For the Rest of Us

About For the Rest of Us

For the Rest of Us is a podcast about healing, growth, and navigating life with honesty and heart. Hosted by therapist and creator Tolu Adepoju, each episode explores the real side of self-care, identity, relationships, and rest especially for those who often feel like they have to hold it all together. Through storytelling, reflection, and relatable conversations, Tolu offers a space for the everyday person to feel seen, supported, and inspired to live with more ease and authenticity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

Publisher

Tolu Adepoju

Category

education · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

25 Oct 2025

Latest episode

30 Jun 2026

Latest episodes

10 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   30 Jun 2026

   The Truth About Adult Friendships

   Episode Summary: In this episode of "For the Rest of Us," Tolu introduces the show's first guest, Simone Saunders, a therapist and content creator. They engage in a candid conversation about the complexities of adult friendships, addressing everything from making new friends to navigating the growth and changes within existing ones. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/VKjS3NHRvQEZjCDy7). Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction of guest Simone Saunders 02:58 - Dilemma 1: How do you make new friends without feeling like you are forcing it. 05:30 - How the proximity factor affects a relationship 06:01 – Dilemma 2: Addressing the guilt of outgrowing friendships 08:51 - Personal check-ins: Tolu and Simeone talk about their current life phases and upcoming book launch. 17:22 – Podcast Main Topic: Defining what makes a friendship feel safe 22:56 - Building depth in friendships and the role of vulnerability 24:37 - Redefining vs. ending friendships and swallowing your ego 29:08 - What effort looks like in adult friendships 40:42 - Closing thoughts on the necessity of human connection. Resources & Mentions Ashay Therapy Services: Tolu’s group practice. Click (https://ashaytherapy.janeapp.com/locations/ashay-therapy/book#/free-20-minute-consultation) to book a free 20-minute consult (for Canadian residents). 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

2. 

   28 Apr 2026

   Take The Trip Alone: Here's Why

   In this episode, Tolu reflects on the importance of taking solo trips, and how it helps to rediscover oneself and build confidence. Tolu addresses a listener’s dilemma about feeling anxious and disconnected in a relationship, helping us differentiate between intuition and anxiety. She wraps up with a celebration of solo travel, offering her top tips, destination recommendations, and encouraging you to stop waiting for others and just take the trip! To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/VKjS3NHRvQEZjCDy7). Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: Tolu greets her audience and speaks about preparing for the rugby season. 1:50 – Birthday plans: How Tolu’s 30th birthday was one of the best and her plans for this year’s birthday. 03:06 – Craving Slowness: Tolu wants more space, reflection and total newness. 03:50 – Topic Inspiration: How Tolu’s first solo trip in 2020 inspired this episode’s topic. 04:42 – The Dilemma: "I feel anxious and overthink communication with someone I'm dating. Is this self-sabotage or intuition telling me something is wrong?" 05:41 – Advice: How to tell the difference between anxiety (loud, chaotic, nitpicky) and intuition (quiet, grounded, a "knowing"). Plus, taking space to observe without fixing. 08:10- Main topic: Take The Solo Trip. How Tolu fell in love with solo-travel and the places she explored during the travel. 11:23 - Importance of solo travel: How solo-trips helps to discover a different version of yourself outside of your regular routine. Why taking a trip alone is the ultimate confidence builder. 14:03 – Solo Travel Tips: 1. Inform of your absence. 2. keep your safety in mind. 3. Do not give too much information. 4. Don’t jam-pack your schedule. 22:43 – Top destinations for first-time solo travelers: The Netherlands (Amsterdam), Spain (Barcelona), and Greece (Santorini/Mykonos). 26:18 – Reflection Prompts: Three questions to ask yourself about solo travel and self-reliance. Reflection Prompts If you've had the thought of taking a solo trip, what are you waiting for? Do you trust yourself to handle new experiences and navigate challenges on your own? When was the last time you intentionally spent quality, disconnected time with just yourself? Ashay Therapy Services: Tolu’s group practice. Click (https://ashaytherapy.janeapp.com/locations/ashay-therapy/book#/free-20-minute-consultation) to book a free 20-minute consultation (for Canadian residents). 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

3. 

