Figuring It Out is a podcast for people who are tired of overthinking, overfunctioning, and carrying everything alone.
Hosted by Rachel Lee, these honest conversations explore relationships, grief, emotional patterns, self-awareness, motherhood, healing, and what it really looks like to grow through life’s hardest and most meaningful seasons.
If you’re tired of surface-level advice and ready to better understand yourself, your patterns, and the way you move through life, you’re in the right place.
Looking for more personalized support? Rachel also offers one-on-one coaching to help people move from awareness into action and create meaningful change in their actual lives.
✨ Coaching, podcast resources & ways to connect:
https://figuringitoutwithrachel.com
Episode 53 | It Pisses Me Off That I’m Not More Pissed Off
“It pisses me off that I’m not more pissed off.”
That’s what I’ve been trying to understand about my reaction to the Cornell sexual assault allegations. I’m angry. But I’m not shocked—and the familiarity bothers me.
In this episode, I talk about being assaulted at twelve, thirteen years without a real conversation about what happened, and how everything afterward shaped what I believed about myself and accepted in relationships.
I also talk about why I’m willing to say it out loud now.
I am Jane Doe. My story is different from hers, but I know what it feels like when people would rather carry on than have the conversation.
If you’ve carried something similar, you don’t have to tell your story here. I’ll go first. You can just listen.
Content note: This episode discusses childhood sexual assault, family responses and the aftermath, without graphic details.
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30 Sept 2026
Episode 52 | 52 Things I’ve Figured Out—and Some Sh*t I Still Haven’t
Fifty-two episodes. One full year of sitting behind a microphone and figuring shit out in real time.
To celebrate, I’m sharing 52 things I know now—about myself, relationships, work, money, ambition, self-trust, misplaced forks and building more in my life without diminishing what I’ve already built.
Some lessons were hard-earned. Some are ridiculous. And some things? I still haven’t figured out at all.
Because maybe the goal was never to have every answer. Maybe it’s to know yourself better, trust yourself more and give yourself some damn credit for everything you’ve already figured out along the way.
If you’re ready to talk about coaching, come find me on Instagram at @figuringitoutwithrachel and send me a message.
For more stories, thoughts and occasional word vomit that somehow turns into an actual point, find me on Substack at Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee.
23 Sept 2026
Episode 51 | Maybe You’re Not the Problem. Maybe the Template Is Bullshit.
I want discipline, meaningful connection, commitment, and partnership. I’m just not convinced they have to look the way I’ve been told.
In this episode, I’m questioning three templates I keep measuring myself against: the perfectly productive daily schedule, the five-person inner circle, and the idea that a committed relationship only counts if two people share one address. Maybe adjusting the structure isn’t lowering the standard. Maybe it’s finally trusting yourself enough to build a life that actually fits.
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