Hosted by Dr. Heidi, a toxic relationship specialist who was once where you are now.
Toxic relationships cause lasting exhaustion, fear, and emotional uncertainty. You learned to “fake it” when boundaries were crossed and needs were “too needy.” A little bit of the real you was erased every Fak’n day.
Now what? This show is about your life after the toxic relationship. The "icky stuff" that hangs around after it's over. However, they are not flaws; they are actually part of you & your strength. Trust is scary, but trusting yourself is essential to get out of the Fak'n Tired life.
In this episode, Dr Heidi and Queenie Christinie explore the concept of fawning as a post abuse response, its impact on relationships, even your healthy ones and practical ways to recognize and overcome this automatic behavior. Fawning is a response that can carry over into many of our healthy relationships long after the danger is gone. They share personal insights, behavioral patterns, and strategies for healthier interactions.
31 Mar 2026
The Hypervigilance Hat
Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding.
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In this episode, Dr. Heidi and Christine explore the concept of survival behaviors that were put in place for your safety during a time where your environment or a relationship was not a safe place. They using the metaphor of a travel trunk filled with hats with each hat representing one of the lasting survival behaviors you may see in yourself. Today they discuss the act of always being on alert, or hypervigilance and how understanding this residual behaviors can lead to peace and self-acceptance.
16 Mar 2026
The Trunk on the Stagecoach
Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding.
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Today we begin the discovery of the reactions, responses, and behaviors that many see in themselves after being in an unsafe environment, a toxic relationship, or an abusive situation for a long period of time. In this episode I have illustrated a story to help you visualize this concept.
19 Feb 2026
The Biology of the Battle Part 2 - The Unavoidable Nervous System Take Over
Struggling to pinpoint why you’re struggling? Take the Survival Mode Assessment and see which of your behaviors, reactions, feelings, and responses may indeed be residual effects from the overwhelming toxicity you have experienced. Take the SMA Here!
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Today in part 2 of the Biology of the Battle, Dr. Heidi explores the impact of toxic relationships on the nervous system and how survival behaviors can persist long after leaving such environments. She introduces the Survival Mode Assessment (SMA) to help individuals identify their post-trauma behaviors and discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in trauma recovery. The conversation delves into the various data collectors within the nervous system, including nociception and neuroception, and emphasizes the need for recalibration to achieve inner peace and emotional stability.
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
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3 Feb 2026
Part 1 | The Biology of the Battle
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
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In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the intricate relationship between the nervous system and our survival instincts, particularly in the context of toxic relationships. She discusses how our bodies react to perceived threats, the biological mechanisms behind these reactions, and the importance of understanding these processes to reclaim control over our emotional health. The conversation delves into the brain's response to danger, the role of boundaries, and the impact of past trauma on present behavior.
20 Jan 2026
I Thought It Was "Just Who I Was..."
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As someone who has been through it, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
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In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi delves into the complexities of recovering from toxic relationships and the lasting effects they can have on one's mental and emotional well-being. She shares her personal journey, highlighting the confusion and exhaustion that often accompany the aftermath of such relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own behaviors and reactions, which may have been shaped by past events, and how they show up in everyday life, even in safe environments. The episode serves as a call to action for listeners to recognize these behaviors in themselves and begin the journey toward healing and self-acceptance.
Dr. Heidi also introduces her "You've Got to Be Kidding Me" validation sessions, designed to provide clarity and understanding for those grappling with their relationship histories. She encourages listeners to reflect on their experiences and consider how their past may still influence their present, particularly in terms of anxiety and hyper-vigilance. The episode sets the stage for a two-part series that will explore the nervous system's adaptations and how to reclaim one's sense of self and safety.
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6 Jan 2026
Understanding through Validation
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In this episode of Fak'n Tired, Dr. Heidi and Christine continue to discuss the journey of healing from Christine's personal perspective. They discuss the importance of finding validation in order to move forward. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding toxic behaviors, the role of support in healing, and the necessity of moving forward with awareness and self-acceptance. Christine shares her personal experiences and insights gained from working with Dr. Heidi, but also touches on the things she did not anticipate as she moved into the new chapter of her life. The effects left after a threat is gone will sneak in when you least expect it.
Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Its Not Normal Its Toxic
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23 Dec 2025
Looking Back After Looking Ahead
"Christine is shocked by her own answers..."
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In this episode Dr. Heidi surprizes Christine, the shows co-host and former client, by presenting her with the application she (Christine) filled out prior to working with Dr Heidi privately. Together they reflect on Christine's journey of healing from toxic relationships. Christine's past feelings & experiences were shocking to her as she has come so far since then. Together they delve into the importance of self-discovery, the impact of coaching, and the transformative power of self-love. The conversation highlights the feelings of fear & struggles faced in unhealthy relationships. Christine emphasizes the importance of goals for personal growth, and the significance of setting boundaries. Christine shares the love letter she wrote to herself as her work with Dr Heidi neared its end. The episode concludes with advice for those still navigating toxic dynamics and a promise of future discussions on healing and growth.
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
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9 Dec 2025
The Path to Perspective Change
It's all in the perspective....
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
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In this episode of Fak'n Tired, Dr. Heidi introduces the shows co-host, Christine. They talk about the upcoming episodes and explore the emotional exhaustion stemming from toxic relationships and the impact on the nervous system. They discuss the journey of healing, the importance of self-care, and the shift in perspectives necessary for authentic living. The conversation emphasizes the need for getting to know & understanding one's true self, and the challenges of navigating life after living in survival mode.
Here is the link to Dr Heidi's well know podcast- It's Not Normal It's Toxic. Here she educated you on the truth about the toxic personality so you can make the decisions for yourself.
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25 Nov 2025
Why "Fak'n Tired"?
The internal wreckage is real....
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
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In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the complexities of toxic relationships and the emotional aftermath they leave behind. She introduces the concept of her title 'Fak'n Tired,' discussing how individuals often wear survival masks to cope with emotional abuse as well as to navigate normal life even after the unhealthy relationship ends. The podcast aims to validate experiences and educate listeners on how the nervous system strategically adapts to keep you safe when it is necessary, but ultimately guiding them towards recognizing when it is not longer needed which leads to healing and self-acceptance.
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25 Nov 2025
Welcome to Fak'n Tired
Dr Heidi is here for you in the next phase too...
Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.
https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ (https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/)
In this episode Dr. Heidi reflects on her life experiences, emphasizing the importance of timing and understanding in personal growth. She notes she is also the host of the well known podcast "It's Not Normal It's Toxic" which covers the facts about the toxic personality. She shares that this podcast was inspired by the second phase of her healing journey. She describes herself as being unaware of how the effects of emotional abuse extend so far beyond the actual relationships that cause them. She dedicates this podcast to the journey towards finding connection and support, particularly for those who have experienced toxic relationships.
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