Finding Help: Therapy, Recovery, & Community

About Finding Help: Therapy, Recovery, & Community

Is recovery from addiction, anxiety, depression, or from other mental health difficulties even possible for me? What ACTUALLY happens in a therapy session or 12 Step Meeting? Will talking about my problem really help? Finding Help is a podcast where the helpers and the helped share their wisdom and experience about the many different paths from isolation, loneliness, and despair to connection, community, and hope. Host Matt Shedd formerly worked at the Peabody Awards and in public radio before becoming a mental health writer and podcaster. More at https://mattshedd.com

Publisher

Matt Shedd

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

27 Apr 2021

Latest episode

22 Sept 2021

Latest episodes

15 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   22 Sept 2021

   Escaping Internet Addiction: Pornography, Shopping, Social Media, and Gaming Addictions with Zulaikha Straight, MA, LPC

   Internet addiction is a condition that we are just starting to recognize and grapple with collectively as a culture. It’s also something that the therapy community is also starting to take seriously and address with clients. And I think if we are honest, most of us can likely identify some form of internet addiction in our own lives, be it mild or severe. Zulaikha Straight, MA, LPC, is a trauma therapist and certified addiction coach specializing in internet addiction. We talk about how this addiction can take on many different forms, including shopping, pornography, social media, and gaming addiction, to name a few. We also discuss how the underlying issues driving the addiction need to be addressed for there to be any long term healing or recovery and the ways that help are available. 0:00 Introduction 2:40 Why Zulaikha started treating internet addiction 5:15 What does internet addiction look like? 7:25 Pornography addiction - the most dangerous form of internet addiction 13:30 Shopping addiction - the dopamine rush from hitting the purchase button 18:20 The consequences of a culture addicted to the internet and the documentary “The Social Dilemma” 26:40 Social media addiction - the underlying need is to be validated and accepted; splitting our identities between public, private, and social personas; 32:50 Possibility of change; looking at the trauma underlying internet addiction; different trauma treatments 40:00 Gaming addiction - the only form of internet addiction confirmed at this point by the DSM and psychiatric world 48:13 What Zulaikha would pass on to people who are listening Zulaikha's website: https://integrativeGA.com (http://integrativega.com/) Facebook: https://facebook.com/integrativeGA (http://facebook.com/integrativeGA) Instagram: https://instagram.com/integrativega/ (https://www.instagram.com/integrativega/) LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/company/integrative-counseling-ga/ (http://linkedin.com/company/integrative-counseling-ga/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/integrativeGA (http://twitter.com/integrativeGA)

2. 

   27 Aug 2021

   Amphetamine Psychosis, Spiritual Awakening, Total Acceptance | Adam Abramowitz

   A lot of times there’s a thin line between a mental breakdown and a spiritual experience. Adam has had his fair share of both. He shares them here and it’s quite a ride. Things kicked up a notch when he was a NCAA Division 1 football player managing a worsening drug problem. In a televised ESPN game, he had a psychotic break. Spiritual experiences, continued drug use, 12 Step Recovery, and total acceptance eventually follow. 1:35 Amphetamine induced psychotic break during a D1 NCAA football game 5:05 Continued psychosis for 4 months 7:20 Psychosis ends then “things get weird” 9:08 An overwhelming spiritual experience; “losing total sense of time and space” 13:05 “the thin line between a mental breakdown and a spiritual experience” 15:35 Beginning to use black tar heroin 17:35 Instant relapse, going to the bluffs to score drugs 21:35 Why he stopped relapsing - the 12 Steps 23:05 Difficulty of what families experience 26:05 Lao Tzu and Taoism; peace, contentment, and creativity in recovery 28:00 A few second of contemplation 30:20 Being back on heroin, living in Tulsa with his mom, losing his girlfriend 32:35 Waking up dopesick, using heroin and cocaine 34:35 Getting back into recovery 37:35 Being deeply ashamed of who he was; out of dope, out of money, out of gas 39:05 Looking at a gun and contemplating suicide 41:35 Revisiting spirituality in recovery: Taoism, Zen, Bruce Lee, Alan Watts 46:05 Shared Space, building a recovery-focused social media software 47:35 Pema Chodron, “Comfortable with Uncertainty” 50:05 Taking the 3rd Step 52:35 Working in the treatment field, Life as play rather than work 57:25 What Adam would pass on to people listening For more information, visit https://mattshedd.com

3. 

