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About Fashion is my Foreplay
Clothes, sex, and oversharing… all in one place. Fashion Is My Foreplay is the podcast that explores fashion, identity, and sex positivity through an unapologetic lens. From runway to real life, it’s witty, raw, and a little chaotic, just how we like it. Expect bold opinions, therapy-level honesty, and plenty of “did she really just say that?” moments. Subscribe for weekly episodes and join the community @fashionismyforeplay.
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- Elizabeth Wolfe
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- en
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- First episode
- 31 Aug 2025
- Latest episode
- 3 Mar 2026
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3 Mar 2026
Low-Waisted Trousers, Reality TV & Reinventing Yourself | Ruben (Part 2)
Part 2 with Ruben is here 💚 In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, we move beyond building sites and Berlin clubs and dive into: • Shopping almost exclusively in charity shops • Why making your own clothes changes how you shop • Falling out of love with creativity (and how to stay in love with it) • Sharing vulnerability online • Body image, insecurity & confidence • Going on I Kissed A Boy and being perceived by the public • What reality TV teaches you about yourself • Dressing for confidence (low-waisted trousers supremacy) • Everything showers to set you up for a good day/night We talk about being “perceived,” queer representation, platform vs identity, and what it really means to reinvent yourself publicly. This is the softer, more reflective half of our conversation, and honestly one of my favourites. Follow Ruben: Fashion: https://www.instagram.com/rubenbodower/ (https://www.instagram.com/rubenbodower/) Personal: https://www.instagram.com/rexyruben/ (https://www.instagram.com/rexyruben/) Follow me: @fashionismyforeplay fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com ⚠️ Content note: discussion of mental health, internalised homophobia, body image, queer identity and reality TV exposure.
24 Feb 2026
Painting Myself Green on a Construction Site (and Unlearning Masculinity) | Part 1
This week on Fashion Is My Foreplay, I’m joined by Ruben, creative, designer, body-paint enthusiast and self-described fashion alien. I originally found him on Instagram after a Reel where he talked about working on a construction site while secretly listening to Drag Race in his headphones. Fast forward to painting himself green, building avant-garde queer fashion, and unlearning internalised homophobia, and I was obsessed. In Part 1 we talk about: • Being queer in hyper-masculine spaces (like building sites) • “Performing masculinity” vs performing authenticity • Growing up in a Steiner school (yes… eurythmy included) • Why lockdown changed everything • Drag Race, Bimini & Gottmik’s impact • Internalised homophobia & trying to be “palatable” • From furniture design to Berlin nightlife fashion • Making clothes for queer bodies , without formal fashion training This is about creativity, queerness, identity, fantasy, and the freedom that comes when you stop trying to be “normal.” This is Part 1 — Part 2 drops next week. Follow Ruben: Fashion: https://www.instagram.com/rubenbodower/ (https://www.instagram.com/rubenbodower/) Personal: https://www.instagram.com/rexyruben/ (https://www.instagram.com/rexyruben/) Follow the podcast: Host: @fashionismyforeplay Email: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com ⚠️ Content note: Discussion of mental health, internalised homophobia, queer identity, nightlife culture and brief mentions of anxiety/depression.
