Marriage and family are messy, funny, hard, and beautiful — and we’re here to share it all.
We’re Erik & Erica — a married couple with 7 amazing kids and 18 years of real-life, real-love experience.
Our story has been one of ups, downs, loss, resilience, healing, and joy. Through it all, we’ve learned to fight for each other, find laughter in the chaos, and build a family rooted in love.
Here, we talk honestly about marriage, parenting, and adoption — and what it’s really like walking through challenges like:
💔 losing both of our dads at a young age
🏚️ growing up in foster care
🎗️ surviving breast cancer and a double mastectomy
🧠 battling depression and suicidal thoughts
💼 leaving behind a stable career to chase a dream — together
Our goal? To help couples and families see that joy is possible, even in the hardest seasons. You’re not alone — and your story matters.
🎥 Subscribe for open conversations, practical insights, and real encouragement for your journey.
Our shared history goes back further than you might think. We are looking at how our childhood memories shaped who we are today. In this conversation, we explore a specific story about a new student joining a third-grade class. It is a moment of reflection on how our upbringing and early personality traits, like having a sharp tongue, influence the way we interact with our partners later in life. Understanding your own history is a vital part of building a strong marriage foundation. When we practice honest self-awareness, we can better identify the triggers and habits that impact our relationship communication. By looking back, we learn how to move forward with more grace. Subscribe for weekly relationship advice breakdowns, and let us know in the comments: what is one early memory that shaped who you are today? 📖 Buy our book + explore marriage resources: https://ericaanderik.com/Store 🎤 Invite Erik & Erica to speak at your church, conference, retreat, or event: https://ericaanderik.com/Invite 💌 Check out Letters With Hope: https://letterswithhope.com/ 📱 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erikanderica/ 🏠 Visit our website: https://ericaanderik.com/ Be Present. Live Legacy. Rise Anyway. — Erik & Erica
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25 Sept 2026
Pt. 2. I Researched Reddit: What Women Actually Want (it's not what you think)
18 Sept 2026
I Researched Reddit: 7 Things Husbands Actually Want From Their Wives
We’re Erik & Erica—and we believe strong marriages aren’t built by accident. Around here, we have honest conversations about marriage, faith, family, hard seasons, and what it actually looks like to keep choosing one another through real life. Our hope is to help you build a marriage with a foundation strong enough to last—and a legacy worth leaving. 📖 Buy our book + explore marriage resources: https://ericaanderik.com/Store 🎤 Invite Erik & Erica to speak at your church, conference, retreat, or event: https://ericaanderik.com/Invite 💌 Check out Letters With Hope: https://letterswithhope.com/ 📱 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erikanderica/ 🏠 Visit our website: https://ericaanderik.com/ Be Present. Live Legacy. Rise Anyway. — Erik & Erica
18 Sept 2026
Why You Need a Partner that can suffer with you
6 May 2026
From broke in a broken home to a faithful marriage and business with Ruslan KD
Check out @RuslanKD and @BlessGodStudios book and godly ambition tour here: https://blessgod.co/ More from Erik and Erica here: https://ericaanderik.com/ 02:05 Broken Homes impact on marriage and finding Dave Ramsey 09:16 Getting out of $100,000 of debt 16:10 Parenting and raising kids to NOT BE SOFT! 20:33 Creating a healthy marriage early 23:33 How to raise boys and kids. 31:30 Contentment vs. Ambition 37:50 The real cost of becoming successful 42:55 Becoming aligned in your ambition as a married couple 47:00 From 100K in debt to 7 Figures in earnings 54:45 How do you discern the voice of the Lord 01:04:30 How to choose collaboration partners. 01:13:46 What would Ruslan tell himself as a child now looking back on his life. 01:19:45 Conclusion and love for Ruslan's wife and family :)
21 Apr 2026
When Life Doesn't Go as Planned | Trusting God Through Addiction and Unexpected Parenting
Check out our book: https://ericaanderik.com/Store What do you do when life doesn’t go the way you planned? In this conversation, we sit down with Al and Sheila—an incredible couple whose story will stay with you long after this video ends. What started as a normal season of life took an unexpected turn when their son fell into addiction. Suddenly, in their 60s, they found themselves stepping in to raise their grandchildren… starting over in a way they never imagined. But that’s only part of the story. Al also shares what it looked like to run a business while carrying over a million dollars in debt—and how, through faith, perseverance, and hard decisions, God brought restoration in ways he couldn’t have scripted himself. This episode is about: What it means to show up when life gets hard How to carry responsibility you didn’t choose Trusting God when everything feels uncertain And building a life—and family—that stands, even in the storm If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, behind, or unsure how things could possibly work out… this story is for you. 00:00 Introduction 02:22 Finding out we had a grandson 04:13 Parenting a Prodigal Child 13:38 What advice do you give to parents who are waiting on a prodigal 19:00 How God brought our grandson to us 24:57 Caring for their grandkids mom. 32:28 Erik and Erica share their story of raising nephews 38:30 Navigating the trauma in children 47:10 Erica shares her story of foster care 53:30 Al shares about how he came out of 1.8 million in debt 1:09:15 What advice do you give to young couples
2 Apr 2026
Misaligned Marriage | Finding Peace When You Want Different Things
Check out our book at ericaanderik.com (Hit the pop up for a free chapter)Get Committed Shirts at https://www.husbandandwifeforlife.com/
In this episode, we explore the concept of being "equally yoked" and its profound impact on committed relationships. We discuss why having aligned beliefs is crucial for a "successful marriage" and how navigating differences can be a significant challenge. This conversation provides practical "relationship advice" for couples grappling with differing desires, emphasizing the importance of shared spiritual "faith" in "christian relationships."