   14 Apr 2026

   Overfunctioning in Relationships: Stop Fixing and Start Coaching

   After a busy March, Tolu is back! In this quick life update, she talks about the chaos of the "fire horse" year that is 2026, the growth of her therapy practice, and leaning into delegating by hiring an operations and marketing coordinator. The main focus of this episode is inspired by a TikTok video Tolu made that went viral (over 500k views!). The topic? Overfunctioning in relationships. Tolu explains why this pattern happens, how it leads to resentment and burnout, and gives actionable tips on how to pull back, stop fixing, and let others rise to the occasion. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/VKjS3NHRvQEZjCDy7). Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: "Your girl disappeared for March!" Catching up and getting back on the recording schedule. 02:15 – Life Update: Expanding Ashay Therapy Services, hiring a coordinator, and practicing delegation (even when it’s scary). 07:27 – The Dilemma: "I make plans with friends, romanticize them, and then want to cancel right before. Why does this happen?" 10:01 – Advice: Taking the opposite action and normalizing the urge to cancel (especially on Fridays after a long week) and how to navigate the discomfort of going anyway. 11:02 – Main Topic: Overfunctioning in relationships. Inspired by the viral TikTok: "Be willing to sit with the discomfort of letting other people be responsible for themselves." 13:13 – How overfunctioning shows up: Being the default planner, the problem solver, or the person everyone relies on when things go wrong. 15:30 – The consequences: Anxiety, emotional burnout, and resentment ("Why am I the only one doing this?"). 16:30 – The "Superwoman" Syndrome: The exhausting pressure to prove your worth by always being capable. 20:24 – Practical Tips: 1. Shift from Fixer to Coach: When people come to you with a problem, don't solve it. Ask, "What would you want to do about this?" or "Do you want me to listen or give advice?" 2. Sit with the Silence: Resist the urge to jump in and fill the silence or immediately offer to take on a task. 3. Let the Ball Drop: Allow people to fail or make mistakes so they can learn. 4. Experimenting with stepping back: Let someone else plan the next outing and see what happens. The Challenge: This week, try doing a little less. See what feelings come up when you aren't fixing everything. Resources & Mentions Ashay Therapy Services: Tolu’s group practice. Click (https://ashaytherapy.janeapp.com/locations/ashay-therapy/book#/free-20-minute-consultation) to book a free 20-minute consultation (for Canadian residents). Click here (https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVY27sElK3n/?igsh=ZHBic3JweXhnd3g1) to watch the video on Instagram. 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

4. 

   17 Feb 2026

   Japan Travel Tea: What Surprised Me

   Episode Summary: As promised in the previous episode, Tolu is here with the tales from Japan! In this chatty episode, she spills all the details from her recent 15-day trip to Japan. She covered everything from the intense jet lag to the surprising food finds. She also dives into a listener's dilemma about turning 30 and feeling "behind" in life. Tolu shares her perspective on letting go of societal timelines and finding grace for your unique journey. Plus, get practical travel tips for Japan, including navigating the trains, what to pack, and why you definitely need a coin purse. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/VKjS3NHRvQEZjCDy7). Timestamps 00:00 – Intro & Welcome Back: Catching up, sipping coffee, and setting the vibe. 04:15 – The Dilemma: Turning 30 and feeling behind in career, relationships, and life milestones. 05:30 – Advice: Why you need to give yourself grace, acknowledging the impact of the pandemic on our timelines, and avoiding the comparison trap. 10:45 – Japan Trip Breakdown: Itinerary: 15 days across Kyoto (3 nights), Osaka (4 nights), and Tokyo (7-8 nights). Travel Logistics: The flight, dealing with jet lag, and arriving in Narita. 17:15 – Surprises in Japan: Cleanliness: How spotless the streets are. Fashion: The incredible street style of locals. Convenience Stores: Why 7-Eleven, FamilyMart, and Lawson are life-savers (and delicious). The Vending Machines: Hot coffee in a can? Yes, please. 21:50 – The Toilets: Tolu’s love affair with Japanese heated bidets (and why she misses them). 24:30 – Safety: Feeling incredibly safe walking alone at night as a solo traveler. 26:15 – Culture Notes: The politeness, bowing, and quiet trains. 28:40 – Travel Tips: Money: Bring cash (yen) and a coin purse! Transportation: Using the Suica card (on Apple Pay) and navigating the trains with Google Maps. Connectivity: Getting an eSIM (Maya or halo) for data. Walking: Prepare to walk a lot (bring comfortable shoes!). 35:00 – Highlights: Kyoto: Ring making class, night tour, and temples. Osaka: Shopping in Dotonbori and the Aquarium. Tokyo: Mario Kart (Shibuya Sky), teamLab Planets, and the Tsukiji Fish Market. 42:10 – Food: Trying matcha, Monjayaki (the pancake dish), and fresh sushi. 45:30 – Final Thoughts: Would she go back? (Yes!) And advice for solo female travelers. Resources & Mentions Transport: Suica Card (add via Apple Wallet), Japan Rail Pass (optional, depending on itinerary). Connectivity: GlobalYo or Maya Mobile (eSIM apps). Apps: Google Maps (essential for trains), Google Translate. Activities: Ring making class (Glänta), TeamLab Planets. 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

5. 

