June 16, 2026
The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One | S2024
<p>Ever feel like you're crushing it on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside? I know that feeling well, and so does my guest, Rebecca Lazzelle.</p><p>Rebecca Lazzelle shares her journey from Lean Six Sigma Black Belt and senior corporate leader to energy healing practitioner, author, and retreat host. What started as a search for relief from chronic pain became a much deeper exploration of emotional healing, self-worth, and the hidden cost of always holding it together. After surviving a traumatic relationship, a domestic violence incident, PTSD, panic attacks, and the loss of nearly every external marker of success, she found herself facing a hard truth: achievement alone wasn't enough.</p><p>We talk about the difference between striving and becoming, why high performers often hide their pain the best, and how healing rarely comes from one dramatic breakthrough. Instead, it comes from small choices made consistently over time. Rebecca shares how mindfulness, energy work, therapy, EMDR, writing, and self-compassion helped her rebuild her life from the inside out.</p><p>If you've been carrying more than anyone knows, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to keep holding it all together. Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is let go.</p><p><strong>Key Takeaways</strong>:</p><ul><li>A shocking turning point reveals how unresolved patterns can escalate far beyond what we expect. </li><li>Why high performers often become experts at hiding pain while appearing successful. </li><li>The hidden cost of "holding it together" and how it eventually impacts every area of life. </li><li>A powerful distinction between achieving more and becoming more. </li><li>The simple one-step approach that makes personal transformation feel possible again.</li></ul><br/><p><strong>About Guest:</strong></p><p>For most of my life, I was highly functional. I built a successful career in leadership and transformation work. I could manage complexity, guide teams through change, keep moving, and multitask, even when things were hard.</p><p>Even before my personal life unraveled, I was drawn to efficient, body-based healing methods. The Emotion Code and Body Code appealed to me for the same reason process improvement always had: they work directly with root causes, not endless analysis.</p><p>Then my personal life collapsed.</p><p>I experienced domestic-violence-related betrayal trauma that didn't just break my heart. It broke my sense of safety, identity, and trust in myself. I understood what had happened cognitively. I went to therapy. I did "the work." And still, my body stayed on high alert. The anxiety, the tension, the looping patterns, the panic attacks, they didn't resolve.</p><p>That's when the difference became undeniable.</p><p>Insight helped me understand the story, but it didn't settle my nervous system. The somatic and energy-based work I had already respected became essential, along with other tools I discovered along the way. It supported what cognition alone could not: restoring safety in the body. Over time, my nervous system softened, physical tension eased, and old patterns lost their grip. I didn't become a new person, I returned to myself.</p><p>Today, my work sits at the intersection of lived experience and embodied energy healing. I help people whose lives look fine on the outside but feel unsafe on the inside reconnect with their bodies, rebuild self-trust, and release patterns that didn't start with them through committed energy-healing work and intimate wellbeing retreats.</p><p>Healing isn't just about letting go of physical discomfort; it's about remembering who we truly are beneath the weight of trapped emotions and trauma. I believe each of us deserves to feel light, connected, and alive; to be our true selves. My work is devoted to helping people rediscover and feel that freedom</p><p>Book launch: July 9 ,2026</p><p>Journal launch: July 16, 2026</p><p>Her website: <a href="https://www.rebeccalazzelle.com/events" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.rebeccalazzelle.com/events</a></p><ul><li>24-hour US Domestic Violence hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)</li><li>US Domestic Violence hotline Text: Text “START” to 88788</li><li>Website: <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.thehotline.org/</a></li><li>You can also find a domestic violence agency in your area by searching <a href="https://www.domesticshelters.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.domesticshelters.org</a></li><li>Domestic Violence Help in the UK:<a href="https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help</a></li><li>Domestic Violence Help in Australia: <a href="https://1800respect.org.au/violence-and-abuse/domestic-and-family-violence" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://1800respect.org.au/violence-and-abuse/domestic-and-family-violence</a></li></ul><br/><p><strong>About Rebecca:</strong></p><p>In 2008, I blew up my life in spectacular fashion. I left a cult, got divorced, and for a time, lost even the few people I had leaned on. I thought greener grasses awaited me. I was wrong. Despite building a wildly successful digital marketing business, remarrying and growing my family to four kids, I felt nothing but dread each morning.</p><p>Then came what I now call Epiphany Town. It was that electric moment when I stopped defining my life by what happened to me and began building on purpose. That phase lit me up in a way I had never felt. Now I devote every ounce of my energy to guiding others through their own version of Epiphany Town. I help them find the barriers that are actually holding them back, finally let go of self-sabotaging stories, and leap into a life that is meaningful and deeply fulfilling.</p><p>I believe each of us has a story to tell, a gift to offer, and a life worth waking up for. Whether your goal is to impact one person or a million, I am here to help you see your place, claim your voice, and live your life on your terms.</p><p><u><a href="https://rebeccamountain.ca/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://rebeccamountain.ca/</a></u> </p><p></p><p><strong>Thanks for listening!</strong></p><p>Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.</p><p>Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!</p><p><strong>Subscribe to the podcast</strong></p><p>If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can follow the podcast on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app.</p><p><strong>Leave us an Apple Podcasts review</strong></p><p>Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. 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