3 Feb 2026
Dirty Talk at CHALK: The New Queer Night You Need This Friday
This week on Fashion Is My Foreplay, I’m joined by Ben, the creator of Brighton’s brand new monthly queer night: Dirty Talk This episode is a little different, more of an event special, where we talk all about what Dirty Talk is, why Brighton needs more queer nightlife spaces, and what you can expect from the launch night this Friday 6th February at CHALK. We cover: – The vision behind Dirty Talk – Drag, pole, go-go dancers + runway moments – Building inclusive, accessible queer spaces – Brighton nightlife culture – What to wear, who it’s for, and why you should come dance Dirty Talk Launch Night 📍 CHALK, Brighton 🗓 Friday 6th February 🎟 Tickets: https://www.fatsoma.com/e/cyajde51/dirty-talk-01 (https://www.fatsoma.com/e/cyajde51/dirty-talk-01) Follow the event: @dirtytalk.btn https://www.instagram.com/dirtytalk.btn (https://www.instagram.com/dirtytalk.btn) Content Warnings: Adult themes, mild sexual humour/language, queer nightlife discussion. Follow the pod: @fashionismyforeplay Guest enquiries: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com
20 Jan 2026
Politics, Protest & Gray Sexuality (with Violet) | PART 2
PART 2 of my conversation with Violet (@imissviolet) goes deeper, into politics, protest culture, trans survival, sexuality, confidence, and what it actually means to build a livable future while you’re exhausted. We talk about: – Protest culture, burnout & why communities turn on themselves – ACT UP, AIDS history & what’s been erased from collective memory – Being trans in the current political climate – Experiencing hate crime & navigating safety – Gray sexuality, desire, communication & sex as “drag” – Confidence, self-love, affirmations & building yourself up – Foreplay as ritual, music, comfort & care This episode is raw, funny, heavy at times, and deeply human. This is PART 2 of a two-part conversation. If you haven’t listened to PART 1 yet, start there first. Content Warnings (PART 2): Adult themes, sex & sexuality, gender identity & trans experience, hate crime discussion, political content, protest & activism, mental health, medical discussion (endometriosis, HPV), strong language. Follow us: Host: @fashionismyforeplay Guest: @imissviolet Listen on Spotify & watch on YouTube — search Fashion Is My Foreplay Guest enquiries: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com
13 Jan 2026
One Boob, Open Relationships & London Fashion Week Chaos, with Violet | PART 1
Welcome back to Fashion Is My Foreplay, and we’re kicking off with Violet (@imissviolet) for a chaotic, honest, hilarious conversation that covers everything from London Fashion Week shows to identity, hormones, dating, and why pretending to be “normal” is overrated. We talk about: – How we met through the Dr Noki /fashion show circuit – Modeling, TikTok, agencies & unexpected fashion moments – Burnout, politics, community, and creating more than you consume – Gender fluidity, pronouns, hormones & the reality of being perceived – ADHD/autism, oversharing, and being real online – Dating, falling fast, open relationships & communication This is PART 1 — PART 2 is coming next week! Content Warnings (PART 1): Adult themes, sex & relationships, gender identity / trans experience, body image, mental health, eating disorder mention, neurodiversity discussion, discussion of surgery (FFS), and some strong language. Follow us: Host: @fashionismyforeplay Guest: @imissviolet 🎧 Listen + watch: Spotify & YouTube (search Fashion Is My Foreplay) 💌 Guest enquiries: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com
6 Jan 2026
I’m Back: Sex, Saggy Tits, Manifesting & Why I Took a Break
I’m back ✨ After a short (and very unplanned) break thanks to tech chaos, Christmas, and life doing its thing, I’m finally back behind the mic with a little welcome-back mini episode. In this solo chat, I catch you up on where I’ve been, what’s been going on in my life, why consistency sometimes disappears when you’re doing everything yourself, and what’s coming next for Fashion Is My Foreplay. We talk: – Taking breaks without guilt – Sex, confidence, exes (because of course) – Body image, saggy tits & still feeling sexy – Manifesting, vision boards & New Year “resolutions” – Money, credit scores & getting your shit together (slowly) – Why the pod is my main focus this year This episode is messy, honest, funny, and very much a “hi, this is where I’m at” reset, and now that my laptop is fixed, you’ll be hearing a lot more from me very soon. If you’ve missed the pod, I’ve missed you xXx 🔗 WHERE TO FIND & FOLLOW ME Podcast: 🎧 Fashion Is My Foreplay — available on Spotify & YouTube Instagram: 📸 @fashionismyforeplay TikTok: 🎥 @fashionismyforeplay Email / Guest Enquiries: 💌 fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com DMs are open. Chaos is welcome. Stories encouraged.