   3 Feb 2026

   Why Your 2026 Vision Board Needs Mental Health on It.

   Episode Summary After an unexpected and longer-than-anticipated break, Tolu is back to kick off 2026! In this chaotic but honest life update, she dives into the main theme for the year: why mental health cannot be an afterthought in your 2026 goals. She shares how stress physically manifests in the body, her new weekly routine for regulation, and practical prompts to help you build a sustainable foundation for the year ahead. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/VKjS3NHRvQEZjCDy7). Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: Welcome to 2026 and addressing the unplanned hiatus. 01:00 – Life Update: The Japan Trip Saga. Picking up Accutane, getting into a car accident en route to the airport, and the shock of the aftermath. 05:40 – The "Lost Episode": Why there was no content from Japan (technical difficulties and needing to unplug). 09:45 – The Dilemma: "I feel like every guy I talk to ghosts me." Dealing with dating fatigue, discouragement, and the internal belief that "something is wrong with me." 12:20 – Advice: Acknowledging that the dating scene is tough right now ("it's the ghetto"), zooming out to see the bigger picture, and why taking a break is valid self-care. 14:10 – Main Topic: Prioritizing Mental Health in 2026. Why it needs to be the foundation for your career, relationships, and physical health. 16:30 – Somatic Awareness: How stress and burnout manifest physically (insomnia, body tension, holding your breath). 17:50 – Resilience over Perfection: Why "falling off the wagon" is part of the process, and how to get back on the horse without guilt. 20:00 – Practical Tips: Tolu’s 2026 Routine structure: Sundays: The Reset Day (Journaling, slow planning, no work). Fridays: Community and Connection days. 22:50 – Reflection Prompts: Three questions to ask yourself to prevent burnout this year. Visit ashay therapy (http://www.ashaytherapy.ca/) to book a therapy session. 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

6. 

   16 Dec 2025

   The Art of a Soft Holiday Season

   Episode Summary Surprise! Due to a scheduling math error, Tolu is back with a bonus episode to close out the month. In this life-update-heavy episode, she reflects on a major career milestone: providing mental health support for the Canadian Race Relations Foundation event in Calgary on November 27. Tolu then tackles a relatable dilemma about outgrowing friendships in your late 20s and 30s, normalizing the grief that comes with drifting apart. Finally, she guides listeners on how to embrace "Winter Tolu"—a version of yourself that prioritizes hibernation, mulled wine, and rest over the hustle. She also shared four powerful journaling prompts to help you reflect before 2026. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/MiYMNQqchGujV8M37). Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: The "Math Error," recording schedules, and how December is flying by. 03:45 – Life Update: Speaking at the Canadian Race Relations Foundation event, imposter syndrome, and finding common ground on difficult topics (AI, hate crime, immigration). 11:15 – The Dilemma: "I feel like I’m outgrowing my friends." Navigating the grief of shifting dynamics and the "7-year friendship cycle." 16:30 – Main Topic: Embracing "Winter Tolu." Why winter requires a different version of you than summer does (and why that is okay). 21:00 – Self-Compassion in Practice: Viewing rest as an act of resistance against grind culture and honoring your humanity over productivity. 24:45 – Practical Soft Life Tips: Tolu’s Mulled Wine Recipe Using coloring and music to regulate the nervous system. Setting boundaries on social obligations during the holidays. 28:10 – Reflection Prompts: Four questions to ask yourself to close out the year with intention. 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

7. 

