We are Mark and Katie Martinez. We’ve been married 10 years and have 4 children. Together we own Arise Coaching and Counseling in Kansas City. We like to discuss theology, spirituality, psychology, parenting, and lots of other things! We hope we can bring you some light and encouragement through our conversations. Thank you for listening!
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A Rule of Life is an “intentional conscious plan to keep God at the center of everything we do.” (Scazzero) It is an important tool for growing in spiritual and emotional health. The word "rule" comes from the greek word for trellis - the rule for your life is supposed to be something that supports you and helps you grow, not something constricting or defeating. As such, it should be uniquely tailored to you. We discuss what has worked and not worked for us for a rule of life in the past, and the four main pillars of a rule of life. Pray about these pillars and how you can incorporate a rule in your life!
Pillars of a rule of life:
Prayer: Daily Office, Mass/Worship, Study, Silence...
Rest: Sabbath Rest, Play/Recreation...
Work/Activity: Ministries (unique to you!), physical exercise/taking care of the body...
Relationships: Emotional health, family, friendships...
Resources we mention:
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (https://amzn.to/39DCrIf) by Peter Scazzero
Your Blue Flame (https://amzn.to/3jaS7pR) by Jennifer Fulwiler
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26 Jan 2021
Becoming an Emotional Adult
"Love in practice is a harsh and dreadful thing compared to love in dreams." (The Brothers Karamozov by Dostoevsky)
Learning to love well in an emotionally healthy way is a big part of becoming an emotionally healthy adult. Many of us are stuck "emotionally." We may be an emotional infant, child, adolescent, adult, or have qualities of each of these emotional maturity levels. It's important to be aware of where we are now, so that we can do the work of growing emotionally as God desires us to. We need to grow from seeing the world and relationships as I-It, (we are the center of the universe, seeing the other person as an object for our own purposes) to I-Thou (we are each sacred and of equal dignity, therefore we see the other person as a unique "I" and we connect with them across our differences while still remaining our own "I.") We took the quiz (linked below!) and we discuss what it looks like to be where we are emotionally, and how we can try to grow into the emotional adults God created us to be. A big part of this is how we deal with conflict. Are we false peacemakers or do we see true peace? Scazzero gives us practical ways to grow emotionally and resolve conflict in an emotionally healthy way:
1) Communication - learning to speak and listen in an emotionally healthy way
2) Stop Mind Reading!! Being willing to speak how we are feeling vulnerably.
3) Bill of Rights - what are our rules for relationships, how we will be respected by and respect the other person
4) Clarify Expectations - make them conscious, realistic, spoken, and agreed upon
5) Allergies and Triggers - be aware of the way past hurts come into our current relationships and be willing to share and heal (see our Episode in Season 1 - How Triggers Lead to Healing)
Resources we mention:
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (https://amzn.to/2MjM2uQ) by Peter Scazzero
How Emotionally Healthy are You? (//www.emotionallyhealthy.org) Assessment
Thank you for your ratings and reviews! Email us at markandkatiemartinez@gmail.com, or visit our website at www.markandkatiemartinez.com (//www.markandkatiemartinez.com).
19 Jan 2021
The Rope in the Blizzards: Daily Prayer and Sabbath Rest
In this episode, we're talking about securing the rope that guides us through the blizzards of life with prayer and rest. In our busy, hectic lives, it's hard to take a stop and take a breath. What we've learned is that ultimately, it's about trust. Do you trust God to take care of things long enough to take a break? This goes for during our days, when we need to build in those times to come back to the spring of living waters, and during our week, when we need to follow the rhythm of work and rest that God designed us for by taking a Sabbath rest one day each week. We talked about the components that Peter Scazzero thinks needs to be included in the "Daily Office," the times to stop and pray during the day, and the components of Sabbath Rest.
Four Elements for the Daily Office:
1. Stopping
2. Centering (Calling to mind the presence of God.)
3. Silence
4. Scripture
Four Principles of Biblical Sabbath:
1. Stop
2. Rest
3. Delight
4. Contemplate
Discussion Questions:
1. What is your anchor? Are you putting your trust in a false, moving anchor, or do you have firm anchors in place?
2. How can you incorporate prayer into your day, keeping in mind the four elements?
3. Is there room in your life for Sabbath Rest? What activities that are not life-giving could you let go of to make more room?
4. What needs to change to make your Sabbath more restful and life-giving? Is it a "day of preparation for the Sabbath?" Or saying no to certain activities?
Resources we mention:
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (https://amzn.to/3oV54WE)by Peter Scazzero
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