2 Dec 2025
Sabry El Klifi | Fashion as Therapy, Confidence & Main Character Energy
This week I’m joined by Sabry El Klifi (@sabryelklifi), Brighton-based fashion lover, model, stylist and content creator. To talk about style, confidence and why fashion is so much more than just clothes. We chat about how we met over those glasses, building a personal brand on Instagram, and the love, hate relationship with social media. Sabry opens up about growing up in France, moving to London and then Brighton, and how fashion became his daily therapy and creative outlet, helping him through low moments, breakups and rebuilding confidence. We talk about main character energy, compliments, not fitting in, buying with a vision, and why feeling sexy is an energy, not how much skin you show. And of course, we finish with my signature questions, including what makes him feel sexiest (spoiler: an oversized blazer). ⚠️ Content warning: Adult themes, sex and sexuality, body confidence, social media pressures. Follow Sabry: @sabryelklifi Follow the podcast: @fashionismyforeplay on Instagram & TikTok
18 Nov 2025
Katie France London | Iconic Heart Bags, Colour Confidence & Dopamine Dressing
This week I’m joined by the incredible Katie France London, the designer behind the iconic heart bags you’ve seen all over Instagram, including my own blue & orange one-off piece. We talk about how her brand began with kids’ clothing, how inclusivity led her to designing bags, and why accessories were can be the first tool for confidence when clothing didn’t feel available. Katie opens up about imposter syndrome, the power of colour, building confidence through dopamine dressing, and how she grew her loyal community online. We also talk about content creation, small business collaboration, vintage fabric sourcing, and how her bags have found their way onto the runway at London Fashion Week. And of course, we finish with the classic questions. ⚠️ Content warning: Adult themes, discussions of body confidence and sexuality. 📌 Follow & Support Katie: Website: https://www.katiefrancelondon.co.uk/?srsltid=AfmBOortndBJznUtaLdtSjLF1m46UYwUpBdSeQOQB1SPhyrRxpSP2Rh0 (https://www.katiefrancelondon.co.uk/?srsltid=AfmBOortndBJznUtaLdtSjLF1m46UYwUpBdSeQOQB1SPhyrRxpSP2Rh0) Instagram: @katiefrance.london Follow the pod on Instagram & TikTok: @fashionismyforeplay
11 Nov 2025
Luke Haley | Finding Identity Through Dance, Fashion & the Queer Scene
In this episode, I’m joined by dancer, fitness instructor, and Brighton icon Luke Haley, who opens up about finding their people through dance, discovering their identity, and building confidence through performance. We talk about Luke’s journey from growing up in a conservative area to training at the BRIT School and Laine Theatre Arts, coming to terms with being non-binary, and finding freedom in Brighton’s queer scene. From go-go dancing and thrifted fashion to sex, self-expression, and body confidence, Luke embodies what Fashion Is My Foreplay is all about: owning who you are and turning it into art. Follow Luke - @lukey_haley https://www.instagram.com/lukey_haley?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== (https://www.instagram.com/lukey_haley?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==) ⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of gender identity, sexuality, and adult themes.
28 Oct 2025
Vicki Lord (Part 2) | ADHD, Dating Yourself & The Female Orgasm
In Part 2 of my chat with hair artist and author Vicki Lord, we dive even deeper, into dating, ADHD, self-pleasure, and what truly makes a woman good in bed. We talk about her new book "Lets talk... Sex, cuts and blowdries", why dating yourself is essential, and how confidence and connection are at the heart of great sex. From the female orgasm to self-love, this episode is raw, real, and full of laughter. And, of course, we end with my signature questions, “What item of clothing makes you feel sexiest?” and “What’s your favourite form of foreplay?” ⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, self-pleasure, female anatomy, dating, ADHD, and adult themes. 💇♀️ Follow Vicki: @vickilordhair (https://www.instagram.com/vickilordhair/) 📚 Publisher: @byjpmartin (https://www.instagram.com/#) 🎧 Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w (https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w)
21 Oct 2025
Vicki Lord on Hair, Identity & Coming Out at 50 | Sex, Self-Discovery & ADHD (Part 1)