   2 Dec 2025

   Self Compassion: The Art of Slowing Down & Debunking the Laziness Myth

   In this cozy episode, Tolu welcomes listeners to the "wind-down season" as the year 2025 comes to a close and the first snow falls in Calgary. She shares exciting life updates, including a creative sprint that led to the rebranding of her group therapy practice, Ashay Therapy (http://www.ashaytherapy.ca). The episode tackles a listener's dilemma regarding a supportive but emotionally unavailable partner, offering advice on identifying needs and assessing long-term compatibility. The core of the episode delves into Self-Compassion, specifically tailored for eldest daughters, high achievers, and those battling the "inner critic." Tolu debunks the myths that rest equals laziness and shares practical tools to help reset your nervous system without guilt. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/MiYMNQqchGujV8M37). Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome, weather updates, and embracing the "wind-down" season of 2025. 02:35 – Life Update: The "Creative Sprint," working with a brand designer, and the launch of the new Ashay Therapy website. 10:09 – The Dilemma: Advice for a listener whose partner is supportive but emotionally unavailable. 13:06 – Main Topic: The journey to self-compassion, "Eldest Daughter Syndrome," and overcoming grad school burnout. 14:27: Tolu spoke about how she learnt Self-Compassion in the hard and how her therapist helped her. 17:00 – Busting Popular Myths about Self-Compassion: Myth 1: It means you are lazy (Refutation: It is a nervous system reset). Myth 2: It lowers your standards (Refutation: Rest improves consistency). Myth 3: High achievers don't need it (Refutation: They need it the most). 24:57: Self-Compassion as an act of resistance. Humanity matters than your productivity 26:30 – Tolu highlighted some key points in Bronnie Ware’s The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. 27:20 – Practical Exercises: 5 ways to practice self-compassion, including noticing the inner critic and taking "small pauses" without guilt. 29:50 - Closing Reflection: Give yourself permission to have ease. 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

8. 

   18 Nov 2025

   The Eldest Daughter: The Weight of Being the Responsible One (And Learning to Let Go)

   In this episode, Tolu speaks about the burden of being the "responsible one," often known as "Eldest Daughter Syndrome." As someone with the same experience, she explores why eldest daughters feel "parentified" and breaks down the psychology, cultural layers, and trauma responses behind this dynamic. She also provides practical, actionable tools to help you find support, and help yourself. To submit your anonymous questions, please click this link (https://forms.gle/MiYMNQqchGujV8M37). Show Notes & Timestamps [00:00] Intro & Welcome Back [00:58] Today's Topic Introduction: Tolu introduces the theme of being the "eldest daughter," who is always there for others but rarely gets support in return. [01:54] Segment: Listener Dilemmas Tolu reminds listeners of the anonymous form in the show notes for submitting questions. [02:27] Dilemma #1: Seasonal Burnout A listener shares they're feeling low, and unmotivated, wondering if it's seasonal burnout or something deeper. Tolu's Advice: She discusses the pressure to "finish the year strong" and validates that our bodies are meant to "cocoon" in the winter. She also encourages self-compassion. [05:28] Dilemma #2: The Exhausted Eldest Daughter A listener from an African household shares her exhaustion from being the "strong one" for family and friends. She asks how to set boundaries without feeling guilty. [06:21] Main Topic: Unpacking Eldest Daughter Syndrome Tolu shares her personal experience as an eldest daughter with two younger brothers and how she was conditioned to be a "second mom." [07:46] Key Insight: You begin to "internalize responsibility as your identity." [08:42] The Psychology: Tolu introduces Adlerian Theory (Birth Order Psychology) and how it suggests the oldest child is often more responsible and ambitious. [13:00] It's a Pattern, Not a Personality Flaw Tolu reframes over-functioning as a trauma response and a sign that your nervous system has never felt safe to just "be." [13:50] She introduces the concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS), explaining that we have a "manager part" that tries to keep us safe by getting things done. [15:55] Tip 1: Pause Before You Say Yes. You don't have to give an immediate answer. Use phrases like, "Let me get back to you." [23:40] Tip 2: Shift from "Rescuer" to "Coach." Tolu explains the "Drama Triangle" (Rescuer, Persecutor, Victim). Instead of jumping in to fix the problem, ask coaching questions like, "What might be helpful for you?" or "How can we do this together?" [30:00] Tip 3: Build a Support Circle. Receive the consideration you're always giving. [31:35] Tip 4: Give Yourself Permission to Rest. Tolu lists the different types of rest: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, creative, and sensory. [33:30] Reflection Questions [34:40] Outro & Call to Action Tolu asks listeners to follow, subscribe, and share this episode with another "eldest daughter" who might need to feel seen. Click here (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_/video/7566430198762130700) to watch the video of the Drama Triangle 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

9. 

