We’re not here to tell you when you should and shouldn’t “forgive & forget” but to share our personal stories and have tough conversations on topics we haven’t touched on before. We’re here to talk through a lot of our past, present, and future and learn a little from each other because Marissa may be more forgiving, but Kohen never forgets, which can be argued is to a fault for both of us. We’re trying to meet in the middle of forgiving and forgetting each other, our past selves, relationships, family, and the asshole who is driving 10 under the speed limit in the fast lane.
17. Dear Parents of Queer Kids: the different stages of coming out & examples of gender dysphoria
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
welcome to part 2 of our Dear Parents of Queer Kids series where we talk to specifically to all the parents who are learning, loving, or learning to love their queer kids. This week, let's talk about:
Gender Dysphoria: what it is, who feels it, & what happens
Stages of Coming Out: walking you through the different stages/the cycle of coming out & what that might look like for different folks.
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24 Jan 2025
16. 24 Things We Learned in 2024
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- we're coming together to bring you 24 things 2024 taught us, except there's no way we could EACH come up with 24 things lol.
- We each shared 10 things we learned on our own, then we shared 4 combined things we learned about our relationship last year.
- Kohen was diagnosed with ADHD in 2024, so it was a big year for him.
- We moved into our unfinished skoolie in 2024, so DUH that was big!
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12 Sept 2024
15. Forgive or Forget: family drama gone too far, Eras Tour tickets ended a friendship, & friend groups
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Kohen started a new dangerous hobby & Marissa has already gotten hurt (shocker)
the job search has officially STARTED!
we thrriivveee on burnout lol (oops)
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18 Jul 2024
14. Forgive or Forget: a cheating bf, making a pros & cons list, & phone snooping
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
let's catch up after 2 months of no episodes
we're starting a NEW series that we're PUMPED for omg
Kohen got cold feet before he proposed to me (ouch)
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⏳🎯 hop around ——
0:00 // Intro
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6 Jun 2024
So, Your Kid is Queer. Now What? A Letter to Parents of Queer Kids | ep. 13
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
starting a new open letter series to the parents of queer kids.
answering the most common questions parents typically have when they're wondering if their kid is queer or if their kid just came out to them
we hope that in sharing our experiences as queer kids ourselves we can help parents navigate these tricky times and tricky conversations.
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7 May 2024
The REALITY of Bus Life & Is Bus Life What We Thought it Was Going to be? 3 Weeks Into Bus Life Q&A | ep. 12
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what is the 1st unexpected thing that's happened?
what was something that surprised each of us?
what size bed do we have in the bus?
how does showering work in the bus?
how do we feel about leaving the pets in the bus while we're gone?
what did we think was going to work, but didn't?
is your floor plan working or would you change something?
do we feel settled in yet?
what has been the hardest & easiest things to adjust to so far?
what are some comparisons of bus live vs. apartment life?
what are the items we plan to "collect" during all of our travels?
what's the most surprising thing we've learned since being in the bus?
do we still think we could last a few years?
how do we feel about living in the bus while the reno is still in progress?
what are we most excited to finish on the bus that would make life easier?
how are the packing cubes holding up?
does it feel claustrophobic at all?
do we have wifi in the bus?
how expensive has it been for gas so far?
how is managing all 3 large dogs in a small area?
what has been your favorite thing so far?
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18 Jan 2024
Marissa Disappeared Again...What Was Happening Behind the Scenes & Things She Doesn't Talk About | ep. 11
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Marissa talks about why she ended up not doing Vlogmas this year
Why she ended up taking a month off of socials
TW: low mental health states, depression, anxiety
The importance of motivation and inspiration, even in the lows
Honest chats about Marissa's view of herself, her habits, & her inconsistencies
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4 Jan 2024
23 Things We Learned in 2023 | ep. 10
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Marissa & Kohen each share 10 things they learned from last year
The two bring 3 things they both learned about each other and their relationship from last year
Big life lessons they had to learn the hard way
New hobbies and fun things they learned about themselves
Problem areas in their relationship & plans for not bringing that into 2024
Things we learned that were GOOD and BAD
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23 Nov 2023
Is KOHEN Smarter Than a 5th Grader?! + Judging Your Pet Peeves & Rating "Forgive or Forget" Scenarios | ep. 9
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Marissa has been posting different pet peeve / forgive or forget scenarios on Instagram & today they check in on how yall voted
Some of Marissa's biggest pet peeves
Kohen walks a little too close on the edge of destruction
Marissa surprised Kohen with today's podcast episode with 23 questions from Are You Smarter Than a 5th Grader
Marissa was an AP student while Kohen cheated on his tests
Checking your math, geometry, history, and grammar knowledge lol
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9 Nov 2023
Mental vs. Physical Strength + Some Updates on Becky the Bus! | ep. 8
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Becky the Bus updates
Kohen doesn't like WATER?!