In this episode, I talk with hair artist and author Vicki Lord about her brand-new memoir Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out in print October 22nd). A raw memoir about love, sexuality, ADHD, and self-discovery. Vicki opens up about her journey from hairdresser to writer, from suppressing her sexuality for 30 years to living loudly and proudly as a lesbian at 50. We talk about hair as a crown of identity, ADHD and relationships, the cycles of love, and the healing power of writing. Vicki shares how her book became therapy, and how talking about sex, confidence, and women’s pleasure can help others feel less alone. Vicki’s openness and humour make this one of the most honest episodes yet. ⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sexuality, ADHD, relationships, and self-pleasure. 💇♀️ Follow Vicki: @vickilordhair (https://www.instagram.com/vickilordhair/) 📚 Publisher: @byjpmartin (https://www.instagram.com/#) 🎧 Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w (https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w)
14 Oct 2025
My Sex Story (Part 2) | Confidence, Shame & Why I Support Sex Work
This is Part 2 of my two-part mini-series , the one where I tell my sex story. In this episode, I open up about my views on sex, confidence, and sex work. Why I believe in being open, unfiltered, and sex-positive. I talk about how my relationship with sex has changed from teenage insecurity to full empowerment, how ADHD and mindset affect intimacy, and why I support decriminalising sex work for safety and respect. This conversation is about owning your body, knowing your worth, and removing the shame around female sexuality. I want to hear your thoughts and questions for an upcoming Q&A episode, so DM me @FashionIsMyForeplay or email me fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com Mentions and signposting UK Online Safety Act (2023) — context on current sex work and online restrictions New Zealand Prostitution Reform Act (2003) — example of decriminalisation done safely Organisations advocating for sex workers’ rights: @sexworkerrightsuk @swasnetwork @englishcollectiveofprostitutes ADHD + Sex resources: “How ADHD Affects Sex and Intimacy” (ADDitude Magazine) ⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sex work, ADHD, unhealthy relationships, sexual shame, and gender/sexuality.
6 Oct 2025
Red Ribbon: Jordan Chan on Pride, HIV Awareness & Building Queer Community
In this episode, I sit down with Jordan Chan, activist, Mr Gay Britain finalist, and Chair of Swale Pride, to talk about his journey from surviving brutal bullying in rural Kent to leading change for the queer community. Jordan opens up about his experiences with identity, activism, and the power of visibility. We talk about the Red Ribbon Calendar, his latest charity project raising money for the Terrence Higgins Trust and The Sussex Beacon, both supporting people living with HIV. This episode dives into community, stigma, safe sex, and representation, from the 80s AIDS epidemic to queer joy in shows like It’s A Sin, Pose, Heartstopper, and Love, Simon. 🎗️ Featured Links & Recommendations: 📸 Jordan’s Instagram: @jordanwch_92 🗓️ Buy the Red Ribbon Calendar: https://payhip.com/b/M5bjs?utm_id=1344207247310791_v2_s01_e1001&fbclid=PAZnRzaANQDX1leHRuA2FlbQIxMQABpw1CmbGMmX9kHKSibo_SaypTxCRy5WYy1F7bP_l950PslwsgstimgTc13gsE_aem__0xPNX4TFL1x2xDKoO9Qxw 🏳️🌈 @swalepride_official 💖 @thtorguk | @sussexbeacon 📷 @mwordsphotography 🎬 TV & Film Recs: It’s A Sin, Pose, Pride, Heartstopper, Queer As Folk, Love Simon ⚠️ Content warning: Discussions include bullying, homophobia, HIV/AIDS, stigma, and sexual health.
29 Sept 2025
My Fashion Industry Story (Part 1) | From Motherhood to London Fashion Week
In this first of a two-part special, I share my journey into the fashion industry, how becoming a mum pushed me to find my identity beyond parenting, and how that led me into design, styling, production, and eventually hosting this podcast. From my early days creating children’s clothing on Instagram, to studying fashion at UCA, becoming a Dazed finalist, working backstage at London Fashion Weeks, and freelancing across styling and production, this episode is all about the highs, lows, and lessons of finding my place in fashion. Next week, in Part 2, I’ll share the other side of the story, my history with sex and why I bring both worlds together on Fashion Is My Foreplay. Follow me on Instagram/ TikTok/ YouTube @fashionismyforeplay
22 Sept 2025
Sex-Positive Parenting: A Mother–Daughter Conversation
In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with my mum for an unfiltered conversation about sex-positive parenting and what it means to raise five daughters with honesty, openness, and without shame. We talk about her own childhood, teaching without judgement, navigating slut shaming, body confidence, eating disorders, and the challenges of generational cycles around food and image. We also dive into the male gaze, teenage rebellion, and how dress and identity become a form of expression. This one’s raw, real, and deeply personal, exploring how parenting shapes confidence, sexuality, and the way we see ourselves. ⚠️ Content warning: This episode includes discussions of homophobia, sexual assault, abortion, eating disorders, and porn. Follow Emma on Instagram: @_.emma.laing._ (https://www.instagram.com/zoranadawnart/) Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.