   4 Nov 2025

   Why I Started For the Rest of Us and What It’s Really About

   Episode 1: Why I Started For the Rest of Us and What It’s Really About In the very first episode, Tolu introduces her new show, "For the Rest of Us," a podcast for everyday people trying to figure life out. Tolu shares the personal and professional journey that led her back to podcasting, what you can expect from the show, and the meaning behind its name. This episode is about new beginnings, finding community, and creating a space to talk about all areas of life that often go unsaid. For questions and opinion (anonymous), click here (https://forms.gle/MiYMNQqchGujV8M37) Show Notes & Timestamps [00:10] Welcome to the First Episode Introducing the "For the Rest of Us" podcast, a space for "everyday people trying to figure it out." [00:44] Meet Your Host, Tolu Tolu shares her background: She is a Nigerian (born in Ibadan) who grew up in Canada. She is a content creator, a therapist, and runs her own group practice. [02:00] How This Podcast Will Work (And a Disclaimer!) Tolu introduces a form (in the show notes) for listeners to anonymously submit questions about life, lifestyle, and mental health. [02:30] Disclaimer: Tolu clarifies that the podcast is not medical advice, and listeners should do their own research. [03:36] The Origin Story: This Isn't Her First Podcast Tolu shares the story of her first podcast, "The Connected Coffee Chats Podcast," which she started in 2019 after being laid off at her former workplace. [04:50] Why the first podcast ended: Life happened. Tolu went to grad school, got her Master's in Counseling Psychology, became a therapist, and started her business. [05:20] The "Nudge" to Return: She explains the persistent urge she felt to bring the podcast back and how she did it. [08:48] Tolu's Work as a Therapist She specializes in working with high-functioning BIPOC women and discusses the unique challenges they face. [09:50] Personal growth: How turning 30 has made her more confident and clear on what she wants. [10:14] Why Relaunch in a "Short Attention Span" World? The desire to create long-form content for more intimate, "chit-chat" conversations. [11:36] A Space for Nuance: The podcast is a space to break traditional therapist boundaries and explore the "grey, messy" parts of life that short-form content can't capture. [12:51] The Meaning Behind the Name: "For the Rest of Us" Tolu explains the name is for "third culture kids" and anyone who has ever felt isolated. It's a reminder: "You are not alone." [14:40] What to Expect from This Podcast Frequency: Bi-weekly episodes, dropping on Tuesdays. Format: Solo episodes to start. [15:15] Upcoming Topics: Burnout, sisterhood, friendship, self-compassion, real self-care (not just bubble baths), relationships, work, etc. [16:20] How to Join the Community Call to Action: Subscribe on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, leave a rating, and share with a friend. Follow the podcast on Instagram and submit your anonymous questions via the form. [17:35] Closing Thoughts & Celebration Tolu encourages listeners to celebrate their own new beginnings and "wins." [18:49] Formal Outro & Disclaimer The podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

10. 

    25 Oct 2025

    Trailer

    "For the Rest of Us" is a new podcast for everyday people trying to figure life out. Host Tolu is here to remind you that you can access ease and peace, even in the middle of life's challenges. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to get by, learning to slow down, or figuring out what healing looks like when you weren't taught to talk about your feelings, this podcast is for you. Join us as we kiki, heal, and grow together. About Your Host: Tolu is a therapist, content creator, and a lover of all things wellness. Her goal is to create a space where you feel seen, understood, and not alone on your journey. In this trailer, you'll hear about: · (0:13) The mission behind "For the Rest of Us": accessing ease and peace while figuring life out. · (0:22) Learning to slow down and unlearn survival mode. · (0:26) The importance of caring for your mind, not just your to-do list. · (0:32) Topics we'll cover: friendships, burnout, lifestyle, self-compassion, and identity. · (0:37) What healing looks like when you weren't taught to talk about your feelings. · (0:42) The vibe of the show: like a coffee chat with a friend who just gets it. Follow & Subscribe: New episodes drop every other week! Follow "For the Rest of Us" so you never miss an episode. For Questions and to send in your Dilemmas - Use this form (https://forms.gle/kCrJ1bCH4CezzRFF9) 🎙️New episodes drop every other week — subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/toluthetherapist) TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@toluadepoju_) Therapy Practice: Ashay Therapy Services (www.ashaytherapy.ca) 💌 Work With Tolu / Collaborations: Reach out via email at: info@toluadepoju.com 🧠 Disclaimer: The conversations and information shared on For the Rest of Us are for educational and informational purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you’re in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or your family doctor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy (https://acast.com/privacy) for more information.

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