Abbey Samide PCC-S and Sarah Della Vella LISW are co-owners of Fit Mind Cleveland. It is our goal to make therapy and therapeutic topics understandable and available to everyone. We will explore mental health topics with humor, knowledge, insight and compassion.
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Divorce is magical. It’s the only time in adult life where a well-adjusted, yoga-practicing, rescue-dog-owning pacifist will look at an Excel spreadsheet of shared cookware and think: ‘I will literally die on this hill before they get the immersion blender.
Picture the kindest, most gentle person you know. Now put them in a room with a lawyer, a split bank account, a division of assets, and the slow realization that the life they built is ending. Suddenly, the person who wouldn’t hurt a fly is filing emergency injunctions and calling their lawyer at 2:00 AM over a used couch.
The human brain is capable of incredible things. It put a man on the moon. It mapped the human genome. And during a messy divorce, it will spend three consecutive hours calculating the exact monetary value of used bath towels just to spite someone.
Today we talk about
Why we lose our minds during a divorce
It’s easy to judge divorce behavior from the outside—until you understand what fear, betrayal, and threat do to the human brain
Let’s dive into the science of divorce pettyiness
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5 Oct 2026
I Love You but Please Stop
We are social creatures built for connection to others. It’s about the 20-35 age range in Erikson’s theory of development that we are driven for intimacy versus Isolation. We pair up and play house and maybe even have some kids. And opposites attract so what brought us together initially is oftentimes the very things that drive you crazy about that person 5-10 years in.
This past week we asked people to write us about the most annoying things your partners do. Here today we get to talk about them.
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28 Sept 2026
Oversharing, Too much?
Over sharing has evolved over the years. The first time I noticed this was in the beginning phases of FB when certain friends would post every place they went to. They would check in feeling happy at Target, then feeling thirsty at Starbucks. People were living their lives on social media. This has continued to get more and more of a place people will share things that are more personal and at times uncomfortable.
Oversharing on social media is timely right now. I have a friend on FB that has deteriorating mental health in a manic phase rapid fire posting up to 20 times a day their grandiose thoughts on plans to sue others, go on an international tour, start a company and are interviewing for positions, asking for money, working with government agencies to take down others, making AI posters with people they are having a problem with. This list goes on and it is painful to watch. We all have the FB friend that when you read the post you get the ick bc it is more personal than you are comfortable and can be viewed as attention seeking, the woe is me post this list could go and on. There are many reasons people engage in over sharing and most are related to anxiety. We feel like I need to say something, get ahead of this, get short term relief, share my point of view, correct the wrongs, say things I might not say in person, etc.
We can also overshare when interacting with people face to face and the same phenomena happens when we get anxious. We have to fill the silence hence we start word vomiting and over share.
We all have experienced the uncomfortable feeling of reading someone’s rant/feud, personal lives being played out on social media, someone’s mental health unraveling, over sharing personal information that may give you a ugh feeling. Being in the grocery store and a person you know by face not name tells you about their cheating husband, his addiction to porn and their impending divorce. I feel like over sharing happens a lot in divorces.
If you wonder why people over share or are a chronic over sharer this is the episode for you bc we talk about the why and how to reign it in.
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