Finding Her Sparkle with Ami Rankin

About Finding Her Sparkle with Ami Rankin

Finding Her Sparkle is the podcast for overwhelmed mums ready to stop running on empty and feel like themselves again. Hosted by Ami Rankin - a mum of two, Wellbeing Coach and Emotional Intelligence specialist covering Overwhelm, Burnout, The Mental Load, Nervous System Regulation, Mum Rage, Matrescence and identity loss in Motherhood. Learn evidence-backed tools from CBT, NLP, ACT and nervous system regulation delivered like a conversation with a friend who genuinely gets it. New episodes fortnightly. Let's get your sparkle back. ✨

Publisher

Ami Rankin

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

11 Mar 2019

Latest episode

8 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

151 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   8 Oct 2026

   Episode 142: WHO AM I NOW SERIES ✨ How do I prioritise myself without feeling guilty? Why you're at the bottom of your own priority list ✨

   Can we talk about something for a second? You know that little voice that says 'I'm too busy' or 'I have so many other things to do first' every time you think about doing something for you? That voice didn't come out of nowhere. In this episode — part two of the 'Who Am I Now Series', Ami gets into the real reason why prioritising yourself feels so hard and why it has almost nothing to do with you! We're going back to your conditioning. The women you watched growing up who did everything for everyone and never questioned it. The societal standards that tell you to work full time, run a household, raise kids, stay fit, stay social, stay calm - and also somehow do all of it without dropping a ball (or having a mental breakdown!). No wonder you've ended up at the bottom of your own priority list. But here's what I wants you to take away from this episode: it is not selfish to prioritise yourself. There are actually two types of selfishness, and once you understand the difference, the guilt starts to shift. You'll hear about why generational conditioning has shaped the way you show up as a Woman and a Mum (and why it's not your fault), the difference between traditional selfishness and healthy selfishness and why it changes everything. The 'saying yes is also saying no' tool that will make you rethink your automatic yes, how to start setting simple boundaries that protect your energy without the guilt,and how to figure out what activities actually fill your cup - even when you can't remember what you used to enjoy. This one comes with journaling prompts, real examples and a fresh perspective on what it actually means to put yourself first. If this episode lands for you, share it with a friend who needs the reminder. And if you've got questions or want to go deeper, my DMs are always open: Instagram: @ami_rankin (https://www.instagram.com/ami_rankin/) To access our free tools at BU Happiness College, click here. (msha.ke/amirankin) Please remember to subscribe and share the show to help more women get their sparkle back! ✨

2. 

   6 Jul 2026

   Episode 141: WHO AM I NOW SERIES ✨ I don't know who I am anymore: understanding identity shift after a big life change

   Did you know that 91% of women feel like they've lost themselves in motherhood? If you're one of them, this episode is the explanation you've been waiting for. In this first episode of the Who Am I Now? series, I introduce the concept of Matrescence — the psychological, neurological and identity transformation every woman goes through when she becomes a Mother. Just like adolescence has a name, a framework and societal understanding, so does this. We just don't talk about it enough. This episode covers: What Matrescence actually is and why society hasn't caught up with it yet Why losing yourself in motherhood isn't a failure The truth about 'bouncing back' and why that language is keeping you stuck Why your identity didn't disappear (and how to start getting it back) What finding yourself again actually looks like day-to-day (hint: it's easier than you think) Tools in this episode: The Feelings Wheel — how to name what you're feeling so you can start moving toward what you want The Before & Now Identity Map — a simple journalling exercise to see what's shifted and what's still yours The Morning Check-In — three questions to ask yourself daily that take less than two minutes If you've been feeling lost, overwhelmed or like you can't find your way back to yourself — you are not broken. You are in the middle of one of the biggest life transitions a human being can go through. This series is your map. Tag me on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ami_rankin/) if you try the tools — I would love to hear from you! And please share with someone you know could benefit from this episode too.

3. 

   5 May 2026

   😡 It's not about the housework 🤯 Why You Keep Fighting About the Same Things (And How to Actually Stop)

   You walk in the door. The bins weren't taken out, the kitchen's still a mess - within minutes you're in the same argument you've had a hundred times before. Going around in circles, both of you feeling attacked, nobody actually saying what they mean. Sound familiar? This episode is going to change how you communicate in your relationship. If you've ever wondered why you and your partner keep fighting about the same things, why you feel unheard no matter how many times you bring something up or why conversations about something small somehow always turn into something big, this is for you. The truth is, it was never about the bins or the messy kitchen. In this episode I'm walking you through how to move beyond 'story level' - the he said-she said, you did this-you didn't do that, and get to the feeling underneath. Because that's where the real conversation lives. That's where things actually change. What we cover: - Why we get stuck in the criticism-defensiveness cycle (and how to break it) - What "story level" is — and why it keeps you going in circles - Why naming the feeling underneath feels so uncomfortable (and why your brain avoids it) - The Feelings Wheel — your most important tool for understanding what you're actually feeling - Why anger is always an umbrella feeling — and what's hiding underneath it - Three questions to ask yourself before the conversation to get clear on what you actually need - How to communicate your feelings without it turning into an attack - Why your partner isn't a mind reader — and what to do about it - How having these conversations less, means connecting more This episode follows on from our episode on teaching children emotional intelligence - because you can't teach your kids something you haven't learned yourself. And so many of us were never taught this. We were told to stay strong, push through, don't make a fuss. So if having these conversations feels big and scary that's not a flaw in you, that's just what you were taught. And it's time to unlearn it. 🎙️ If this resonated, share it with a friend or a partner who needs it - that's how this podcast reaches new people and I appreciate you more than you know. Follow Finding Her Sparkle so you don't miss next week... a very exciting new series is starting and you're going to want to be there from the beginning! If you're feeling like the mental load, overwhelm or disconnection in your relationships has become too much to carry on your own, my inbox is always open. Come find me on Instagram - @ami_rankin (https://www.instagram.com/ami_rankin/⁠)

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