Moving into the bus SOONER?!
Breaking our lease....
Marissa is "mentally" tough & Kohen is "physically" tough
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3 Nov 2023
Stories From Inside the Closet. How Did We NOT KNOW We Were Queer? Lol | ep. 7
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Marissa shares a childhood trigger
Real world application with “Forgive & Forget”
Being scared of the dark
Did Marissa know she was queer when she was little?
Kohen made decisions KNOWING he was queer when he was little
Marissa's elementary school outfit choices (spooky lol)
~signs you may be gay~
Highschool sleepovers
Sending noods in highschool....
Does Kohen really have game???
What is considered game
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24 Oct 2023
Newly ENGAGED Plays NEWLYWED Game. How Well Do We Know Each Other? Who Knows Who BETTER?! | ep. 6
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
The Newlywed Game is a game show that puts newly married couples against each other in a series of revealing question rounds to determine how well the spouses know or do not know each other.
Marissa & Kohen aren't married YET - but let's see how a newly ENGAGED couple scores!
Who knows who BETTER?!
(some of) THE QUESTIONS ——
One thing we will never, ever agree on is ______
How does your partner tell you that they’re in the mood?
Not many people know it but my spouse is really good at ________
What's something that makes your spouse cry?
What is one thing that your spouse has that you'd love to get rid of?
What’s your spouse's worst habit?
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5 Oct 2023
Social Media Isn't a REAL Job... Kohen's 1st Thoughts When He Found Marissa's Social Media, Family Vloggers + Showing Kids on Social Media, & Getting Recognized in Public | ep. 5
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
What did Kohen think at first when he found out Marissa was an "influencer"
Kohen says "infulencing isn't a real job" ?!
Kohen didn't want Marissa to post him at first...
Does Marissa have to date someone "into" social media for it to work?
The controversy that is ~family vloggers~
Would we show our kids on our social media?
People recognizing Marissa in public
What made Kohen want to start making videos?
Things you might not know about content creators...
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28 Sept 2023
Hook Up Culture, Boys vs. Girls Before Going Out, Having a "Roster", & a Hard Pill to Swallow for All Guys lol | ep. 4
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Kohen talks "Recovered F*ck Boy"
Stories from Kohen's ~player days~
Boy brain vs. Girl brain
Breaking down what a "roster" is and why have one
Marissa tells how girls decide to go home with a guy
The "Board Meetings" girls have before going out that guys don't know about
Kohen learns that HE was actually played?!?!
Breaking down Locker Room Talk
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21 Sept 2023
Kohen's a Secret Swiftie, Analyzing the Gaylor Theories, & Reading Your Comments From Past Episodes 🫶🏼 | ep. 3
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
reading your comments from the 1st episode
talking about childhood bullies & speech impediments
the "24 & 48 Hour" rule
is it a one off? or a habit?
another ~Marissa Morsel~
Kohen is a secret Swiftie!
Marissa finally has a fav reality TV - but it's not what you think lol
Kohen actually MET Taylor Swift herself...
Friday the 13th is no longer spooky...it's for The Eras Tour movie
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14 Sept 2023
This Saved Our Relationship, One Of Our First Fights, & Our Different Confrontation Styles | ep. 2
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
Where did we come up with the podcast name?
How do we use this phrase in our relationship?
Avoiding confrontation isn't going to save you
There's no such thing as over communication
A peek into one of our first fights
The Barbie movie wasn't made for you...sorry
We're here for the girls, gays, and they's
Trader Joe's is gay
Assuming only makes an as* out of you and me
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7 Sept 2023
SURPRISE! Confidence vs. Cockiness, Projecting Your Insecurities, Kohen's Concussions, & Teasers of What's to Come! | ep. 1
👩🏼🍳🌶️ on the menu this week ——
SURPRISE, welcome to yet ~another~ couples podcast (but this one's going to be your favorite)
Our hot takes on Confidence vs. Cockiness & when do you cross that line?
Marissa takes "hurt people, hurt people" one step further to explain ~psychologically~ why people tear others down
Who's more likely to FORGIVE and who's more likely to FORGET?
Kohen tells the story of how Marissa embarrassed him on her front porch
Teasers of future episodes you can expect.
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Apple Podcasts (US)
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3 ratings
Spotify
4.9 / 5
11 ratings
Podcast Authority Score: 35 / 100
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Social presence
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YouTube
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Engagement
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