15 Sept 2025
Zorana Dawn on Fashion, Sex & Self-Love
Note: This episode has some tech issues with microphone quality, but it’s been fixed for future recordings. Also, a content warning: we discuss sensitive topics including sex, fetishisation, and violence against trans women. In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with Zorana Dawn (@zoranadawnart) a Brighton-based burlesque and drag performer, character artist, and fashion chameleon. Originally from Serbia, Zorana’s world is filled with colour, pattern, self-expression, and unapologetic confidence. We talk about: ✨ Fashion as performance, from the stage to the bedroom ✨ Burlesque, drag, body glitter, and a wardrobe full of jumpsuits ✨ The fetishisation and dangers trans women face in dating and hookups ✨ How transition changed her body, sex life, and self-acceptance ✨ Why self-love, lingerie, and touch are central to her life and relationships Zorana’s story is bold, honest, and glitter-covered, just like her. Follow Zorana on Instagram: @zoranadawnart (https://www.instagram.com/zoranadawnart/) Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.
8 Sept 2025
Vixn Rising: Confidence starts in the changing room
In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with Rebecca, the face behind Vixn. A bold, Brighton-based activewear brand that’s about more than just leggings. We dive into gym fitness and body confidence, the power of pole, and how dopamine dressing can transform not only how you look, but how you show up for yourself. Rebecca talks about confidence in the gym setting, from feeling strong to feeling sexy, and how the right clothes can enhance your training, boost your mood, and make you walk in with your head higher. She also shares her vision for Vixn, what’s next for the brand, and the realities of building a business in the activewear space. This one’s about sweat, style, and unapologetic self-belief. Follow Vixn here: @vixnfitness Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.
1 Sept 2025
Why Fashion Is My Foreplay
Welcome to the first full episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay. Where I tell you exactly why I started this podcast, how fashion and sex shaped my identity, and how it all ties into my past. I’m sharing why I started this podcast, how fashion shaped my identity, and why the world of style is just as seductive, chaotic, and political as anything we label “taboo.” In this episode: My background in the fashion industry Why I talk openly about sex, gender and identity How I use fashion as a form of expression, survival, and foreplay New episodes weekly Share if it made you laugh, gasp, or question everything Subscribe and step into something unapologetic 🔗 Follow on Instagram, TikTok & YouTube: @fashionismyforeplay (https://www.instagram.com/fashionismyforeplay?utm_source=chatgpt.com) 📩 For press & collabs: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com ⚠️ This podcast discusses sex, sex work, and adult themes. Listener discretion is advised.
31 Aug 2025
Welcome Trailer... What the Heck Is This?
Welcome to Fashion Is My Foreplay, the podcast where fashion, sex, identity, and way-too-much-information collide. This short trailer is your first taste of what’s to come: stories, interviews, deep chats, wild opinions, and unapologetic realness from a stylist, designer, and sex-positive storyteller navigating life with ADHD, eyeliner, and no filter. Expect weekly episodes with guests, behind-the-scenes secrets, and absolutely no shame. Follow now so you don’t miss the first full episode. And yes... it’s as chaotic, stylish, and unfiltered as you hoped. 🔗 Follow the pod on Instagram, TikTok & YouTube: @fashionismyforeplay (https://www.instagram.com/fashionismyforeplay?utm_source=chatgpt.com) 📩 For press & collabs: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com https://linktr.ee/parrybette ⚠️ This podcast discusses sex, sex work, and adult themes. Listener discretion is advised.
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