   5 Aug 2021

   Mythology, Spirituality, & Therapy: Transforming Suffering into Poetry with Mitchell Smolkin, MACP, RP

   A Jungian psychotherapist who approaches the most seemingly ordinary human experience with the curiosity and reverence of a philosopher and a poet, Mitchell Smolkin, MACP, RP, is a profoundly interesting conversation partner. We work through some big questions in this episode. Specifically, we discuss how therapy can intersect with spirituality in moments of great suffering to be a profound meaning-making tool in our lives. How do we find dignity in suffering? [1:30] Accepting suffering and resisting violence to the individual; Carl Jung’s influence and his “appetite for mythology” as a tool for making meaning; 12 Step Recovery as a framework. How can we use art and religious narratives to make meaning? [8:45] The Art of Marc Chagall; Religious narratives as a tool for making sense out of daily life; Video games as mythological frameworks. Why is it so difficult to talk about spiritual and religious identity? [13:30] Complexities of religious identities; Jewish rituals of collective mourning after the crusades; Spiritual practice as a collective connection rather than the modern idea of self-development. How do you work with religion and spirituality in the therapy room? [20:00] Transforming suffering into poetry; Charles Darwin - no single organism is exactly the same as another; Carl Jung - everyone has their psychology. How can we acknowledge and work with our cultural and spiritual inheritance in therapy? [27:30] Forgiving frailties of the individual human psyche, re: group fanaticism, mob mentality; Mass graves of Indigenous children in Canada and the Catholic Church; Reckoning with the realities of history without judging. What would you say to people who are suffering right now? [36:30] Healing involves connection, and connection requires risk; Intimacy comes with pain because it touches against our wounds; Going deep into the lexicon of our pain For Mitchell’s podcast, look up "The Dignity of Suffering" wherever podcasts are found. Also, you can visit Mitchell at https://mitchellsmolkin.com/ (https://mitchellsmolkin.com/) For more of Matt Shedd's work, visit https://mattshedd.com.

4. 

   23 Jul 2021

   From Alcoholic Hallucinations to Connection + Hope with Kyle C.

   Terrible things always happened to Kyle when he drank. And yet Kyle could NOT stop drinking, even though he desperately wanted to. We start off our conversation with his description of being in the hospital with the DTs. And it makes "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" seem tame. He recalls after being detoxed, swearing he's not going to drink at the same time that he's lifting the bottle to his mouth. Eventually, through the process of a 12 Steps program, surrender, and community, a life characterized by isolation and despair starts to give way to connection and hope. Here's the story of how Kyle found help. For more of Matt's work, visit https://mattshedd.com

5. 

   9 Jul 2021

   A Nonviolent Approach to Addiction with Matt Shedd, MA

   If addiction is a process characterized by a state of violence toward oneself and others, perhaps the way to recovery is nonviolent. Perhaps lasting habit change doesn't involve forcing, coercing, or punishing ourselves into doing things differently but instead consists of a process of disarming ourselves of ineffective coping mechanisms. And in taking that risk, maybe we can open ourselves to finding a new power grounded in community rather than alienation. In this podcast episode, Matt Shedd lays out how he sees the language and process of nonviolent direct action as coinciding with the process of 12 Step Recovery and the science of mindfulness and habit change. Exploring the intersection between these approaches, Matt draws from several traditions and bodies of knowledge. Looking at the Big Book of A.A; the work of researchers Dr. Judson Brewer and Brené Brown; and Gandhi's practice of "Satyagraha" and the words of Martin Luther King, Jr., Matt walks through how he sees all these voices point to a unifying truth. When we learn to lay down the weapons of faulty defense mechanisms (which are only hurting ourselves and those around us), we can perhaps connect to a collective power or way of being that helps to heal ourselves and those around us. For more of Matt's work or to reach out to him directly, visit mattshedd.com.