01:30 Introduction of Alignment and Dangers of Misalignment
04:55 Aligning with God first
12:41 First level of alignment
18:30 Second level of alignment
29:25 Third level of alignment
38:33 How alignment leads to building a marriage
26 Mar 2026
From Divorced to 35 Years Married:: How this couple built a happy marriage!
Check out our website Ericaanderik.com The first year of marriage can be the toughest, and in this episode, we talk about the reality of "hard times" and what it takes for a "successful marriage." We share our own experiences and the four key principles that have guided our "relationships" through difficult seasons. This conversation offers practical "marriage advice" and highlights the importance of "communication in relationships" and "trust building" to navigate the challenges that inevitably arise. 01:55 Introduction 06:32 4 Key principles for a Successful marriage 18:28 Marriage is Hard; Impact of Divorce 24:14 How do we heal together in marriage? 35:43 What to do with abuse/loveless marriage? 46:45 How to keep a Routine of Friendship in Marriage. 54:00 Protecting your Marriage Team -- First team, Second Team, Third team 1:12:20 Importance of humility in marriage.
26 Feb 2026
We were teachers... here's why we homeschool our kids
00:22 Introduction
01:45 Authority over our kids education and faith
13:18 Autonomy over our schedule
28:25 Our Kids can Author their own education
38:21 Teaching an Asset Based Education
52:20 Legacy is more important than grades.
Homeschooling, parenting, education, and faith all come together in this honest conversation about why a former principal and teacher chose to homeschool their 6 kids. In this episode, we explain our “4 A Framework” — Authority, Autonomy, Authoring education, and Asset-based learning — and how it shapes the way we raise and educate our children. We share why we believe education is more than academics, how family culture influences learning, and what made us rethink traditional schooling after years inside the system. This isn’t about criticizing schools — it’s about pursuing a vision we felt called to build for our family. Whether you’re curious about homeschooling, questioning education options, or simply looking for intentional parenting ideas, we hope this conversation helps you think deeper about the purpose behind how we teach our kids. 🎥 Subscribe for honest conversations on marriage, parenting, faith, and building a life that lasts. #Homeschool #Parenting #ChristianParenting #HomeschoolFamily #Education #FaithAndFamily #IntentionalParenting #HomeschoolLife #FamilyDiscipleship #ErikAndEricaEverAfter
12 Feb 2026
Marriage Didn't Fix Us.. How Change in Marriage Actually Happens
Marriage didn’t fix us—and it wasn’t supposed to.
In this episode, we talk honestly about why marriage doesn’t heal unresolved wounds, fix unhealthy patterns, or automatically make a relationship whole. Real change came when we stopped expecting marriage to do the work only growth, accountability, and obedience to God could do.
We unpack what actually transforms a relationship, why people do change in marriage, and how God uses covenant to refine us—not rescue us from the work. If you’re dating, engaged, married, or wondering why things didn’t magically get better, this conversation is for you.
