Married therapists Jennifer and Jake Dean-Hill help couples build healthier, happier relationships by learning to “wear two crowns”—leading as equals, supporting each other’s strengths, and growing together. Featuring expert interviews, practical tools, and real conversations about love and marriage.
Whether you’re navigating marriage, long-term partnership, or committed relationships, this podcast helps you handle the ups and downs with respect, teamwork, and mutual empowerment. If you’re ready to stop fighting for control and start building connection, it’s time to learn how to Wear 2 Crowns.
Last week we talked about how to know when you have disconnected from your partner, this week we are giving you tips on how to reconnect. In this episode, Drs. Jake and Jenn explore practical tools for couples to reconnect after disconnection, emphasizing empathy, communication, and humor. They share personal experiences and actionable strategies to foster love and understanding in relationships. They also emphasize that disconnection is a common experience in relationships, but it doesn't have to be permanent. With the right strategies, you can mend and strengthen your bond.
Keywords
couples, reconnection, communication, empathy, marriage tools, conflict resolution, humor in relationships, relationship growth, marriage advice
Key Topics
Tools for reconnection: VEC (Validation, Empathy, Comfort)
The importance of humility and do-overs in relationships
Using humor to diffuse tension and foster connection
The role of marriage staff meetings in maintaining intimacy
Understanding and meeting each other's needs
Takeaways
Reconnection tools like VEC can be used immediately after a disagreement.
Humility and do-overs help repair hurt feelings and rebuild trust.
Humor is a powerful tool to lower tension and promote bonding.
Marriage staff meetings foster positive communication and address unmet needs.
Recognizing that fighting to be loved is at the core of all conflicts.
Sound Bites
"You really blindsided me the other day"
"Gosh, that must have been really hard"
"Choose humor to lower the intensity"
Chapters
Introduction to Tools for Reconnection
The Role of Humility and Do-Overs
Understanding Flooded States and F Words
Using VEC: Validation, Empathy, Comfort
The Power of Do-Overs and Repairs
Writing as a Tool for Communication
Workarounds for Neurodiversity and Overstimulation
Humor and Lightheartedness in Conflict
The Crown Jewel: Fighting to Be Loved
Encouragement and Final Thoughts
13 Oct 2026
Connection vs Disconnection: Do You Know The Difference? | #34
It's easy to feel connected in the blissful moments, like celebrating our grandson's birthday or enjoying a relaxing beach getaway. But what happens when that connection falters? In this episode, Drs. Jenn and Jake dive into the intricacies of couple dynamics, sharing personal insights from their recent experiences.
Keywords
relationship connection, disconnection, emotional intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, couples therapy, emotional health
Key Topics
The feeling of being connected and its impact on energy and mood
Common reasons for disconnection in relationships
The importance of recognizing and addressing disconnection early
Strategies for effective communication and reconnection
The role of emotional validation, empathy, and strategy in healing
Understanding different needs for connection and space
The impact of fatigue and life stressors on relationship health
The importance of making a conscious decision to reconnect
Sound Bites
"When I am clicking with you, I can do anything."
"Disconnection often happens when needs are unmet."
"Soft responses can transform conflict into connection."
Chapters
Introduction to Connection and Disconnection
What Does Being Connected Feel Like?
Common Causes of Disconnection
Recognizing When You're Disconnected
Strategies for Reconnection
The Role of Validation and Empathy
Handling Conflict and Disconnection
The Power of Soft Startups
Creating a Reconnection Plan
The Importance of Self-Check and Self-Care
Building a Culture of Connection
Practical Tips for Daily Connection
When Disconnection Becomes a Pattern
The Role of Professional Help
Summary and Final Thoughts
6 Oct 2026
Insights From Another Husband and Wife Counseling Team: Tim & Deb Bartlett | #33
Join Drs. Jake and Jenn as they chat with Tim and Deb Bartlett from Redemption Counseling about their journey as a husband and wife therapy team, their insights on relationships, and practical tips for strengthening marriage bonds. It’s not everyday you get to hear from 2 married counseling duos, this is an episode you’ll not want to miss!
Keywords
Marriage, Couples Therapy, Relationship Tips, Husband and Wife Team, Emotional Connection, Conflict Resolution, Non-Sexual Physical Contact, Enneagram, Gottman Method
Key Topics
The journey of Tim and Deb Bartlett as a husband and wife therapy team
The importance of understanding and appreciating differences in marriage
Practical strategies for reconnecting and repairing relationships
The role of non-sexual physical contact in intimacy and bonding
Insights from the Enneagram and Gottman Method in relationships
Guest Name
Tim and Deb Bartlett
Sound Bites
"Physical contact speaks volumes about connection"
"Appreciate your partner, don't try to change them"
"Don't let the sun go down on your anger"
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Bartletts
03:00 The Journey of Working Together as a Couple
05:46 Navigating Strengths and Weaknesses in Marriage
08:37 The Importance of Non-Sexual Physical Contact
11:42 Transforming Trauma Bonds into Joy Bonds
14:37 Modeling Healthy Relationships for Children
17:24 The Value of Prioritizing Your Partner
20:17 Conclusion and Reflections on Marriage
20:47 The Power of Connection in Marriage
23:28 Communication: The Key to Bonding
26:21 Conflict Resolution and Repair Time
29:20 The Dangers of Texting in Conflict
32:11 Understanding Differences in Relationships
35:03 The Importance of Mutual Respect
38:09 Crown Jewels: Takeaways for a Stronger Marriage
Resources
The Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.com/ (https://www.gottman.com/)
Enneagram Institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ (https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/)
Redemption Counseling - https://www.redemptioncounseling.com/ (https://www.redemptioncounseling.com/)
Guest Links
Website - https://www.redemptioncounseling.com/ (https://www.redemptioncounseling.com/)
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3 ratings
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