Friendship endings affect us deeply, yet no one really talks about them.
Friendings throws some much-needed light on this subject so that we feel less alone than we already do without that one friend in our lives.
Through this gentle exploration we can learn to be better friends, especially to ourselves as we come to know our own values and motivations, limitations and boundaries better through these vital relationships.
Host, Sabina Schaare, shares stories of the friendings that she’s still grieving and making sense of, and her broader thoughts on the nature of friendship and friendship break-ups.
Additional perspectives and experiences provided by podcast guests who bravely and generously share stories of friendship break-ups they continue to ponder.
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Taking responsibility in friendship with special guest, Ruby Johnson
Guest insights: The show welcomes expert breathwork facilitator and trainer, Ruby Johnson. Ruby is the founder of the College of Wholistic Education and creator of the field of Wholistic Psychonomy, a transformational modality that empowers people to take control of their lives and become their own healer. She operates primarily in Adelaide and the Gold Coast, Australia. We speak about taking responsibility for ourselves in friendship and beyond, courageous conversations and how victimhood is not possible when there is trust. Ruby is nothing if not a straight shooter and I so appreciate her honesty. I hope you do, too!
References:
To get trained by Ruby, check out the College for Wholistic Education website (http://www.wholisticpsychonomy.com/)
Follow Ruby on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/wholisticpsychonomy/) and Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/wholisticpsychonomybyrubyjohnson)
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4 Jun 2024
Motherhood and Friendship
Sabina shares: My experience of friendship has changed so much since becoming a mother. Makes sense given my experience of virtually everything, including myself, has as well!
References:
Alanis Morissette on Mom & Mind podcast (YouTube (https://youtu.be/-tf4L_jSUXs?feature=shared))
Conversation with Alanis Morissette podcast (https://alanis.com/podcasts)
Donald Winnicott’s Good Enough Parenting (https://panda.org.au/articles/good-enough-parenting/) concept
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR Institute (https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/))
Emotional Freedom Technique – TED Talk (https://www.ted.com/talks/peta_stapleton_is_therapy_facing_a_revolution) by Dr Peta Stapleton
Fleishman is in Trouble by Taffy Brodesser-Akner (Penguin Random House (https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/573460/fleishman-is-in-trouble-by-taffy-brodesser-akner/))
Fleishman is in Trouble miniseries official trailer (https://youtu.be/2jyBu4xGeH4?feature=shared)
The Nuclear Family was a Mistake by David Brooks (The Atlantic (https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/03/the-nuclear-family-was-a-mistake/605536/))
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6 May 2024
Spirituality of Friendship with special guest, Suzanne Pfitzner - Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Astrologer
Guest insights and share: The show welcomes Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Consulting Astrologer, Suzanne Pfitzner. We discuss all manner of things thanks to Suzanne’s breadth of knowledge and experience: the way our astrological charts can influence how we show up in friendship; the spiritual text, A Course in Miracles, and how applying its principles provides a new and ultimately freeing way of looking at our friendships; and also using Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbour Worksheet to see how what we’re thinking and believing is the cause of our suffering. Suzanne also shares her story of a recent friending and how she has been making sense of it since. I so enjoyed this conversation and I hope you do, too.
References:
The Work of Byron Katie (https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/)
No Bad Parts (https://ifs-institute.com/store/419) by Richard E Schwartz (I recommend the audiobook)
A Course in Miracles (https://acim.org/acim/en)
Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter (https://www.instagram.com/monday.painter/)
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
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31 Mar 2024
"Norah Jones"
Guest share: Amy charts the course of her most important friendship, from its early hedonistic days to what could be its end... if she lets it. Themes include the impact of a friend's partner's behaviour on the friendship, changing life stages, the perils of mixing friendship and money especially without clear boundaries, and how clearly we are able to see our friend and the nature of the friendship itself to then inform how we wish to proceed.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
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1 Mar 2024
Psychology of friendship with special guest Dr Ahona Guha
The show welcomes clinical and forensic psychologist, Dr Ahona Guha, to provide her unique professional insights into how to navigate factors such as trauma, attachment styles and other unconscious coping strategies that can show up between friends. Don’t miss this one!
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
References:
Life Skills for a Broken World (https://scribepublications.com.au/books-authors/books/life-skills-for-a-broken-world-9781922585950) by Dr Ahona Guha (2024)
Reclaim – Understanding complex trauma and those who abuse (https://scribepublications.com.au/books-authors/books/reclaim-9781922585684) by Dr Ahona Guha (2023)
Follow Dr Ahona Guha on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/drahonaguha/)
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29 Dec 2023
'Katharine Hepburn'
Sabina shares: Here it goes... I'm finally talking about ‘the big one’, the friendship break-up from 25 years ago that I still grieve and which inspired this show.
