle.app/download) Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching (https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching)

2. 

   13 Oct 2026

   What He Actually Wants in Bed

   Last week Brittney told Scott and every man listening what women actually want in bed. This week the tables turn. In Episode 51, Scott tells Brittney and every woman listening what men actually want in bed. Not the cultural mythology. Not the locker room script. What the research consistently identifies across thousands of men and what Scott personally confirms. The findings will surprise most women. Emotional connection is the most common reason men give for wanting partnered sex — slightly higher than women. Women dramatically underestimate how emotionally meaningful sex is for their male partner. The gap between what men actually want and what their partners assume they want is one of the most costly misunderstandings in long-term relationships. Scott walks through seven things: feeling genuinely desired, her authentic pleasure, emotional presence, the freedom to share fantasies without judgment, more foreplay than she thinks he wants, tenderness alongside intensity, and knowing specifically what she wants. Brittney responds honestly throughout — confirming, pushing back, and acknowledging what today’s conversation changes for her. Plus three things men want that nobody talks about and a direct word for the men listening about naming what they actually need rather than performing the version of male desire culture made acceptable. In this episode: The biggest misconception about male desire and why it costs couples real intimacy Why women dramatically underestimate how emotionally meaningful sex is for their male partner Feeling genuinely desired — why mutual initiation changes the erotic dynamic entirely Her authentic pleasure vs. a performance of it — why faking deprives him of something real Emotional presence vs. physical availability The fantasy conversation — why men want it and why it rarely happens The foreplay finding most women don’t know: men want significantly more than they’re getting Knowing what she wants specifically and why her Sexual Self-Portrait from Episode 45 is the most practical gift she can give him Three undertalked things: genuine mutual desire, safe vulnerability, and novelty within the relationship Scott’s honest personal reflection — what he’s wanted most and found hardest to ask for Brittney’s honest response — what changes for her after hearing this Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it’s guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: 📱 Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download (https://www.coelle.app/download) 📞 Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching (https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching)

3. 

   6 Oct 2026

   What She Actually Wants in Bed

   In this episode, Brittney tells Scott and by extension every man listening — what women actually want in bed. Not what culture says. Not what porn shows. What the research consistently identifies across tens of thousands of women, delivered in Brittney's honest voice and confirmed by her personal experience. Seven things. Each one specific, practical, and backed by research. From feeling genuinely desired rather than just available, to the time women actually need, whole-body attention, clitoral stimulation done right, emotional safety as a prerequisite rather than a bonus, the culture of asking and actually listening, and the aftercare most men skip entirely. Scott responds honestly throughout — what he got wrong, what changed, what he still works on. And the episode closes with a direct word for the women listening about their own role in getting what they want. In this episode: Why most men don't know what women want and why that's fixable Feeling genuinely desired vs. just available — the research on object-of-desire affirmation Why women need 15-20 minutes of foreplay and how to actually give it Whole-body attention — why three zones misses everything Clitoral stimulation done right — rhythm, pressure, and consistency Emotional safety as a prerequisite — what creates it and what erodes it Asking and listening — why receiving feedback without defensiveness is the most important skill Aftercare — the research on post-sex connection and the 48-hour afterglow A direct word for women: you are allowed to want what you want Scott's honest reflection on what he's gotten wrong and what changed Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download (https://www.coelle.app/download) Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching (https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching)

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