About Doing The Work: A Naples Integrated Recovery Podcast
Psychotherapist Brian Granneman examines the patterns that keep people stuck — the ones that show up in relationships, conversations, habits, conflict, addiction, avoidance, and everyday decisions.
Each episode breaks down the emotional, behavioral, and relational dynamics underneath those patterns through long-form, clinically informed conversations grounded in real life instead of performance, slogans, or surface-level advice.
Your Nervous System Isn’t an Excuse to Act Like an Asshole
Nervous system dysregulation can explain why conflict feels overwhelming, why your body goes into fight-or-flight, and why old relationship patterns can take over fast. In this episode, I look at the reactive inner child—my term for what Terry Real calls the adaptive child—and the ways earlier survival strategies can show up as defensiveness, control, retaliation, withdrawal, overexplaining, and the need to be right. We also get into how to recognize activation before your range of choice disappears, use practical emotional regulation skills, and take a structured timeout without turning distance into punishment.
This episode also looks at the difference between understanding your nervous system and using it to excuse harmful behavior. Therapy language, recovery language, boundaries, and years of insight mean very little if the people closest to you still experience contempt, hostility, manipulation, or emotional volatility. Emotional regulation means learning how to tolerate disagreement, disappointment, uncertainty, and another person’s “no” while still behaving with basic respect. Your nervous system gets a vote. It does not get the final say.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com
Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470
I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com
15 Oct 2026
Offending from the Victim Position: Why Feeling Wronged Can Make You Act Worse
This episode looks at what happens when hurt becomes a relational stance—when a legitimate frustration starts giving us permission to lecture, control, withdraw, retaliate, or keep pushing long after the original problem has been addressed. Drawing from Terry Real and Pia Mellody, I explore offending from the victim position, resentment, dysfunctional relational stances, and the ways childhood experiences can shape how we handle conflict, power, closeness, and frustration in adult relationships.
We also get into relational trauma, the Trauma Grid, false empowerment, grandiosity, boundaries, and the family patterns we absorb even when we spend years telling ourselves we will never become like the people who raised us. The goal is to recognize the sequence: what happened, what meaning you gave it, what your reaction then felt entitled to do, and what the person on the receiving end actually experienced. Understanding where a pattern came from matters. Taking responsibility for what you do with it now is where the work begins.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com
Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470
I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com
11 Oct 2026
The Dragon in Your House: How Families Learn to Tiptoe Around Addiction
This episode uses bibliotherapy and the children’s story There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon to explore how addiction can gradually reshape an entire family system. Addiction may involve alcohol, drugs, misuse of prescription medication, gambling, pornography or compulsive sexual behavior, workaholism, or other compulsive patterns that become increasingly difficult to control and continue despite meaningful consequences.
Through the story of a small dragon that grows while a family refuses to acknowledge it, this episode examines denial, secrecy, accommodation, damaged trust, changing family roles, hypervigilance, and the ways people gradually reorganize their lives around addiction. It also explores why stopping the addictive behavior is only the beginning of recovery. Families may still need to rebuild trust, change long-standing roles, address control and avoidance, and learn how to function after years of adapting to the addiction.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com
Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470
I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com
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