“Family Meeting: where wahala meets wisdom”
Hosted by Torera - a lawyer, writer and storyteller - , this podcast explores how intergenerational trauma, culture and silence shape African and minority families. From discipline and migration, to love, faith, money and marriage, each episode brings together voices across generations to unpack the past, confront the present and imagine healing futures.
It’s not the usual family meeting of shouting aunties and takeaway jollof. This one is about breaking cycles, building bridges and finding laughter on the way
Pull up a chair. Healing starts here.
"Say It With Your Chest!" Healing From Emotional Silence ft Kelechi Okafor | S.1 Ep.13
In Part 2 of our conversation with Kelechi Okafor, we explore what healing from emotional silence actually looks like. From vulnerability and therapy to relationships, family, and self-expression, this episode is about learning to speak honestly after growing up believing emotions were dangerous.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
6 May 2026
“We Don’t Cry Here” | The Cost of Silence in African Homes ft. Kelechi Okafor | S.1 Ep.12
In many African homes, silence is taught as respect...but what happens when children grow up holding everything in?
In this episode of Family Meeting, Kelechi Okafor joins us to unpack emotional silence, vulnerability, anger, and self-expression in African families. From “I’m fine” culture to finding your voice as an adult, this is an honest conversation about healing what we were taught to suppress.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
7 Apr 2026
Why Sex Is Still Taboo in African Homes ‼️🤐| Shame, Silence & Intimacy | S.1 Ep.11
“Good girls don’t talk about sex.”
But what happens when that silence follows you into adulthood… into relationships… into marriage?
In this episode of Family Meeting, we unpack the silent struggle with intimacy in African homes - how shame, culture, and religion shape the way we understand sex, connection, and ourselves.
From misinformation to difficult conversations, we explore what happens when intimacy is built on silence, and how we begin to unlearn it.
💭 We discuss:
• Why sex is still taboo in many African homes
• The impact of culture and religion on intimacy
• Silence, self-worth, and emotional connection
• Physical vs emotional intimacy
• How to unlearn shame and build healthier relationships
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
#SexAndIntimacy #AfricanFamilies #IntergenerationalTrauma #EmotionalHealing #sexpositivity
24 Mar 2026
Healing the First Daughter | Unlearning Duty & Setting Boundaries | S.1 Ep.9
What does it look like for the “strong one” to finally choose herself?
In Part 2 of our First Daughter series, we explore healing - from setting boundaries and releasing guilt to learning how to rest, receive, and redefine success beyond survival. This is a conversation about softness, self-worth, and reclaiming your identity.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
17 Mar 2026
The First Daughter Burden: When Responsibility Becomes Your Personality | S.1 Ep.9
What happens when you stop being a child too soon?
In this episode of Family Meeting, we explore the first daughter burden - from parentification and pressure to the silent expectation to hold everything together. It’s an honest conversation about identity, responsibility, and what it means to grow up feeling like the “second mum.”
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
10 Mar 2026
How Do You Raise Confident Black Children in a Racist World? | African Diaspora Parenting & Identity | S.1 Ep.8
How do you raise confident Black children in a world that still stereotypes them?
In this episode of Family Meeting, Uju Asika returns to discuss parenting in the African diaspora - from teaching cultural pride and navigating racism to raising children who feel rooted in their identity. It’s a conversation about healing, belonging, and creating a freer future for the next generation.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
24 Feb 2026
Being Black in a White World: African Childhoods, Racism & Identity | S.1 Ep.7
How do you navigate racism in childhood before you even have the language to understand it?
In this episode of Family Meeting, we explore what it means to grow up African in Britain - navigating identity, migration, racism, and belonging from a young age. From early exposure to discrimination and silence around pain, to learning how to exist between cultures, this conversation unpacks the emotional cost of growing up Black in a white world and the lifelong impact it has on confidence, self-worth, and home.
This is a tender, honest reflection on childhood, displacement, and reclaiming pride in who you are.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
17 Feb 2026
Love, Dating & Marriage Nigerian Style | A Family Meeting Before My Traditional Wedding | S.1 Ep.6
Recorded just days before my traditional wedding, this episode of Family Meeting brings my mum, aunty, and uncle together for a funny, honest conversation about love, dating, weddings, and marriage across generations. From old-school romance and wedding politics to gender roles and hard marriage lessons, this is a warm, nostalgic, and insightful family conversation.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
11 Feb 2026
“Who Is the Modern Man Meant to Be?” | Redefining Masculinity in a Changing World | S.1 Ep.5
In this episode of Family Meeting, we unpack the modern crisis of masculinity - from shifting gender roles and feminism to vulnerability, identity, and healthy manhood. We explore why many men feel confused or pressured in today’s world, how inherited ideas of masculinity still shape behaviour, and what strength looks like when it’s rooted in emotional honesty rather than silence or control.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity, growth, and redefining masculinity in ways that allow men to show up fully - as partners, fathers, and individuals.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
4 Feb 2026
‘Life Is Hard… Would It Be Bad If I Wasn’t Here?’ | Men, Vulnerability & Modern Masculinity S.1 Ep.4
We unpack modern masculinity, emotional silence, and what it means to be strong without being disconnected. From inherited ideas of manhood to vulnerability, mental health, and non-toxic masculinity, this is a conversation about choosing connection over survival.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
27 Jan 2026
“From Scarcity to Abundance: The Mindset That Actually Grows Your Bank Account” | S.1 Ep.3
Joy David (founder of “Wealth From Scratch”) is back for another episode about upgrading your mindset, your skills, and your confidence, so YOUR bank account can follow 💨💨
Watch last week’s episode to learn more about her come-up story from a poor home to 100k+ revenue💰, paying her sister’s tuition & putting her mum on a salary!