27 Jan 2026
Marriage Counselors Open Up! Infertility, Adoption, Chronic Illness and What Actually Helps
This episode features a candid discussion between two couples, exploring the nuances of when marriage counseling is appropriate and, more critically, when it might not be. We tackle sensitive topics like emotional abuse and physical abuse, emphasizing that not all relationship problems can be solved through traditional couples therapy. The conversation highlights the importance of discerning the right approach when facing severe relationship challenges, offering valuable relationship advice and touching on communication skills.What happens when the marriage counselors—the ones who are usually helping everyone else—walk through deep suffering of their own? In this powerful roundtable conversation, Erik and Erica talk with David and Kris Sommers. They are experienced marriage counselors open up about the unseen struggles that shaped their lives and their faith: infertility, adoption, chronic illness, miscarriages, unmet expectations, and the slow work of healing over time. They don’t give clichés or easy answers. Instead, they offer honest reflections, timeless wisdom, and the kind of counsel that comes from living it out—not just reading about it. Whether your marriage is in a hard season or you're walking through personal suffering, this conversation will remind you: 🕊️ You're not alone. 🛠️ There are tools to endure and rebuild. 💛 And God still meets us in the middle of the mess. 00:00 Intro 03:11 Near Death Experience 15:30 Navigating Infertility and Adoption 25:05 How infertility effects you spiritually 35:00 Supporting each other through Chronic Illness 42:55 How to trust God in the trial 50:00 Handling bad advice from people in the trial 58:59 Marriage Counselors give their advice to young couples 104:05 How can a couple know it's time to get counseling 112:48 How to handle abuse in marriage 123:24 What does a biblical marriage look like? 131:10 Expectations, childhood abandonment, and how it worked out for David and Kris
21 Jan 2026
Divorced on their Honeymoon?!?! How This Couple Created a Happy Marriage.
This podcast episode explores the intricate aspects of human behavior, offering insights into how past experiences shape individuals. It emphasizes the importance of a positive mindset and continuous self improvement, particularly within relationships. We discuss how choosing to focus on the good in others, despite their past, can be a powerful path to personal development, reflecting a journey of critical thinking and growth. This perspective offers hope that past negative actions do not define who someone is now. Imagine filing for divorce on your honeymoon. ForJon and Gretchen, this wasn't just a nightmare scenario—it was their reality. In this episode, we sit down with a couple who went from calling it quits in week one to building a thriving, happy marriage. They reveal the exact turning points, the hard conversations, and the tools they used to save their relationship from the brink. If you are struggling in your marriage or feel like it's "too late" to fix things, this story proves that with the right tools, ANYONE can have a happy marriage. In this video, we cover:
0:00 intro
02:45 different cultures
06:28 Year one of marriage
11:14 Couples therapy was not effective
19:15 Honeymoon disaster
31:45 Sharing marital problems with other people
39:37 Hope for Struggling Couples
48:49 Feeling alone in marriage problems to sharing with family/friends
1:01:19 Jon's a Dumb--- take thoughts captive
1:07:30 Happy Marriage-- Navigating issues now
1:22:02 How did your love change?
1:31:02 Growing in Trust
#marriageadvice #saveyourmarriage #relationshipgoals #marriagehelp #erikanderica Ever wondered about the fine line between feeling a bit off and needing to see a doctor? This video discusses navigating "sick symptoms" and understanding your "personal health" needs. We offer "wellbeing tips" to help you discern when it's time to visit your "family doctor" or if those "red flag symptoms" require immediate attention. Prioritizing your "general health" is always important, so let's explore these topics together.
21 Jan 2026
Stuck Comparing? Here's What You're Missing
This podcast explores the intricate aspects of human behavior psychology, offering insights into how past experiences shape individuals. It emphasizes the importance of a positive mindset and continuous self improvement, particularly within relationships. We discuss how choosing to focus on the good in others, despite their past, can be a powerful path to personal growth, reflecting a journey of critical thinking and development. In this honest episode, we talk about the dangerous trap of comparison—how looking at someone else’s marriage nearly caused us to miss what God was doing in our own. Erica opens up about battling postpartum depression and longing for a different story... one that looked easier, happier, more perfect. But God had a unique assignment for our marriage—one that required surrender, perspective, and trust in the middle of pain. If you’ve ever looked at another couple and wondered why not us? this is for you. 🎯 Let's talk about jealousy, joy, calling, and how to stop missing the beauty in your own story. 📖 Key Verse: "For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." – Ephesians 2:10
00:00 Intro
01:48 Comparing ourselves to other people 09:18 Dangers of Comparisons
11:30 Kristi and Desmond; Comparing and social media
24:30 Missing your call because of comparison
27:36 Is God like Mr. Beast?
34:00 How to get out of comparison trap
42:17 How to give meaning to your life
50:00 Prayers for getting out of comparison
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