This was a childhood friendship affected by a change of schools, and spans our coming of age. Themes include self-acceptance, inability to identify and articulate feelings as they arise leading to a tendency to lash out.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
References:
Platonic by Marisa G. Franco (https://drmarisagfranco.com/platonic-the-book/)
Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown (https://adriennemareebrown.net/book/emergent-strategy/)
I Don't by Clementine Ford (https://www.allenandunwin.com/browse/book/Clementine-Ford-I-Don)
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1 Dec 2023
'Pink'
Guest share: Claire shares her feelings of loss over a friendship that appeared to be fading, and confusion and disappointment at her friend’s avoidance when she tried to talk about her friend pulling away. Themes include passive-aggressive tendencies, expectations and gaslighting.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
References:
Emotional Freedom Technique – TED Talk by Dr Peta Stapleton (https://www.ted.com/talks/peta_stapleton_is_therapy_facing_a_revolution)
The Work of Byron Katie (https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/)
No Bad Parts by Richard E. Schwartz (https://ifs-institute.com/store/419) (I recommend the audiobook so you can listen to sessions)
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3 Nov 2023
'Patti Smith'
Guest share: What happens when your friend develops feelings for the guy you fancy? Get set for a unique story about connection in the time of covid, fledgling friendships and, of course, shared crushes.
Themes include work friendships, online communication, dancing around the issue.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
Book reference:
Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown (https://adriennemareebrown.net/book/emergent-strategy/)
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27 Oct 2023
'Frida Kahlo'
Guest share: Friendings welcomes another podcast guest whose story charts the ups and downs of a lifelong friendship and its heartbreaking conclusion. Despite the deeply felt loss, there is much joy and laughter in this sharing. Themes include childhood friendship, supporting versus enabling, grief.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
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20 Oct 2023
A Conversation Between Friends
I invited my friend, Kesia, to record a Friendings share but this episode isn’t it. We kept chatting and kept recording and magic happened! We discuss our shared experience of being women of colour in Australia, the Australian referendum on an Indigenous Voice to Parliament and whether or not it’s okay to ghost a friend.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
Audiobook reference:
Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown (https://www.audible.com.au/pd/Emergent-Strategy-Audiobook/1849354545?source_code=SEMPP30DTRIAL452080323000T&ipRedirectOverride=true&noapp=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwysipBhBXEiwApJOcu31SZmEOe7sBwdz4IuYuBzqQpiU76nFs1VQhzxKZ-88VLbz5mC8dMxoCSQUQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds)
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29 Sept 2023
'Chrissie Hynde'
Sabina shares: I have mixed feelings about this friending, where my ultimate decision to let the friendship go gives me pause to consider exactly what kind of friend I am and what we owe each other once a friendship has run its course. Themes include mum friends, post-natal struggles, divorce, expectations, boundaries.
Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
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22 Sept 2023
'Britney'
Guest share: Friendings welcomes its first podcast guest who shares about a breakup with a best friend from her 20’s. There are a host of factors at play in this friending that point to the many challenges friendships seem to be faced with in these modern times. Themes include sexuality and heteronormative expectations, supporting versus enabling, feeling excluded, sustaining a friendship through changing lifestyles.
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14 Sept 2023
Philosophy of friendship
Sabina shares: Today we look at some philosophical thought relating the sorts of things we tend to base our friendships on and how that may impact how we process friendship loss. Sparked by an episode on ABC’s Philosopher’s Zone podcast (https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/philosopherszone/friendship/102638778) that discusses how the philosophers Aristotle and Mary Astell considered friendship. Themes include aspects such as utility, pleasure and self-development that can define our friendships, and recognising chemistry with potential new friends.
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8 Sept 2023
'Madonna'
Sabina shares: Welcome to my first 'friending' (friendship ending) share. I tell the story of a friendship – its highs and lows – and how it came to an end. In the almost five years since, I’ve thought a lot about what unfolded between us in the end and, with time, I think I’ve gained a fuller perspective on what was going on for me at the time and also what may have been going on for her. Themes include post natal challenges, feeling out of alignment with a friend, boundaries, holding stuff in until you finally explode.
Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show (https://www.instagram.com/friendings.show/)
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5 Sept 2023
Welcome to Friendings
Hello and welcome to Friendings, a show that makes it okay to talk about friendships that have ended and the loss we often feel as a result. Let's reflect, learn and heal together.
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