6. 

   1 Jul 2021

   Everyone's Brain Is Different | Neurodiversity with Kelli Willard, LMFT

   What happens if a therapist properly understands their client’s unique brain differences and challenges? It can potentially save the client and therapist years of pursuing therapeutic interventions that are ineffective for that client’s particular brain. Kelli Willard’s approach as a therapist changed dramatically when she officially received an ADHD diagnosis. A better understanding of how her own brain functioned helped her shift her entire perspective, not just on her own daily life, but also on working with individuals and couples as a therapist. In our talk we discuss neurodiversity and how everyone’s brain functions differently. Kelli’s work with clients seeks to move past unhelpful disease models related to different-functioning brains. Rather, she focuses on helping her clients embrace and work with the gifts and challenges associated with their unique brain functioning. Learn more about Kelli's work at: https://loveallthebrains.com/ For more about Matt's work and the services he provides, visit https://mattshedd.com

7. 

   24 Jun 2021

   “Anything Is Welcome” | Radical Acceptance & EMDR with Natasha Vayner, LCSW

   What if we learned to welcome every emotional experience we had–even the unpleasant ones? Natasha Vayner, LCSW, talks about how she uses radical acceptance in the work she does with her clients. “There’s space for feeling, for thoughts, and there’s space for anger–really anything,” Natasha explains. “Anything is welcome.” She also explains how she uses EMDR, a technique that provides a specific methodology for clients to create this room for new experiences. “[With EMDR] clients hear themselves saying the things that they never thought they would say. They are feeling the things that they never thought that they would feel. And the clinician is there to support [the client] in going deeper and deeper.” We start by talking about Natasha’s first exposure to the idea of radical acceptance through the work of Tara Brach and how it changed her life and her practice. For more about Natasha’s work, visit https://www.groundedpsychotherapy.com/ (https://www.groundedpsychotherapy.com/) To learn more about Matt Shedd’s work and the services he provides for therapists, visit https://mattshedd.com (https://mattshedd.com/)

8. 

   17 Jun 2021

   Racial Trauma and Cultural Humility with Sherrae Lachhu, LMFT

   What is it like to be an African American therapist helping clients work through racial trauma that one is also experiencing? According to Sherrae Lachhu, LMFT, doing this well involves having the humility and willingness to learn about each client's unique personal and cultural backgrounds. "All trauma is not the same," Sherrae points out. "I know trauma; I know oppression; I know what it feels like to come from a marginalized community. I don't know how everybody within my community feels, let alone other communities." In Sherrae's work as a therapist based in Huntersville, North Carolina, she specializes in making therapy accessible to BIPOC individuals. And in this conversation, she also discusses the healing groundwork that therapy can provide for people to understand themselves and pursue meaningful lives that they don't feel the need to escape from. For more about Sharrae’s work you can visit: https://love-acceptance.com/ (https://love-acceptance.com/) To learn more about Matt's work, the services that he provides for therapists, or for help producing your own podcast, you can visit https://mattshedd.com (https://mattshedd.com).

9. 

