Fear It Goes

About Fear It Goes

Fear It Goes explores the hidden patterns shaping high performers from the inside out — nervous system regulation, leadership, authenticity, emotional resilience, relationships, legacy, and the psychology behind how we think, lead, love, and live. Hosted by Brandi Taylor, this podcast challenges the conditioning that keeps people successful on the outside but disconnected within — uncovering the subconscious wiring, survival patterns, and emotional imprints silently driving performance, burnout, communication, and fulfillment. Because true leadership isn’t built through performance. It’s built through alignment. This is the deeper conversation behind sustainable success, authentic power, and the legacy we leave behind. No holding back. What you can expect: This podcast publishes every Friday @ noon. Episodes will cycle through one w Brandi and the next episode with a guest interview What we want from you: If you like us - Subscribe and comment. Share us out We love hearing cool ideas or great guests for the show, so please feel free to drop us a message. Send topic ideas to info@fearitgoes.com (mailto:brandi@fearitgoes.com) Join our socials on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/taylorbrandi/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/taylorbrandi/) Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fear_it_goes/ (https://www.instagram.com/fear_it_goes/) Facebook https://www.facebook.com/fearitgoes/ (https://www.facebook.com/fearitgoes/) Fear It Goes fearitgoes.com (http://fearitgoes.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

Publisher

Fear It Goes

Category

education · health & fitness · science

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

23 Mar 2019

Latest episode

10 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

80 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   10 Oct 2026

   Living as Yourself

   Season 5 Finale | With BJ Slager What if the person you've spent your life becoming isn't necessarily who you are? We've spent this season exploring the patterns we develop, the roles we assume, the expectations we inherit, and the ways our nervous systems influence how we experience ourselves and the world. But understanding who you are and actually living as that person are two very different things. In this Season 5 finale, Brandi Taylor welcomes BJ Slager back for a conversation about identity, sense of self, autonomy, and the freedom to grow beyond who we've learned to be. Together, they explore an important distinction: Your identity is not necessarily your sense of self. Identity can be shaped by roles, relationships, achievements, and the labels we adopt. Our sense of self asks something deeper: Who am I beneath those definitions? And when we've spent years finding safety, belonging, or approval through a particular identity, stepping outside it can feel profoundly unfamiliar - even unsafe. That's where the nervous system enters the conversation. Even when we consciously want change, familiar patterns can pull us toward old behaviours, because they're what we've practised and learned to expect. In this episode, we explore: The difference between identity and sense of self Why identifying with something can offer more freedom than identifying as it How conditioning and nervous system familiarity influence our choices Why letting go of an old identity doesn't mean rejecting who we used to be What happens to relationships when we begin living differently How to love someone without abandoning yourself Why authentic leadership requires autonomy rather than a need to be right, needed, or admired How ambition changes when achievement is no longer about proving our worth Why choice, awareness, and participation are essential to living as ourselves One of the most meaningful realizations in this conversation is that transformation doesn't require us to burn down everything we've been. We can honour the identities that helped us navigate life while recognizing that we no longer need to live inside them. And perhaps we don't need to make ourselves, our past, or anyone else wrong in order to choose something different. The question we're leaving you with: Are you living as the person you've learned to be, or the person you actually choose to be? As we close Season 5, thank you for being part of this exploration of power, visibility, standards, boundaries, capacity, relationships, and identity. The journey doesn't end with discovering who we are. It continues in how we choose to live. Connect with Fear It Goes Explore nervous system leadership, personal transformation, and living authentically at fearitgoes.com. Fear It Goes — Fear it. And let it go. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

2. 

   2 Oct 2026

   Epi 79 ~ When you Change

   What happens when you change… and the relationships around you don’t? We talk a lot about healing, growth, finding our power, changing our patterns and remembering who we are. But we don't talk nearly enough about what happens when we actually do. Because transformation doesn't happen in isolation. We change inside relationships—and when our identity changes, the way we participate in those relationships changes too. And sometimes we realize something we can no longer unsee: In this episode of Fear It Goes, Brandi explores different parts of identity work: recognizing that a relationship can contain love, history and goodness and still no longer fit the person you're becoming. How our nervous systems become familiar with relational patterns. We learn the rules, the roles and the choreography. This isn't about becoming more evolved than someone else or deciding they're wrong because they've chosen differently. Transformation doesn't give you authority over someone else's evolution. It gives you responsibility for your own participation. That's where standards, boundaries, capacity and identity finally come together. You'll explore: Why familiar relationship patterns can feel safe to the nervous system, even when they no longer fit What happens to a relationship when one person's identity begins to change The difference between compassion and self-abandonment Why understanding someone's patterns doesn't obligate you to live inside them How growth can become hierarchy if we're not careful Why you don't need someone else to be wrong in order to choose differently The difference between discomfort that expands you and discomfort that requires you to abandon yourself Episode 79 brings the identity journey of Season 5 almost full circle and sets up the season finale with BJ Slager: What does it actually mean to live as yourself? Reflection Ask yourself: If I met this relationship today, as the person I am now, would I choose it? Connect with us: If this episode made you recognize something in yourself, explore more of Fear It Goes and Brandi's work at fearitgoes.com (http://fearitgoes.com). Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

3. 

   25 Sept 2026

   Epi 78 ~ Capacity

   What can you hold now? What if your capacity isn't measured by how much you can carry? High performers are often praised for handling pressure, solving problems, pushing through exhaustion, leading through crisis, and keeping going long after everyone else has stopped. We call that strength. But survival builds capacity too. Survival and protection teach you to tolerate enormous stress, anticipate problems, manage people, stay useful, and become incredibly capable at carrying what hurts you. Then one day, something changes. You begin recognizing the patterns. Raising your standards. Holding boundaries. Becoming more visible. Reclaiming your power. Remembering who you are. And suddenly, the question isn't how much more you can endure. It's: How much life can you hold without abandoning yourself? In this episode, Brandi explores a different definition of capacity— not measured by productivity or how much you can accomplish, but by how much peace, love, support, power, possibility, and life you can actually experience while remaining yourself. Because sometimes the nervous system has enormous capacity for chaos and very little capacity for peace. And sometimes the discomfort that appears during transformation isn't telling you something is wrong. It's simply saying: I've never been this version of myself here before. Brandi also explores why traditional leadership development can fall short when strategy changes but the nervous system doesn't. Knowledge isn't always the limitation. The nervous system applying that knowledge may not yet have the capacity to live it. This episode asks you to stop measuring transformation only by what's left to fix and begin noticing the evidence of what has already changed. What can you hold now that you couldn't before? What no longer owns you? What are you finally able to put down? Because transformation doesn't only change what you can hold. Eventually, it changes what fits. And that's where we're going next. Reflection Ask yoursef: What can I hold now that I couldn't hold before? Rest without guilt... Your power... Peace... Notice the evidence. Remember - Something that used to own you may simply not own you anymore. Connect with us: If this episode made you recognize something in yourself, explore more of Fear It Goes and Brandi's work at fearitgoes.com (http://fearitgoes.com). Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

Reach and audience

Public platform figures. Ratings count people who left a rating, not total listeners.

Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

1 ratings

Contact Fear It Goes

Guest appearances

Books guests

Based on episode analysis; this does not confirm that the show is currently accepting guests.