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom
What’s one belief about money you’re ready to unlearn? 👇🏽
#AbundanceMindset #MoneyMindset #WealthBuilding #GenerationalWealth #AfricanDiaspora
20 Jan 2026
“Why Should I Go Broke Trying to Impress Other Broke People” 💰💸 | Money Matters w. Joy S.1 Ep.2
Money isn’t just money in our communities - it’s pressure, pride, and survival.
In this episode of Family Meeting, we unpack Black tax, inherited money habits, and the culture of “wearing your wealth.” Our guest shares her journey from growing up in a face-me-I-slap-you house to funding her sisters’ university education, putting her mum on a salary, earning £10k+ monthly, and working toward £1 million in five years.
This is a conversation about what success really costs, and how to move from survival to strategy.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
13 Jan 2026
“Bahia Is Africa in Brazil 🇧🇷🌍 | Yoruba Roots, Candomblé & Black Identity” S.1 Ep.1
Bahia holds the heartbeat of Africa in Brazil 🔥
In this special Family Meeting episode, we sit with a native of Bahia to explore Afro-Brazilian identity, Yoruba roots, and how Candomblé emerged as a powerful act of resistance from African traditional practices. We also unpack the hidden structures of racism in Brazil, the myth of racial harmony, and what it means to be Black in one of the largest African diasporas in the world today.
This is a conversation about memory, survival, and reclaiming identity across the Atlantic.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
6 Oct 2025
How can we be Besties with the Parents? Bridging Generations & Breaking Cycles | Ep.3
So, we’ve talked about the trauma. We’ve heard from our parents’ generation. Now… how do we actually heal?
In this final part of our launch series, host Torera brings everyone back to the table - the younger generation, the parents, and a psychologist - to talk honestly about what healing looks like in real life.
We unpack the myths, the awkward apologies, and the slow steps toward peace:
💭 How do you forgive without forgetting?
💭 What does accountability look like when the trauma is generational?
💭 Can therapy, faith, and culture work together instead of against each other?
It’s messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious, because healing in families always involves a little bit of wahala.
This isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being honest. The family loop ends here.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom, and where healing finally gets the mic.
#FamilyMeetingPodcast #GenerationalHealing #AfricanFamilies #BreakingTheCycle #TherapyAndFaith #FamilyReunionEnergy
4 Oct 2025
“My father was my first bully” - The Crazy Ways in which Intergenerational Trauma Impact Us | Ep.1
It’s wild how much of what we call “personality” is actually inherited pain.
In this first episode of Family Meeting, we unpack the crazy, unexpected ways intergenerational trauma shows up - in how we love, parent, argue, and even chase success. From “tough love” and silent homes to perfectionism and people-pleasing, we explore how unhealed family wounds still shape us today.
💭 In this episode:
The emotional cost of “just being strong”
Why we confuse fear for respect
The silent expectations we still carry
How to recognise inherited trauma and begin healing
This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness, compassion, and finally putting words to what so many of us feel.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
#FamilyMeetingPodcast #IntergenerationalTrauma #AfricanFamilies #GenerationalHealing #BreakingTheCycle
4 Oct 2025
The Surprising Reasons Our Parents Behaved That Way | Ep.2
We’ve talked about how intergenerational trauma impacted us… but what about the generation that came before?
In this second episode of Family Meeting, we sit down with a therapist and a pastor from the older generation to uncover the pressures, fears, and unhealed experiences that shaped their parenting. From survival during migration and poverty, to colonial legacies and religious expectations, we ask the tough but necessary question: what shaped them, and what do they wish they could have done differently?
💭 In this episode:
• The hidden wounds behind “tough love”
• How faith, fear, and culture shaped parenting choices
• Why emotional expression felt unsafe
• What the older generation wants the younger ones to understand
• Building bridges: how both sides can begin to heal
This isn’t a blame game; it’s an invitation to empathy. By hearing their stories, we start to see how pain travels through generations, and how love can too.
🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom, and where healing happens between generations.
#FamilyMeetingPodcast #AfricanFamilies #IntergenerationalHealing #BreakingTheCycle #ParentingAcrossGenerations #BlackBritishVoices #CulturalHealing
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