   10 Jun 2021

   Making Therapy Accessible to Diverse Cultural Backgrounds with Ana Aluisy, LMFT, LMHC

   Ana Aluisy is a therapist in Tampa, Florida, specializing in multicultural couples counseling and making mental healthcare accessible to minority communities. In our talk we cover a range of issues, like why more people are coming to therapy during COVID, the unique bond that can exist between a therapist and a client, and the challenges that minority communities can often face to receive mental health support. Here are some of the the main subjects we touch on: -Why more people are coming to therapy during Covid (1:30) -What therapy is actually like (3:10) -Working with clients’ false beliefs of being unworthy or unloveable (9:10) -Multicultural couples counseling (12:30) -Different cultural perceptions about therapy (15:20) -Writing a book for the Spanish-speaking community (18:20) -Barriers to treatment for minorities: accessibility, availability, utilization (21:00) Visit Ana’s Website: comegethelp.com (https://comegethelp.com/) Check Out Ana’s Book "Reinvent Your Relationship: A Therapist's Insights to Having the Relationship You've Always Wanted": www.indiebound.org/book/9781630478971 (https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781630478971) For more information on Matt’s work or for help getting the word out about your therapy practice, visit mattshedd.com (//mattshedd.com)

10. 

    3 Jun 2021

    Emotionally Focused Therapy with Travis Ramsey, LPC

    Even if the mental health difficulties don’t seem connected to our family relationships, a lot of times they are. We all participate in systems, like our families, that affect us whether we acknowledge it or not. As Travis Ramsey, LPC, puts it, “If one part of our family isn’t working well, it doesn’t make all the other parts behave better, it makes them behave worse.” And at the same time, “When one person changes, it can change the whole family system.” As an emotionally focused couples and families therapist, Travis helps clients see the difficulties they are experiencing in conjunction with the systems they are part of and helps clients to work to heal those systems. “A lot of times people think that it’s just personal problems that bring them into counseling, and they don’t often see how it is related to their relationships.” By looking at the relationships, and taking this systems-oriented approach, Travis helps his client’s understand their own confusing emotions and behavior. “Whatever you’re feeling, whatever you’re thinking, whatever you’re doing, that doesn’t make sense to you–my goal is to help you make sense of it.” And doing that involves experiencing the feelings along with his clients: “We are feeling it together. And I am going into that experience that you’re having. And what that requires of me is that I can’t be afraid to go there.” To learn more about Travis’s practice visit: https://www.travisramseytherapy.com/about (https://www.travisramseytherapy.com/about) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/travis-ramsey-smyrna-ga/198473 (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/travis-ramsey-smyrna-ga/198473)

11. 

    27 May 2021

    Escaping Perfectionism with Bianca Hughes, LPC

    Bianca Hughes, LPC, shares that the unrealistic desire to be perfect exists in all of us and is at the root of many mental health difficulties. We discuss how perfectionism shows up differently for men and women. We also talk about how the pandemic has affected mental health. Bianca credits the slowed down pace of life with creating an increased demand for therapy as people come face-to-face with their inner perfectionist and are seeking help as a result. In addition to her therapy practice, Bianca hosts the “Authentic Wednesday Podcast” in which she invites guests to take off their perfectionism mask to talk about their real stories. Bianca’s website: https://www.biancakhughes.com/ (https://www.biancakhughes.com/meetbiancahughes) Authentic Wednesday Podcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authentic-wednesday-podcast/id1480969712 (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authentic-wednesday-podcast/id1480969712) Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6PL2BjT9KoEWNmRQz53i8V (https://open.spotify.com/show/6PL2BjT9KoEWNmRQz53i8V) For more info on Matt Shedd and the services he provides for therapists visit: https://mattshedd.com (https://mattshedd.com/)

12. 

    17 May 2021

    Will Couples Therapy Be Able to Help Us? with Becky Wofford, LMFT

    How come my partner and I keep getting into fights and we don’t know why? How come my partner doesn’t seem to care about me any more? Is it even possible for us to find our way back to each other? My guest today is Becky Wofford of Lifespring Counseling with offices in Acworth and Marietta, Georgia. Our conversation today focuses on Becky’s work with couples using emotionally focused therapy. She shares about the uniquely deep loneliness that people experience when they are in a strained relationship; the apprehension they often feel about opening up at first about their relationship; and the hope that she knows is possible. Becky’s Psychology Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/becky-wofford-acworth-ga/153267 (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/becky-wofford-acworth-ga/153267) Becky’s website: http://www.lifespringcounseling.org/about-the-therapist.html (http://www.lifespringcounseling.org/about-the-therapist.html) For more of Matt’s writing and podcasts and to learn about the services he provides for therapists, visit https://mattshedd.com (https://mattshedd.com/)

13. 

    10 May 2021

    A Feeling of Safety Beyond Words with Alyce Wellons, LCSW

    Alyce Wellons, LCSW, is a therapist who is remarkably grounded, thoughtful, and present. You can hear the care and wisdom that she brings to her therapy practice when she describes how she works with clients. Alyce has over 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist, and she explains how her views about therapy have matured over time. Specifically, she talks about how, as a young therapist, she thought that working with trauma was about going right into the content of the traumatic event in the client's life. It wasn't until she gained more experience that she began to realize the importance of "talking about talking about what happened." In our conversation, we discuss the importance of safety in therapeutic relationships and how boundaries lay the groundwork for love. We also talk about communication that takes place in therapy that goes beyond words. Because this work is so subtle and profound, she believes that a great deal of the therapist's ability to help is grounded in the work that they do on themselves before the client comes into the room. We also discuss how political events in the outside world can immediately impact what happens in the therapy room. Learn more about Alyce's work: https://www.alycewellons.com To reach out to Matt Shedd visit: https://mattshedd.com.

14. 

    4 May 2021

    Working with Men in Therapy with Dr. Steve Fogleman

    What are some of the obstacles that men face in getting help with their mental health? What makes therapy work well? And if it works well, why is it so hard for people to reach out for help? These are just some of the big questions that I tackle with Dr. Steve Fogleman, a psychologist who focuses on interpersonal process therapy in his work with clients. In our talk, we discuss how sharing in a safe context of therapy allows clients to work through and address past traumas. We also talk about how media representations of therapy shape our expectations of what therapy will be like before we even walk in the door, looking specifically at the show Mad Men. The episode closes out with Dr. Fogleman’s take on how he addresses differences in identity, why he likes working with men on men’s issues, and the one thing he would pass on to people listening about what therapy is like. 0:01 - Intro 1:15 - What makes therapy work? 5:02 - How trauma affects us and how we can recover 9:53 - Dr. Fogleman describes his integrative and interpersonal approach to therapy 12:02 - How Dr. Fogleman own experience as a client helped him want to become a therapist 14:38 - Why feeling safe in therapy is so important 16:46 - How therapy in movies and TV shows like “Mad Men” affects our approach 18:33 - Clip of Mad Men, where a character goes to psychoanalysis 21:15 - What are some of the biggest obstacles to people reaching out for therapy? 23:22 - How do you address differences in identity? 27:11 - Working with men on men’s issues 28:37 - What’s one thing you would want to pass on to people listening? Find out more about Dr. Steve Fogleman: https://drstevefogleman.com/ (https://drstevefogleman.com/) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/steve-fogleman-atlanta-ga/780719 (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/steve-fogleman-atlanta-ga/780719) For more of Matt’s writing and podcasts or to reach out to him, visit https://mattshedd.com (https://mattshedd.com/)

15. 

    27 Apr 2021

    A Therapist for People Who Don’t Like Therapy with Melanie Storrusten, LSCW

    Melanie Storrusten, LCSW works with a lot of clients who have had bad experiences with therapy in the past. Melanie specializes in trauma, and her approach incorporates the most up-to-date research on how trauma affects the nervous system. She discusses how trauma needs to be engaged with gently, delicately, and slowly. We also talk about how events in the news can affect trauma survivors. Melanie talks about different media representations of therapy on TV shows like "Grey's Anatomy" or "This Is Us" can sometimes be harmful or helpful in giving people an idea of what therapy is actually like. Visit Melanie's practice, Align Wellness: https://www.alignwellnessatl.com (https://www.alignwellnessatl.com) For more of Matt’s writing and podcasts or to reach out to him, visit https://mattshedd.com (https://mattshedd.com/)

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